How To Actually Communicate

so see one of the biggest mistakes we

make in communication is we listen to

someone's response as a measure of

whether our words are getting through or

not so if I say something and someone

doesn't responds in a negative way my

words aren't getting through incorrect

so I recently ran an experiment in this

game called Dota 2 and I calibrated my

rank based on two different accounts one

where I was talking and one where I was

and one of the key things that I

observed when I was doing this is that

often times when I communicate no one

will say anything but it has an impact

I'll ask people what character they want

me to pick in the draft and often times

no one says anything but even the fact

that I ask them hey what do youall want

me to pick signals to everybody else

that I'm willing to be collaborative I'm

willing to be cooperative I'm trying to

improve your game I'm open to feedback

transforms the rest of the game even

though they say nothing and so

communication is slow a lot of people

say it doesn't work it may have some

small impact you just have to give it

time so don't give up