Stop Being the "Filler Friend"

if you are in a group and people are

making plans about stuff and they don't

seem to be including you you can say hey

that sounds awesome is it an open

invitation is it cool if I come you can

just ask and pay attention to your

reaction to doing that right everyone's

like oh my God and look who's got a case

of the what ifs look you've got a case

of the what ifs that's why you're the

filler friend and if they say you can't

come or it's not an open invitation then

that's totally fine right you know that

these people are not interested in you

you're not stuck feeling like a filler

friend and people may think oh my God

like who's this weirdo who's inviting

himself he's not inviting himself or

she's not inviting herself she's just

asking could you come along right and

then here's the follow-up if they say

yeah sure you can come

cool