How to Build Self-Control in 3 Simple Steps

Do you want to learn self-control? These

three simple tactics will actually help

you build it in real life. Number one,

create a pause between impulse and

action. Your impulse comes from your

emotional brain. Like you see a cake and

before you even think, you eaten it.

It's like your emotional brain has

hijacked your logical brain. But if you

force yourself to pause for 5 seconds,

just 5 seconds, your logical brain will

wake up. That tiny pause will give you a

moment to choose. Number two,

prereddecide what to do when you feel

the urge to do something. See, if your

brain doesn't know what to do next,

it'll go right back to eating that cake,

right? That's why you need a plan that's

easily executable. For example, uh if I

feel like eating sugar, I'll drink warm

water. Now, your brain doesn't have to

think about what it has to do. It just

has to execute the plan. The most

important thing is after drinking the

water, you need to convince your brain

that it is good for yourself. Number

three, have a mental script. Prepare a

mental script for such tempting

situations. You can even reinforce this

process like I paused when I got an

impulse and then I chose what's good for

me and this will help me grow. It's like

you are training your brain to see the

end benefit. It will rewire your brain

and build your self-control muscle.