Pay Attention To Your Self Judgement

so I was working with someone else who

was once dating someone who was less

attractive than they were less

attractive in a lot of Dimensions so a

woman who was dating a man who was not

as physically attractive made 15% as

much money as the female partner and the

female uh the lady was my patient she's

like I don't know what I'm doing with

this guy like why don't you break up

with him I don't know right the more

that we get to it the more that we

realize that she actually likes him

that's why she stays with him some

Primal part of her some deeper part of

her is like I like this person he makes

me happy and dated lots of people who

are more successful who don't make me

happy he prioritizes me he cares about

me he makes me laugh what's the problem

the problem is the self- Judgment the

problem is I should be with this kind of

person the problem is the societal

conditioning so if you want to

understand what you like there's a

really really really good thing that you

can do which is pay attention to your

self- judgment and what you will find is

some of the things that you love the

most are things that you judge yourself

harshly for