Stop saying, "I have anxiety." | Mel Robbins with Oprah #Shorts

I want you to never say I have

anxiety ever. Okay? Because then you

become defined by it. Okay? I want you

to say either I feel anxious or I feel

alarmed because

of whatever the situation is. Correct?

Got it. Because what happens with

anxiety, Oprah, is that you have a

moment where you feel a little uncertain

about something, whether it's work or a

relationship or a conversation or day

ahead or the problems that you're

facing. And the uncertainty isn't the

problem. And the alarm going off because

there is uncertainty isn't the problem.

The problem is that you doubt your

capacity and capability to deal with it.

Exactly. And this is where Thank you for

that clarification. And and wait to hear

this. Yeah. All anxiety, Oprah, is

separation anxiety. This comes from Dr.

Russell Kennedy, who has a PhD and an MD

and specializes in anxiety. All anxiety

is separation anxiety. Because what we

do, and this is the mistake I made for

decades, is I would feel on edge about

something and then I'd start going, "I'm

anxious. I'm anxious." Hey. And then I

would go up here, neck up. Uh-huh. And

when you go neck up up into your

thoughts, you start to think about how

you're feeling and the alarm gets worse.

Yes. Yeah. One one begets the other.

Begets begets. Now, here's where the

separation part comes in.

What do you separate from? Yeah. What?

Yourself, your power, and

source. Where is your power, yourself,

and source located? Not up here.

down

here. The way that you actually deal

with anxiety, and I didn't know this for

35, 40 years, is you don't go up here.

You actually drop into your body and

your body has a onoff switch that can

turn off the alarm of anxiety. It's

called the Vegas nerve. I didn't know

any of this. Anybody can turn the switch

on or off. The vagus nerve runs from

your seat through every organ up through

your vocal cords to the top of your

head. And if you know how to tone the

vagus nerve by you can press your hand

on your heart. You can breathe certain

ways. The vocal cord, it goes through

your vocal cords. It's very hard to feel

anxious in church when you're singing a

hymn. Why? Because as you're singing, it

stimulates the vagus nerve, which acts

like a tuning fork to tune to your body

that you're actually okay. And as you're

singing, you're not up here. You're

dropping into here. And you connect back

with your power and with source and with

God and with your capability to face

anything in life. It's not up here, it's

in here. Correct.