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that she feels scared and lonely and

that she is fighting for survival and it

was the first time that I truly

connected with her if we're getting into

self- narrative and you're trying to

figure out yourself or someone else's

narrative you want to ask the question

it sounds innocuous but it's not what

book movie or TV character is most like

you and why it's kind of a silly like

dinner party question it's like sort of

sounds casual but the answer to this

question is so incredibly important and

here's an example how someone relates to

characters their values or personality

is how they see themselves and people's

answers will shock you I'll give you one

example I was friends with someone for

six years one of my closest friends saw

them all the time weekends we went on

out we went on weekend trips together I

thought I knew her so well I was like I

know her I asked her this question and I

hypothesize this is all my research for

my next book I was like I hypothesize

she's a mom of three super funny super

Savvy I was like she's going to pick a

great like TV mom character you know

that that that's super Savvy and funny

as her she thinks about it for maybe one

second and goes Katniss everin from the

from the Hunger

Games I was like the one who's like

fighting for her life she's like yeah

that's how I feel every day and we for

the first time in six years had a

conversation about how she feels about

her day that was totally different than

anything I had ever known that she feels

scared and lonely and that she is

fighting for survival

and it was the first time that I truly

connected with her