Why Men Dislike Couples Therapy

so we're okay with men being sad

thankfully but we're not okay with them

expressing other emotions because those

are those are weak those are toxic

masculine especially the anger one that

one's the one that's the craziest it's

also the emotion that men have the most

access to so when we say we're going to

emotionally accept men we're going to

emotionally accept a minority of your

emotional experience right so just to

give you all an example if you have a

relationship with there are two people

and one person gets angry and one person

cries what is the Judgment that we place

on those negative emotions what we

always do is we value the sadness over

the anger we don't say that you have a

right to be angry if you're angry and

this person is crying you did something

bad we place a value on sadness that is

above anger and if two negative emotions

Collide sadness always wins and then if

we look at differentials in the way that

different genders express emotions women

are more likely to cry and men are more

likely to get angry and this is why men

are scared to go to coup's therapy

because they are outgunned because we

don't treat all negative emotions the

same