Jordan Peterson on handling arguments with your partner

so like if you're arguing with your wife

let's say or your husband

big party is going to want to win

that's stupid because if you win you get

to be top lobster but they get to be

bottom lobster and if you want to live

with bottom lobster then like more power

to you but i wouldn't recommend it right

because you don't want that you want to

you want to defeat your wife in an

argument oh well great like if she was

going to disappear tomorrow no problem

but like you're going to like live with

defeated miserable her for the next week

that's no good so you listen and you

think okay well here's here's what you

what i think you said and maybe even

make it a little stronger and more

elaborated than was the case with the

original utterance so that you get the

damn argument right because you don't

want to win you want to fix the problem

that's the winning

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