Why Toxic People Are Making Life Harder Than It Should Be | Vanessa Van Edwards #shorts #shortvideo

and this is why toxic people are so

challenging because toxic people put us

out of Integrity toxic people Force us

to use warm cues where we don't feel

like it now we can do it what do you

mean we got to be nice to them or

something yeah so like if you have a

toxic person and this is the thorn and

and I think our work is I want everyone

to be their best selves I want them to

show up as their warmest most confident

self but what if you have a toxic person

how do you do that authentically and

this is what's so hard about toxic

people you have a colleague or cooworker

or family member yeah that you don't

like right and you have to break out the

fake warmth cues oh hi how are you right

and so what do we do we fake smile right

so oh it's so good to see you right look

like it right or we say oh yeah so how

oh that sounds good

congratulations right now your La roots

are coming back to you and right that's

why talk to people challenge us is

because they come into our lives we know

we're supposed to be warm and so we try

to force that warm sound and it comes

out sort of forc and it makes us feel

bad and then we're trying to

overcompensate for it and so you know

what the antidote here is not learning

more fake warmth cues it's it's time to

get rid of toxic people