Stop Being A People Pleaser - Dr Julie #shorts

if you see yourself as a bit of a people

pleaser i'm a psychologist and i want

you to imagine for a moment that this is

you

every time you allow someone to trample

over your boundaries in order to be

liked by them

it's a bit like doing this

and every time you change yourself just

to keep others happy

it's like that and when you betray your

own values just to fit in

it's a bit like doing that so you tell

yourself it's not a big deal but over

time those small betrayals chip away at

your sense of self so that when life

demands that you show up as you there

are so many gaps that you don't even

know who you are anymore

you're not sure who you want to be or

what matters most to you because you've

spent so much of your life putting

everyone else first

but before things come tumbling down

completely there is a way forward you

see when you start to prioritize

yourself the way that you do with

everyone else and every time you hold a

boundary so that you can live by your

own values it takes time but brick by

brick

you can start to rebuild