You are not who you think you are

All the great teachers all down through

history have all agreed on we become

what we think about.

Dr. Maxwell Maltz discovered the

self-image concept as we know it today

at in 1960 he was a plastic surgeon and

u he realized he he was operating on

people he may removed a you know a nasty

scar from their face and he noticed

sometimes when he removed the scar or

maybe did a nose job on them or

something there was a great

psychological change took place in the

person they where they may have been

introverted they started to become very

gregarious and outgoing and he

postulated that there There must be two

images that we have an exterior image

and we also have an inner selfimage.

>> And he started to study this and he

wrote a magnificent book on it called

psychocybernetics

and he explains how every one of us has

an image in our mind of our self and

it's called a self-image.

Too many people don't know much about

themsel and so they don't have a very

good image of themselves and you'll

often notice that people will shy away

from you. They won't look you in the

eye. They'll look down or look up.

They'll never try to do anything of any

great consequence because they don't

think they can. They have a poor

self-image.

>> Part of that is because through school

we're told about we don't do well, we

failed here, we had low grades or 60% or

whatever.

>> Yeah. I think that um but yes, if we're

told we're not very good, you're just

like your dad, you know, you're a bum,

you're never going to do well, you

didn't go to school, you can't win,

>> that's all that's that's all false. We

can do anything and we should be

encouraging a child. Give him a pat on

the back rather than a kick. Okay. What

can we do members of our viewing

audience right now that most of us walk

around with some degree of a self-image.

Is that fair to say?

>> We all have a self-image.

>> Okay. Would you say most of us have a

have a negative self-image to some

degree?

>> Well, let's say we can all improve our

self-image. I don't care how good your

image is. You can improve it.

>> Okay. How can we improve it?

If a person would sit down and let their

body relax, totally relax, okay, and

then start to visualize in their mind,

see themselves the way they want to see

themselves, and see how you'd like to

live your life. See yourself living it

that way.

>> Okay?

>> Now, understand that that's a picture in

your mind. When you pick up a book, the

book is nothing but a picture that an

author has painted in words. Van Go, the

great artist, was asked one time how he

did such beautiful work. He said, "I

dream my painting and then I paint my

dream." To get the picture of the mind,

then paint it on the wall or on the

canvas. Well, if we would relax, build

the image in our mind of how we'd like

to see oursel.

>> Mhm.

>> How we'd like to see oursel acting in

life, relating to other people, our

social life. Take that picture and

describe it. Write it out in the present

tense. I am so happy now that I see

myself. And write it out.

Now, a lot of people will laugh at this

and say, "It doesn't make any sense." It

makes a lot of sense. They can't tell

you why it doesn't. I could spend hours

telling you why it does, and I could

explain it in such detail that everyone

would understand it. But write out a

description of how you'd like to see

yourself. Start to read it and read it

and read it and read it every day. Carry

it around and keep reading it.

The one point that all the great

teachers all down through history have

all agreed on. They've been in complete

unanimous agreement on it. We become

what we think about. Now, it may be

fantasy at first. It might even appear

to us as being a lie.

>> But if you read it often enough, you'll

start to believe it. And when William

James said, "Believe and your belief

will create fact." You will see the

person's personality change. I watch

people in the seminars personality

change right in front of my eyes. And

all they're doing is starting to see

themselves different. They're starting

to think different thoughts.

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