Why men turn pain into anger @OfficialFlagrant

So men do something very special with

anger. We turn all of our negative

emotions into anger, which is why men

are so angry.

>> Oh, sadness has high visibility, high

auditory stuff, right?

>> Yeah.

>> You can see someone is sad. You can hear

someone is sad. It is a signal for help.

When you feel like you can't handle the

world around you, that's literally what

sadness does. Now, when a man needs

help, what does society do? Right?

>> Grow up. Mhm. Make fun of you,

>> right? What are you crying about? Men

are privileged.

>> I'll give you something to cry about.

>> There's one really troubling thing in

our society right now, which is that we

expect men to solve their own problems.

We don't help men. I think 60 plus% of

people in college are women, but there's

no male only scholarships or very few,

right? We're not trying to fix that

problem. Male suicide has been four

times the rate of female suicide for the

last 60 plus years. That's not a problem

that there's any real systemic movement

around, right? So, we expect men to help

themselves. So, what men learn is that

when I cry, it doesn't work. And so what

we do is we turn it into anger because

when I

>> the only masculine way

>> and it's not even about masculine

acceptability. I think it even goes

deeper than that. What is the purpose of

anger? What is anger?

>> Like rectifying injustice.

>> Okay. So rectifying, right? So sadness

makes me do what?

>> Cry.

>> And that makes me do what?

>> Get help. Nothing.

>> Nothing in America.

>> Nothing. Right. So sadness is like I'm

not doing the problem. You guys fix it.

>> It's a dead end.

>> Okay.

>> But what does anger make me do?

>> Rectify. Now I'm going to do it. Now I'm

going to show them. Anger is a

motivating emotion. Right? So anytime we

feel angry, feel like doing something,

right? And often times when people get

really really angry, we tell them don't

do anything. But what do you want to do

when you get pissed? Oh gosh. Anything.

Everything. All of it. Right? So it's a

so this is where what we've learned as

men is like, okay, the sadness signal

doesn't work. So instead, what I'm going

to do is I'm going to transmute that

into anger. And once it gets transmuted

into anger, now I have the motivation to

fix this problem because ain't no one

going to fix it for