"30% of women who break a hip don't make it" | Mel Robbins #Shorts

you know what Mel I don't mean to cry in

public

but I am still a practicing

surgeon I have looked into the eyes of

more than a 100,000 people in my

lifetime as a doctor and I started as a

cancer nurse right but I see the future

of people today every day when I take

call and this is what it is and I've got

to solve for this you and I have got to

solve for this when your Aunt Mary

breaks her hip and I'm called to the

hospital hit bed to see her she is

laying there in excruciating pain balled

up at the bottom of the bed with that

horrible blue gown on that we put people

in and she doesn't want to be moved up

because it hurts too much right from

bones that she never even paid attention

to never knew she had cuz we ignored it

and now they're screaming that's number

one number two what's happened to her is

she's laying there in a pile of her own

urine because she was not treated for

the gyoo urin syndrome of menopause our

pelvic floor got weak so many women do

not talk about the fact that they become

incontinent in late in life and have

urinary tract infection so she's painful

she is incontinent which if she even

realizes it is pretty she feels ashamed

about that I need to do a 45 minute

surgery on her where because she's

broken her hip I need to put a rod down

that the size of my thumb

actually I cannot do that if her heart

is not healthy enough to withstand

anesthesia and many times her heart is

so unhealthy because she's taking care

of everybody else in the world except

herself that the hospitalists have a

hard time clearing her heart and do you

know what else she either has a touch of

Dementia or she has full-blown

Alzheimer's that is the state of women

that I see every time I go to fix a hip

on call and do you know in her Lucid

moments what she is saying to me she is

standing there with her daughter It's

usually the eldest at the bedside she's

say she's looking at me she's looking at

her daughter and Time After Time Again

she'll say something like I've not

always been like this I don't know how I

got here don't ever let this happen to

you don't get old I am not blaming her

at all I see the future of women Mel I

can't not not cry if we know we have

within our hands it changes the

trajectory of our future and if we uh

choose to not be the victims of the

passage of time we don't have to end up

like all those women I take care of 30%

of whom after they break a hip will die

we can choose another path but it takes

conscious effort and a belief that we

are worth it

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