Why Do You Lose Attraction to Someone?

This happens often when people are

dating. You could find someone

attractive or unattractive on first

meeting. Yeah. And then as you get to

know them, maybe you thought they were

attractive to begin with and that just

goes away. Or you felt that they weren't

that attractive to begin with, but as

you get to know their character, let's

say, then the perception itself shifts.

It's not merely the theory of mind or

the conception you have of them, right?

You literally look at them differently.

You know, like someone graceful, for

example, you're obviously perceiving

something like a gestalt, and there's

something charming and beautiful about

that. My guess is if you see a person of

high character across time, you can see

their integration. That would allow you

to perceive their attractiveness in a

way that you might not have been able to

do superficially.