3 Overcome The Fear Of Being Seen Training

guys and if anyone wants to like raise

their hand and we'll do like actual

coaching now. So, I would love to know

like yeah like what some of your

intentions were and if anyone was

feeling like holy [ __ ] like is that even

possible for me or like I'm nervous

about that or um like but I don't want

to do that or how do I get that like I

would love to know some of the internal

voices that are coming up for some of

you um and let's move through some of

this stuff and I'll teach you a couple

of different processes uh for how we can

overcome this fear of like showing up of

being a personal brand of being seen and

you know it's going to be different for

everyone like when we did seeing with

Kylie, it was really interesting to note

how what came up for so many people was

actually the imposter syndrome more than

anything. I was like, "Oh, that's really

interesting." So, um I would love to

know what's coming up for you guys now

that you have decided what it is that

you want to get out of this. So, if you

want to go first, um if you want to

raise your hand or just like pop in the

chat like me and then we can just go

orderly. Let's do let's do the chat cuz

then we have a running order. So,

whoever wants to go first and and share

like what's coming up for them and we'll

do some coaching. Um, Beza wants to go

first. Awesome.

>> Yeah, if you just write me like we'll

just go next. Um, and then so we'll go

Beza, Katherine, Rachel, Peter, Pip.

Great. We've got an order. Done. Cool.

So, I'll bring Beza on if you want to

just like Okay. So, you can turn your

camera on. We can see you.

>> Okay.

Um, I'm sleeping

already.

So,

um, can you see me?

>> Yes. Awesome. So my um question is like

uh when I'm trying to

when I'm working my coaching I am so

grounded and connected and uh I'm really

in my power

>> but when I'm coming to um to my

like coming to Facebook or like doing

something like you know whatever written

or

in and onetoone or I mean in really live

>> um it's impossible like I mean like kind

of small groups or something like that

so how can I

um handle that and like kind of

um

>> so um now is your question to clarify is

your question that you find it easy to

show up on video and and speaking but

that you find it challenging to write or

is your question that you find it

challenging to be witnessed in in groups

like this for example.

Um

the the the one which I was asking you

was then to to to be in the uh in the

I'm practicing in one of my Facebook

group one of my coaching uh Facebook

group every you know every one day or

two days or something like that. Um I'm

getting better but like um when I'm just

whatever I'm writing like is it going

going to be crazy? Is it am I make it

happen or like this worries and what

will the other people will say about me

and how they will judge me and if I I

really really express myself and bring

out all the things what I am and what

will happen to me and what will happen.

>> Awesome. Okay, great question. Totally.

Totally. And who else can resonate with

this? So what Bez has said is like if I

share what I really want to say online

like on in these communities like what's

going to happen to me?

Yeah. Like if I have like controversial

opinions, if I really speak the truth,

what's going to happen? And that's and

that holds you back from sharing. That

holds you back from showing up and

expressing.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. Awesome. So, um I'm sure a lot of

you can resonate with this and I

definitely have been through this. Um

there are so many controversial things

that you will all say at many points in

your careers. I'm certain of it. And if

you're not pissing somebody off, you are

not doing your job.

Your job is to trigger people. And I

think the sooner that we embrace and

accept that we're not here to be liked

by everybody and that actually we're

here to awaken people

and the awakening process isn't pretty.

You know, like the purging process isn't

pretty. People need to be confronted by

pain to create change a lot of the time.

not necessarily all the time, but a

painful experience is what creates a

change in our hierarchy of values. So if

someone's going to make an actual

behavioral change, that motivation needs

to come from a very painful place

because often times the desire alone is

is not going to create actual

sustainable behavioral change really. So

the provocation,

the the deeply triggering emotional

response is actually a really necessary

part of the process. And some people

won't necessarily make the changes. Some

people will just be triggered and angry

and they'll demonize you. Maybe maybe.

But like it is it is inevitable. It is

inevitable.

And so the way that we can work through

this is by first starting at this point

where we can all really embrace and

accept that this is inevitable. What

will happen is that you will you will

have ridiculous messages from people who

will say ridiculous things to you. And

that's how you know that you are doing

your job is that the the greater degree

of of hate mail that you get, the

greater degree of you are doing your

job. And I can tell you that in the last

two months that I've been experiencing

this recent up level, I have gotten an

unbelievable degree of hate mail. An

unbelievable degree of hate mail. My

best friend called me an abuser.

the degree to which you become more

influential, you will also become more

hated.

Rachel seems to also be doing her job

really well. She just said, "I just lost

a best friend, too." It's I'm not

laughing at you. I'm just acknowledging

that this is what happens. And and this

is this is a real concept that is is

difficult and challenging to accept, but

it is true. um you know, we we will

people will not necessarily like it, but

that doesn't mean that it isn't serving

them. In order for people to break

through their layers and their levels of

where they are in their current

paradigm,

they need to know the truth.

You are doing the world a disservice by

holding the truth back.

And I want everyone to really sit with

this and say this. When I hold the truth

back, I am doing the world a disservice.

When I share the truth,

when I am direct and honest with people

and not aggressive, not snarky, not

mean,

but when I am sharing the insights and

the concepts that can be difficult to

grasp that people may not necessarily

want to accept because it confronts

their current paradigm and reality

that gives them the opportunity to break

free.

Don't deprive them of that opportunity.

Yeah.

Um I'm normally very direct and that is

really triggering um including my

family, my loved one, the whole the

whole area. And so they are like kind of

very intimidated and uh so the more I'm

getting spiritual

they have to try to be so much kinder

and lover and you know this being loved

and so on have to take care about their

feeling.

Um so and sometimes that's like really

I'm getting sick and tired of that like

how many times I have to take care about

whatever I'm saying whatever I'm writing

whatever how I'm um behaving or how I am

being like you know yeah

>> there's actually a really powerful

exercise like if you want an exercise um

this isn't mine but it's it's really

effective. I can what I can do is I can

um I can potentially post it in the

Facebook group later. It's called the

hate exercise and it's by Steven Gardner

who is actually in the content emporium

more so. Um he went through our second

round and I'm like I'll ask him maybe if

he would be interested in just like

facilitating it live or maybe if he

would be interested in just doing like a

quick live stream to run you through the

hate exercise. It's one of the most

powerful exercises you could like ever

do honestly. like my housemate did it

and she man she broke through some crazy

[ __ ] and she was just like yeah I'm not

even afraid of people demonizing me

anymore like holy crap like it's so

good. Um in a nutshell it's basically

like if you really sit down and

acknowledge all of the benefits in

someone hating you for them like what is

the benefit to them of of them hating

you right? So what's the benefit to them

of them being triggered by what you've

said publicly and online? What's the

benefit to you of being hated by them?

And and literally like list out 20

benefits each side. What's the benefit

to them? What's the benefit to you?

Because everybody benefits from hate.

But we're so addicted to love and

gratitude. We're so addicted to peace

without war. We're addicted to

one-sidedness that we're sitting here

trying to avoid pain, trying to avoid

conflict when it's inevitable. You we

cannot like world peace is a futile

concept. We cannot have peace without

war. We cannot have love without hate.

literally we cannot.

So the sooner we embrace the hate um

simultaneously will actually attract

more love. The sooner you embrace more

challenge you'll attract more support.

So instead of asking questions like well

how can I you know avoid this and you

didn't ask that but just in general

instead of asking how can I avoid this

what I want you guys to ask is how can I

go even deeper into hate and challenge

so that I can attract more love and

support because that's what's going to

happen. That's how the universe works.

That's physics.

Your ability to feel pain and expand

your capacity to feel pain is going to

expand your capacity to feel love and

good feelings. The more you try and

avoid pain, the more of it you attract

and create. Sitting with pain and your

ability to just not even care about it o

overrides any kind of fear. You know,

you don't fear doesn't exist anymore

when you're just like, "Oh, well, it's

pain. It's fine. I can handle it." The

capacity to feel it is everything.

Yeah.

>> Yeah. Awesome. Nicole said, "We actually

have more difficulties with people being

neutral, so we'd rather um go for hate

than neutrality." Awesome. All right.

Cool. So, yeah, as as an exercise. Yeah.

TW and whenever you whenever you're like

kind of in that frame, like just that

classic D Martini concept of like what

are the benefits and like what are the

drawbacks? So, like if you're finding

you're seeking something, look for the

drawbacks. If you're finding that you're

avoiding something, like look for the

benefits. um and sit with the emotion of

it and allow yourself to like neutralize

the emotion and logically like mentally

go for the benefits and the drawbacks

and um that really helps. Yeah, I'll

talk to Stephen about the hate exercise.

That's a really great idea.

>> Well, you would post it. You are saying

in the Facebook.

>> Yeah.

>> Okay. Thank you.

>> Welcome. All right, Katherine Robertson,

come on down.

>> Hello.

>> Hi. How are you? Hi everyone. Um Phoebe,

my um thing is, as you are aware, I've

been following you now for a couple of

years and um sitting on on the fence.

And so this campaign, I

have really dug deep into who I am. And

it's been overwhelming um because I

really recognize

that um I've been pushing away who I am

and this is now reflected in

um my inconsistency with success um in

my business. And so um when I was

setting my intention this time is I can

see that the business but then I had

this um thinking um or my logic was

trying to take over and say well do I

start

start all over? Do I work through the

next eight weeks and discover who I am

and how I want to take my business? So

the question is

um is probably more practical of do I

wait um and watch the evolution of of me

and who I want to connect with in my

tribe over the eight weeks because I

feel like I need to close all my social

media know that the colors are wrong. um

who I want to attract the message is

really different

um even in the last couple of weeks to

to where I've been and where I want to

go. So that's my question.

>> So okay, this is a great question for

everyone and it comes up a lot. I'm just

going to reframe it or just reiterate

it. So just to clarify. So, you're now

at a point where you're realizing you're

transitioning and you want to know if

you should wait until the end of the

program to start that process of of

doing new branding of doing new this and

getting all those projects rolling

practically.

>> Yes. So, even my title I call myself a

transformational coach. I want to call

myself a leadership architect. already

I'm having insights into

um you know who I am and

>> yeah so that's the thing is do I just

allow it because I can see the change in

the last two weeks let alone what will

happen in 8 weeks time

>> amazing so I'm going to just point out

to everyone did everyone just see what

just happened

can you nod if you feel like you saw

what you just did you did anyone just

witness what happened with Catherine

just now.

She just admitted that she already knew

the answer.

She just said, "Do I just allow it?"

Yeah. Cuz that's what you know. That's

what this is right for you. That's what

you want. So

I think a lot of the time the mind is

always going to be like oh the

practicalities of life, the

practicalities of business and like we

have to make you know we have to we have

to do x y and zed. But

the thing is a lot of what the mind

tells you you need to resolve or do is

going to naturally happen as a byproduct

of you listening to your intuition,

taking inspired action and following

your heart.

>> Mhm.

>> And so like you already having that

awareness like that awareness and that

insight and that clarity is going to

continue to expand. And as you you

literally just said, like I've noticed

like the other stuff just kind of seems

to be dropping away. You don't need to

actively like get rid of it. It's going

to just naturally drop away.

>> Yeah.

>> It doesn't have to require active

effort.

Your commitment is to following the

process of of following your heart, of

listening to your intuition, and

allowing that feeling of truth to

expand.

And that's just naturally going to kill

anything that isn't true anymore. The

truth kills everything that's not true.

That's the power of the truth. It's

penetrative.

So if you let your heart open up and if

you fill your heart with truth, if you

fill your consciousness with truth, you

know, you're basically a walking shield

and penetration mechanism that's just

getting rid of everything that's not

true.

>> Yeah.

>> So yeah, follow the process. Stay with

yourself.

Sounds like you've already got it.

Sounds like the insights are really

coming through thick and fast. Take note

of them, journal them, make sure you

keep them in your workbook. Amazing

stuff. I'm really proud of you.

>> Thank you. Because uh just to also ask

my um

my Mercury is is depth.

And

>> hey,

>> there's a contradiction

with that in that I can um allow my

self-doubt to stop me. And so I'm trying

to also embrace the duality of that or

relationship with those two things

because

>> uh yeah, so this is what I mean about

it's a a personal journey and it has

stopped me in the past. It's um that the

uncertainty has stopped me and I've

jumped around and that's the disconnect.

So um yeah, this this is more of my own

personal journey that that I've got to

understand how to manage it. So

>> awesome. Amazing. Well, and again, if

you if you have any questions around

like personal journey as well, like in

terms of like, hey, how do I navigate

like life and stuff, like you can also

post them in the questions thread. Um,

and I'll definitely respond to those as

well. So, you know, if you guys have

questions like that, feel free to post

them in there. And like I said, we're

here to support you. Just ask.

>> Fantastic. Thank you. I can't wait,

Phoebe. This has been fantastic the last

two weeks.

>> Amazing. Thank you for being here. Thank

you for showing up.

Awesome.

Rachel, come on down.

>> Hi.

>> Hi.

>> Um, so I have a couple of questions. The

first one is what what do we do when the

download that comes through for our

intention is so big that we're like,

whoa, it feels like a lot. And

>> yeah, [ __ ] yeah. [ __ ] yeah.

>> Yeah. What's kind of coming Yeah. What's

kind of coming through for me is I know

the work is worth that cuz I see the

transformation,

>> but I have this fear that other pe like

I'm getting in other people's pockets

like they won't they won't pay that,

>> you know, and

>> great.

>> Yeah. I'm trying to work out what do I

because it feels edgy

but I know it's worth on some level. I

can feel the power of it. So what's a

recommendation around that mindset?

>> Awesome. So, are you going to share with

the group what came through for you?

>> Yeah, I'm I'm happy to share. So, yeah,

what came through was and I've been

thinking about increasing my prices by

25%. Um, my 12week package is 3,000 at

the moment, and it's it's what people

are getting. It's been insane. So, what

came through was 5,000 and that's a big

jump for me. It feels really really

edgy. Um, and yeah, it was four four

packages at 5,000 by June. And

>> it feels achievable, but I'm like, ah,

it's a big jump.

>> So, yeah, my

>> I think I just get this whole

>> other people will question it. You know,

it's this poverty lack energy that I've

been around and my whole thing is

>> owning my my worth and I don't want to

have to prove it.

Yeah, perfect.

>> Great.

>> Everyone, I guarantee 99% of you going

to go through this throughout this

program as well.

>> Yeah. Um,

>> no one can question your value unless

you do.

>> Yeah.

>> Martini is not sitting there being like,

I wonder if people will pay me 10 grand

an hour. He's just like, this is what it

[ __ ] is, man. Like, and either you're

in or you're out. I'm busy. Leave me

alone. Like,

>> yeah. Um, you know, Dispenser is not

wondering if the world can pay to come

to his seminars. Neither is Tony

Robbins. Neither is even even if you

look at like kind of look at really

qualified therapists or sematic

sexologists, and we're not talking about

anyone that's famous, but you're just

talking about like let's say let's say

Melbourne's best sexologist

is probably1 to $2,000 an hour.

and and that pricing structure comes

from their level of experience.

It comes from the tangible results that

are coming across and the

transformations of the clients and it's

also coming across from their level of

busyness. So like a lot of what dictates

pricing is going to be availability. So

again it's like this concept of like

market availability and what's in

demand. So if there's a high demand for

something and there's a low supply

meaning like you're fully booked and you

have 10 client. So let's say you have

capacity for five clients,

you know, you can no longer have those.

You can't have 10 clients anymore. So in

order for you to take on the you can't

actually take on 10. You don't expand

your capacity. You increase your pricing

to take on the five people who are the

most dedicated.

>> Yeah.

>> Because the people who value your work

will always find the money to pay for

it, pay for the service. And here's

here's the interesting thing, guys,

about money is that more of it being

printed every day.

And yet, we think that there's less of

it. And we're more of we're literally

printing money every single day.

We're literally inflating money. We're

literally printing more, creating more

currencies,

and expanding more of it. It's only

growing. In truth,

we're creating more and more exchanges

through more and more small businesses.

So, not only do we have more revenue and

more currency, but we also have more

transactions now. So, the likelihood

that people are going to enter into a

transaction is actually the highest that

it's ever been. Even though online trust

is low, transactions are higher, we have

more money,

people have more conscious awareness of

of theirelves and their connection to

what they want.

Your job is to trust yourself

>> and see your own value and not ever

[ __ ] question it.

>> Ever.

>> Yeah. So, your homework is writing 20

reasons why your work is worth $5,000

and why you deserve. This is actually

week 2's homework, but you can start

early.

>> It's why you deserve to be paid

handsomely for what you do.

>> Yeah.

>> 20 reasons why. Don't stop at 20. Write

100 if you can.

>> But like that that level of certainty,

that level of congruence energetically

is is what we're going to work on in

module two. Um because and this is a

core part of the work guys is like when

we set our intentions these these things

are going to come up of like I don't

know man that seems like a lot. I don't

know if someone's going to pay me that.

I don't know. Can I tell you guys

something? It might offend you. It might

inspire you. I don't know how it's going

to be received. But like what year is

it? What what it is? Okay. So, 15 months

ago,

I was charging

I think about I think I think maybe even

less than $100 for a for copy.

So, I was doing like a year and a half

ago, I was doing like a few copy jobs

for people where I was like writing

content posts and like copy posts and I

was doing them for like $100 per post.

And if you asked me now, I would say I

want 25% of your revenue. And I only

work with businesses that do over 500

grand a year.

And I would have absolute certainty and

conviction in that. And I would walk

away from anyone that didn't meet that

criteria and that wasn't serious about

it. I literally don't even engage in

conversations with people that I can

energetically sense are not serious. I'm

like, "You're a tunnel waster."

>> And 15 months ago, I was like, "Do you

want my copy for $100,

please?

Wow.

>> So, it it it comes down to like two

things and we'll talk about this even

more, but like the thing with imposter

syndrome and the thing with like

charging what you're worth is is it's

two-sided, right? It's and it's a

symbiotic relationship. One side is you

knowing the value and you being certain

about it and confident about it and

congruent with it and the second part

and so the internal work is going to be

what helps you build up that internal

level of confidence. But the other

aspect

is that you need to do you need to get

better at what you do always. You need

to constantly be improving and you need

to maintain a high level of of quality

of the work that you're delivering with

people and continually improving and not

from a place of like I'm not enough.

From a place of I expect, you know,

precision and I I am the best because

I've worked to be the best. It's not

just a fake, you know, if it's not it's

not fake confidence. It's warranted. So

it's like, you know, if if we've got a

bit of imposter syndrome, part of that

might be that we're just not confident

because we haven't owned and

acknowledged our value. But part of that

imposter syndrome might be that it's a

feedback mechanism saying, "I really

don't have the experience and I need to

go and get more experience, which is a

healthy feedback mechanism." So we do

both. You know, we get better at what we

do by practicing and committing to

mastery. And we acknowledge that we're

[ __ ] masters and that we're so

goddamn committed to ourselves and the

world. a symbiotic relationship.

>> That's amazing.

>> You're epic. You're going to do amazing

things. I'm excited.

>> Can I share a quick little win that came

through and this is the reason why I I

signed up? I've been feeling very

unclear about what I do. I do spiral. I

do a lot of spiritual transformational

work. It's very it's a lot of things.

And I didn't know how to articulate in

one sentence what it is. And I looked up

my Mercury and it's gate 21.5. It's the

hunter huntress. And what came through

was this download of I'm the huntress of

limitations.

>> And it's so big. Like I'm like poor, you

know? It's like I help you hunt down and

eliminate your inner interferences,

>> you know? And it's just so strong.

>> And I think there's that level of the

bigness that's about to come in that is

feeling really exciting but a little bit

scary as well. So yeah, it's the most

clarity I've had in in since I started

my business and really really excited.

Yeah, because it's on

>> I literally have goosebumps all over my

legs when you're saying that. It's like

>> it's so [ __ ] fierce. It's like scary.

>> [ __ ] yeah.

>> Yeah.

>> [ __ ] yeah.

>> Own it.

>> Yeah.

>> Own it. Own the inevitability of that

manifestation.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. Sweet. Thank you for Thank you for

showing up. Peter, come on down.

>> Hey, how are you?

>> Good. How are you?

>> Ah, I am um [ __ ] myself on the

inside. And I think like that's a

reflection of um

as I was writing down my intention, as I

was writing down how I wanted to feel,

like I felt really excited about it. And

then the wall that I hit is um

uh what are the words like

uh you can't do that or um that's too

big. Why don't you just have it? Why

don't you just have it so that you

actually have success? Because look at

how many times you haven't had success.

Like what's going to be different this

time? like I've just got this real

negative little [ __ ] who wants to rain

on my parade and I'm,

you know, it just it it comes up and I

just I feel it in my heart and my throat

and I think I'm just

Yeah, I I really want to shift that

because

I I don't have any issue about what I

do, how I deliver it. I just feel like,

and this is why I'm here, I don't feel

like I've actually been able to

articulate to people exactly what they

get when they're in my orbit because I

know it's [ __ ] amazing.

And yet, I just Yeah, it feels like the

energy I've been putting out is probably

a bit clunky. So then the feedback I'm

getting is um like a stop start, a yes,

here's a bit of success. No, let's just

experience a shitload of failure. And um

so yeah, I I'm just kind of struggling

with that internally.

>> Awesome. So let's I mean like let's

break this down and understand like the

mechanism. So

what's going on here? And do you say

your name Peter or Peta? Peter.

>> Peter.

>> Peter. Cool. Cool name. I really like

it. Peace. Um, so Peter is

experiencing

what most of us do when we feel unsafe

with where we're going.

So it's a safety mechanism

and you know that can show up in a

variety of ways, right? So the safety

mechanism can be like okay so you've

just decid so you've just said hey um

let's bring this back down to like

animal terms. So, there's this juicy

juicy like beautiful suckling pig like

across the river and it's dinner time

and I'm hungry and I want it and it's

going to like roast deliciously on the

fire but I've got to cross like all

these things and you I don't know if I

can make it across the river and and so

the the protection mechanism goes maybe

there are some berries nearby

and it's it's literally just I'm I'm

demonstrating that it's a survival

response and that it's okay

and that there's nothing wrong with the

survival response because your body is

doing or your mind is your mind is doing

what it's its job which is it's trying

to protect you. It's trying to protect

you from what it perceives to be as

potential pain and potential danger.

And so much of our work is is working

with our safety responses and going,

"Hey, actually like these aren't real or

acknowledging if they are real." You

know, like is there is there a real

threat of danger in the 21st century?

Probably not as much.

Is there a real threat of danger of you

going after this goal? Probably not as

much. The truth is that if you leave the

cave, you could die either way because

you just might die because you that

could it's a possibility of life. But

also,

you may not die either way on the, you

know, you might die on the pursuit to

the berries, you know, like you might

still fail. You know what I mean? And

and then the other side is like, well,

you might go and get the suckling pig

and you come back and you have one hell

of a dinner and you're like, I didn't

think that I'd get through that. Huh,

cool. And then you know that you've done

it and then you can keep going back to

the same place. You can get more pigs

every day, right? So my point here is

that when we have like a survival

response, we need to understand the

frame that our mind is simply trying to

protect us. It's only trying to do its

job, right? So like something that we

can do here and

what I will do is

share.

Where is this?

Oh, did I close it?

What I'm going to do is share with you

guys.

Man,

where's my stuff?

Oh, here it is.

Okay, cool. Um,

great. I'm going to share this.

Whenever something like this comes up,

this is literally like the perfect way

to process this. So whenever we have an

emotional response to something, I find

that this is a really really really

simple

way to allow the mind to quieten down

and actually determine if it's a real

threat or if it's just the mind like

trying to protect you. So the fear of

getting eaten, the fear of being seen,

the fear of not achieving this goal and

failing and being feeling humiliated.

I want everyone to write these things

down. It's so simple. It's so great.

It's so simple and effective and

powerful and you can literally do it

like every day. It's just so simple. So

this is called the four permissions.

So, in the context of what Peter just

shared, like we could go, so what what

is your goal?

>> Um, so I want to uh my course is $2,000

and I want to sign up 20 people and

create 40,000.

>> So then I thought, oh, maybe we'll just

go for 20.

>> And it was like it's Yeah. So

>> cool.

>> And I think it was the numbers

people that was more the issue.

>> Yeah. It's it's the volume. It's like

can I reach 40? Like will 40 people say

yes. Like that's a big number. Yeah.

Cool.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. Um and what's the feeling that

comes up like when you you know so we

have we have the voice but what's the

feeling?

Oh, um

it's that fear of failure and that

feeling of shame and humiliation

and like

>> um

>> and the I think this goes to like the

core of even like my brand story is this

voice that's always been in my head

about what makes you so special?

M

>> who the [ __ ] do you think you are?

>> Mhm.

>> Awesome.

>> So

>> cool.

>> That's that's it. So

>> all right, let's do it. So

shame, humiliation,

right? Like oh god, like what are people

going to what are they going to think?

Like what if I set out this intention

for 40 people? I'm going to enroll 40

people and then what if we don't make it

and then I'm humiliated? What if that

happens? What if I'm what if I I don't

make my goal? Everyone,

it's okay

to feel

humiliation.

And just like it's like again, it's like

repeating that process of like when

we're setting our intention. It's like

taking a few deep breaths, dro like

closing your eyes, dropping down into

your body, like really connecting in

sematically to your body, having that

like awareness, that body awareness,

that spatial awareness, and using the

breath to regulate your nervous system,

right? Like in and out, in and out, and

more breaths on the out. And allowing

yourself to connect to these emotions of

it's okay to feel humiliation. and

really feeling that bringing the feeling

of humiliation into your body and

actually feeling okay with it and

allowing that feeling to just naturally

neutralize like oh yeah it is okay

that's okay and I'm allowed to feel

humiliation remember everything that

you're avoiding right now is what you

need to be okay with

so that you stop attracting the things

that you're avoiding the more you try

and avoid humiliation the more you're

going to attract humiliation

and the key is to go deeper into the

humiliation.

Humiliation is a part of life. Go pee in

a pool.

Go say something embarrassing to someone

that you perceive to be embarrassing.

But sit sit with these and I'm telling

you these four statements when you bring

them into your body and you say them one

by one, man, it just neutralizes the

crap out of anything. It's the fastest

way that I've ever found to neutralize

something in like it's just record time.

Like there are a million ways you can

neutralize stuff. If you guys have your

own method, use your own method. Um, but

this is just a really simple way that I

can, you know, teach you without going

too deep into a million methodologies.

Um, the second aspect of when we're

setting goals and attentions, uh,

intentions, right, is to also be

detached from the actual goal. So, has

everyone written this down? Everyone's

got a copy of this. You'll also

obviously have it in the orientation,

but I just want to make sure that

everyone's written it down. Um, I'll

just keep it up on the screen for a

little bit longer. So when we're setting

goals,

um it's like your mind is going to go

into a place of like what happens if I

don't get the goal and what happens if I

do get the goal and journal that because

that's going to be a lot of what's going

to come up throughout the process. So

instead of waiting for it to come up,

you can just go directly into it, right?

Like if I get this, what's it going to

mean for me? Ah well then it's going to

mean that I've made it. Oh, so I I'll

share with you I'll share all of you

with all of you guys. Like this launch

is just a really good example. About a

week ago or like Yeah. About a week ago.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It was a week ago. A

week ago I was flipping out and I was

like we've spent all this money on team

members and ads and I was like we're not

going to be you know so much work for

nothing. And I just I don't know. I was

I was I was like flipping out. I don't

even remember why. I was just like

having a tanty and I was like, "Oh, it's

all for nothing." And then I I was like

noticing how like what I was saying and

I was journaling it out being like, "Is

it really all for nothing?" And I was

like coaching myself through it. And

then I I spoke to um one of my one of my

I would say actually just business

colleagues who is really great

reflection and he was like in reality

he's like it's just a thing that you're

doing and it doesn't mean anything. He's

like, "You've decided that it means that

you've learned something or it means

that you've figured it out or that this

goal is a reflection of your personal

growth."

And isn't that just so true? Like we sit

here and we go, "Oh, our 6K, like our 6K

year, I mean our six figure year or our

like, you know, whatever launch or when

I when I help this many people, when I

charge this much, like it means

something. It doesn't mean dick. It

literally doesn't mean [ __ ] anything.

Because there is nothing outside of us

that can validate

if we know the truth.

And so when you come back to the truth

and you're like, well, that actually

doesn't mean anything. It's just a thing

that I want. And then you're like, well,

if I want it, am I also okay with not

having it? And then you're like, well,

yeah, okay, cool. So, what are all of

the benefits of not having what you want

and not having that goal?

And

what are all the drawbacks of having it?

And just be neutral about it. Just

neutralize your attachment to the goal.

And again, it's like um I said in one of

the things I was like in one of the free

trainings, I was like law of attraction

101.

You know, your relationship to your

business and your relationship to your

goals has to be clean. We can't ask our

goals and stuff to like validate that it

means something or that it's, you know,

that we're significant or d. It's just

the thing that we're doing. And the

whole point is that it's pleasurable.

is simply because you want it. It's

simply because it's a desire that you

want, but it can't mean anything. It

literally doesn't actually mean

anything. And so, when you come back to

that place, it's like, "Oh, yeah. Okay."

Cuz all the emotional responses come

from the things that we make things

mean.

So, what happens if you don't get the 40

clients? Well, it doesn't really [ __ ]

matter. You just try again next time,

and next time it'll be better. Cool.

Great. How do you feel now?

Do you want to know something funny? Is

actually I said 20 clients and you said

40 clients and I've gone

maybe. Could I do 40? Well, why not?

Like let's play with that.

>> I totally heard 40. I was like I was

like yeah 40. I was like look it's a lot

but it it's doable for sure.

>> Great.

>> Hey man, why not?

>> Yeah. Yeah. 40k 20 people. But yeah I'm

happy with 40 people. 80k. Um I think

you know the piece that I really want to

um acknowledge you for and thank you for

is what's really hit me is the meaning

I've attached to this.

>> Yeah.

>> And how much um that you know like even

in my my chest now has released because

of the meaning I'd created to that was

personally connected to who I am as a

human being. And that's just [ __ ]

And so that's just like a light bulb and

>> come back to truth. Don't need to my

value is not dependent or defined by

anything outside of me. Like, and you

just sit there and you're just like,

"Oh, well, that's just [ __ ] true."

And we can't argue with that cuz it's

true.

>> Awesome. Nice job, lady.

>> Thank you.

>> Get out there. All right, let's I'm

aware that it's we've been on for about

an hour and a half. So, let's go. Pip,

Ash, Bria, Nikki, Crystal, and then

let's answer any questions and let's

wrap it up. All righty. So, Pip, I'm

actually while you comment, I'm just

going to grab some more water. Hi. Um,

so my

I guess it's not really a question, but

so when I was setting my intention, um,

so I haven't signed a client since

September. I've had a lot of calls and

people who are like, "Yes, but like

things come up for whatever reason." Um,

and so when I was setting my intention,

I heard this very loud 100k

and my ego was like, "Oh, how are you

going to do that? You know, you can't

even sign a client right now." LA. So,

um, that's where I'm at.

Awesome. Ah, the ego, the voice of the

ego. What a wy mix that we have to deal

with.

Our old mate.

Can I just add something about the ego

that's just really [ __ ] cool. Um,

well, it's not cool, but it's just

profound.

I want this to really land for everyone.

It's so deep. So deep. that your like

the ego

has one job

and everything that it does, everything

that it says

is to do this one job which is not

[ __ ] die.

It is living to not die and it will do

anything that it can. It will say

anything that it can

to preserve its life. Your ego

is living to not die.

So whenever we're trying to like kill

the ego or like silence ego, it's like

going to get louder cuz it's like no, I

can't die. I will not die.

And that like it creates like all these

crazy stories to keep us on goose

chases. A lot of the time we're just

like chasing rabbits, right? like down

these like endless things. It's like why

are we even doing that? Like why am I

even going here? Like why what is this

thread that I seem to be following?

Goose chases because the ego is just

trying to like distract us

with like these like you know it creates

problems and it sends us on goose

chases.

So

voice of the ego. So, 100 grand and your

ego is telling you, "How are we going to

do that when we can't even sign a client

right now?"

Is that actually the truth?

Can Can you not sign a client right now?

Why don't you just prove your ego

[ __ ] wrong?

Why don't you just sign one client right

now and then be like, "Bitch, say that

again to me.

I'll come back for more.

Bring it.

Just come back to the truth.

Do you have the ability to sign a client

right now? Yes or no? Yes. [ __ ] yeah you

do. That was so certain. Was that

certain, everyone? It was [ __ ]

certain. That was 110%.

You were like, "Of course I do. I know I

do. What are you talking about?

And so tell me why you have the ability

to sign a client right now. How do you

know? Like because you're really

certain.

>> Um I just know like anything like

literally anything is possible.

>> Yeah.

>> And it's just

>> because because of a million reasons.

Because you're good at what you do.

Because you've been studying it for a

long time. You have the skills. You have

the expertise. You can deliver the

transformations.

Because you have a voice. Because you

have a mouth. because you have two

hands. Like we can go super basic to

answer this question of like why is this

possible, right? And then because I'm

always having conversations with people

every day

and because there are six billion people

in the world and probably a billion of

them actually need my help or they need

this transformation that I have the

ability and the skill to offer. And

you're [ __ ] telling me that I can't

help one of these people out of the one

billion people. Like if I just walked

down the street and had random

miscellaneous conversations that you

wouldn't find one person that had that

thing that was like, "Oh, I could so use

your help."

Of course,

it's like it's almost like the odds are

against you not doing it because like

statistically you can help so many

people.

It almost seems weird that you wouldn't

inevitably like have someone like a

random like conversation on the street

or at the gym. Like you're at the gym

and then someone's like, "Oh man, like I

totally need help." And you're like,

"Hey, it's what I do.

Yeah, I guess I

I guess part of me is struggling with I

like I'm getting very little engagement

like in my Facebook group and stuff like

that and like that's playing into it as

well. It's like I don't like I'm still

showing up and I'm trying to be very

conscious of like taking inspired action

like the past I'd say 3 weeks or so. Um

but it's just I it's like this fine

balance between like procrastinating and

like waiting for that inspired action

too. Totally. So when Okay, this is a

really good note for everyone. So when

we are

not getting the results in our external

realities,

if you notice

that your mind is still going to that,

what that means is that you're focusing

externally rather than internally.

So you're allowing, again, it's like

similar to Peter, right? You're allowing

what's happening in your It's not

exactly the same, but it's similar.

You're allowing what's happening in your

external reality to reinforce a false

belief

rather than coming back here where you

have control,

building and expanding your level of

certainty and allowing that to change

what's going on out here. You're like,

I'm not getting engagement, therefore

it's not going to happen. Whereas, it's

the other way around. It's I know it's

going to happen and so then therefore

you get engagement. The engagement is

just a byproduct of your level of

certainty and trust within yourself.

>> Got that?

>> Yeah,

>> that's huge.

>> So, we never focus on engagement ever. I

will never tell you to focus on it's

just like a byproduct. A lot of things

just byproducts. Like the money is a

byproduct. The engagement is a

byproduct, but you never focus on that.

It's never a goal.

Awesome. Bring it back, baby.

I'm so excited for module two, guys.

Getting all certain in here.

Love it. All right, cool. Um, so 100K,

you're going to sign a client this week

because you've decided to sign one right

now and tell your ego to go [ __ ] itself

and that you're a force to be reckoned

with. And you're going to own your inner

predator. You're going to own your

dominance. You're going to show your ego

who's really in charge. You're just

going to own your ability to create [ __ ]

and manifest [ __ ] that you decide.

I want you to sit there and tell

yourself like and acknowledge like I'm

[ __ ] powerful. I'm really [ __ ]

powerful. And when when I decide

something, it just [ __ ] happens. And

I want you to acknowledge where and when

in your life, you've made a decision and

it's manifested immediately. Cuz then

you'll really start to see how powerful

you really are. And anything like even

just like if you made an off-handed

comment, and I know you're a projector,

I know you have a defined throat. If you

made an off-handed comment of like, I

just want to meet a guy and then you

like met a guy like that night, like

that counts as you being [ __ ]

powerful.

You know what I mean? Like we're way

more powerful than we realize. And and

practicing that acknowledgement process

is like, yeah, no [ __ ]

So, do that.

I see you.

>> Awesome.

>> Thank you.

>> All right. You're welcome, Ash.

Hey, I presume you were calling on me.

>> Okay, so

I loved the thing about hate before

because I hate my prospects. This is a

good one. Um, and it feels really good

to say I hate my prospects.

I'm going to claim that part of me,

right? Um, I've had years and years and

years of tire kickers in my business.

I've posted, I've got an interest, and

then it's like yes, no, yes, no, yes,

no, yes, no, yes, no. And then they

don't. And like I actually hired a

healer to help me fix this problem. And

guess what she did to me? I want to be

your client. No, I don't. I want to be

your client. No, I don't. I want to be

your client.

And then I got so pissed that I said,

"Here's why you have to be my client."

And I took out that like dominatrix whip

and told her. And then she like ran away

from me and like sort of just cut it all

off. So I lost my healer to the same

pattern. And that's okay. I mean, I

still love her as a person, but like and

obviously that's the universe saying

she's not the the healer for you. But

this has led to an incredible amount of

bitterness, rage,

>> resentment, and hatred of my prospects.

So there's that piece of it to the point

where like one, I do want to change

gears and it's not just because of this.

It's because of other things I've known

about myself beforehand, like change

niche direction, messaging, not um

keeping it similar. My current Facebook

header is correct for the direction I

want to go. So I've already changed my

Facebook header. It's still it's the

direction that's up now. But um it makes

it hard to set goals or to even believe

in goals or to believe in dollar amounts

because I've literally like I loved your

story because in 2018 I was homeless and

getting tire kickers while I was

homeless and like literally my money the

past couple of years has been I've had a

couple clients but I've had a partner

supporting me, you know, and dad. So I

totally relate and yet I know how

powerful I am. I know what a badass I

am. I know that I am a force to be

reckoned with. I know all of that. It's

just that like all of this I'm gonna say

all this [ __ ] [ __ ] keeps getting in

the way again and again and again and

again.

>> Okay, awesome. So, this is what I'm

hearing.

You have inquiries,

>> not recently, but before recently,

because I just sort of said [ __ ] it all

recently, but yeah.

>> Okay. So, I want you to just acknowledge

first of all that you have the ability

to generate inquiries and to attract

people and to magnetize people in. Mhm.

I'm a manifesting generator.

>> They're not converting,

but they're coming in.

>> Yeah.

>> So, something is repelling them.

Is it really them?

>> Not necessarily. It could be me,

>> but

>> So, where are you on the fence in your

life, if that's what you're perceiving

in your own words? Um, I mean the

relationship I'm in, it's like this comp

I mean I love him but it's a huge

compromise, you know? It's it's but

there's like financial things tied to

all the things that I'm settling or or

in a compromise have like money tied to

them in some way. Like my dad's paying

my rent. The energy is clean around

that. That's not really a problem. It's

just I want it to be different. There's

not a problem there. Um, I am dating

somebody who I love but who's much older

who's also partly financially supporting

me. And it feels like I'm settling

instead of finding the hot young guy I

want.

>> Like that one feels like he's and I love

him. He's a wonderful human. It's not

that he's mean or anything's wrong. It's

just not what I want.

>> Yeah.

>> Um and then there's like a lot of like

smaller things like my car registration

and other leak past credit card de leaky

loose ends I haven't taken care of.

And are you in spec more specifically

are you in indecision around any of

those aspects? It's more that there's

this combination of anger and

powerlessness

because there's been a cycle with this

for years and I've do things like try to

get out like go to programs, hire

coaches, do the work, hire healers, take

action. I do the things to try to break

out of these cycles and then I don't

break out of the cycle. Like I actually

go through a phase where I'll have like

a business coach and a healer and do the

things

>> and then it doesn't change. I mean it it

that's not true. It'll change to the

degree like I'll get like one client.

>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

>> I'll have I'll get like one client and

something else like and like some other

aspect of my psyche will heal but not

this one. Like something will heal but

not the thing that I'm trying to change.

>> Gotcha. Yeah. So,

this is a really big internal thing. Um,

>> I know.

>> I'm just kind of like it's, you know, we

can go into it in front of everyone, but

I'm also aware that like it it

definitely requires more depth um and

precision and coaching and I'm like

weary of like the group. Um,

if Okay, I'm just trying to make it

relevant for everyone. If anyone has

something like this where you feel like

you're in a pattern and you

are like finding it challenging to break

out of that pattern, like there are just

certain things in your language that I'm

picking up like this this sense of like

I've hired someone and I'm paying

someone to help me with this thing,

right?

What I'm energetically feeling

intuitively is that even that like that

process of like I'm going to, you know,

do the next program or I'm going to hire

the next healer or the next business

coach is and I I recognize this because

I've been there. I'm not just like I'm

not judging you. Like I don't have any

judgment. I've done this.

>> I totally get that from you. Like I

totally feel the cleanness of of what

you're putting out and I don't even know

you but like something drew me to this

and like I feel how you're just all

Yeah, I got it.

>> Cool. Um,

it's it's a way to uh again it's like

this ego thing of like everything I'm

doing is to not die. It's a distraction

from the real thing. And it's it's

basically a way to be like look see I'm

doing things leave me alone.

Right. And like I've I've done this and

been like see it didn't work. See which

is how I know when I have a prospect

that says that.

>> Yeah. I'm like I'm like look I'm like

yeah okay. but also [ __ ] like

because I know because I've been there

and I I know it in myself and I know it

in others. Um so you got to ask yourself

so you have to get extra honest with

yourself. So your homework is like you

really have to sit down with yourself

and look at like two aspects. So one is

what is like the benefit and the payoff

for me that I want to stay here and like

not break through these patterns like

and really find all of the payoffs

because then you can make a more

conscious decision around like whether

you actually are like oh actually my

life's really [ __ ] awesome right now

that I have no clients and maybe because

it could be this it could be that you

don't have any clients because maybe you

don't even want to have a coaching

business like

>> that's part of it but I do want to be of

service and have a business but it's

it's

>> okay

>> that's a part that's an aspect

>> but it's not like

>> corporate consult. Yeah,

>> it's important that you get like super

clear on the like the exact nuances of

like what you don't want because again

when we have in congruence

whatever it is that we don't want is

going to manifest

whenever we're like well I you know I

want to have a business and a service

business but I don't want to coach well

you won't have anything then because

you're the there's conflict there's in

congruence so get super conscious and

clear on like what it is that is the

payoff of Like what are all of the

benefits of of right now where you are?

Like what are the things that you don't

have that you don't want to have? Like I

don't have to deal with people and their

problems

or I don't have to deal with crying. I

don't know.

>> Yeah.

>> Um and and then on the other side look

at like what you say you want

and what is it about that that you don't

actually really kind of want? like what

responsibilities would come with this

that you were avoiding, you know, like

so like when I did when I had like one

of my first up levels and I was

transitioning from one-on-one to group,

um my business coach at the time, oh

man, that was painful. He was like,

Phoebe, like why won't you just put

together this content emporium group

program? And I was like, I don't want

the responsibility. I don't want a big

business. I don't do it. And like all

these like things came up around like

responsibility. I was like, I I don't

want responsibility. Like, I want to

just be like a free traveling nomad.

>> And it was Yeah, it was like really hard

to shift that because like I really

don't like responsibility.

>> I don't want to deal with like the

technology. Like that's an easy,

>> right? So, here's the thing. And here's

the thing about like whenever we set

goals that are like at a at a new level

and stuff is that when you're clear on

all of the things that you don't want,

all you need to do is put together a

plan to take care of those things. And

what you're then energetically saying to

the universe is, "Hey, mate, I can

[ __ ] handle this now."

>> Okay.

>> Yeah.

>> You will get the exact number of clients

that you can handle.

apparently for this content important

universe thought I could handle 120. Um,

hey. So, you know, but when you make

those jumps, right, it's like you got to

be prepared. So, you got to have you got

to be prepared to hire the team members.

You got to know how am I going to hire

them? You got to know, do I need a

support coach? Where do I find them? How

do I train them in time? Do I need an

assistant? Do I need someone to do the

tech? Because if you're if you don't

have the plan, then everything in your

body and everything in your unconscious

is going to be like, "Fuck that." And

it's just going to sabotage the whole

thing. But if you have a plan, you're

you're going to be like, "Ah, we can

deal with that. Cool. I'm prepared for

that." So, get super clear on what it is

that you're avoiding and put put

together an action plan for like

outsourcing or delegating or managing

all those things. It's the same for

money. If you guys want more money, you

got to show that you can manage more

money, which means that you need to get

better at money management.

>> Yeah.

>> You will get what you can manage.

>> Yeah.

>> So, you got to show that you can manage

your [ __ ] And if you can't manage your

[ __ ] you won't get what you're asking

for.

>> That's helpful. Thank you. I also know

that one of the things that I'm avoiding

is everything that I feel about the past

couple of years because even though I

did go to healers and did go to quite a

few sessions this fall, it was a lot of

shamanic work and rearranging energy and

not so much embodied emotional things.

So

>> yeah. So, I would Yeah, I would I would

go back and I would like go through all

the things that have happened and and

see how they've served you and see like

I would be okay with feeling those

emotions again if they were to arise.

>> Yeah. Yeah. I'm I'm good like that.

Yeah.

>> Sweet. Nice. Go get it.

>> Okay. Thank you. Thank you so much. Very

helpful.

>> You're welcome. Bria,

>> hello. I'm here. Um I will keep it uh

brief because we're over time here. Um,

I think I'm pretty clear on what I'm

supposed to help with, except that I get

stuck in the how will I do it? And it's

interesting that the conversation has

been about like uh being prepared to

receive. So, this last year I've

definitely been like I'm I'm digging

ditches. I'm preparing for like the

overflow. So, like in terms of systems

and all of those kind of things, I feel

like I've done the work for that. But um

what I feel like I'm here to help with

it also feels very big and I don't know

how to sell that. You know what I mean?

It feels like that would be nice to have

but I'm just not clear on how to do it.

I have seen like elements of like when I

just tell people about things like one

project that I had I was like ah I just

kind of shared it and people are like oh

can I have more of that? I was like oh

I'm kind of surprised by that. So I know

that that can happen.

>> Um but I'm just not really clear. It

feels almost like uh two worlds for me

as a coach and my background is

consulting and it's like kind of I see

how the two merge together but again

like packaging it in a way

that it it communicates the value of it.

Um and it's very deep and personal for

people and so my business brain wants to

stay in like yes but will they buy it

and what deliverables and all of that

kind of stuff.

>> Okay. So just to recap, so you're clear

on your intention

>> and your business brain is like creating

um like logical objections around like

the delivery of how am I going to do it

in the practicalities?

>> Yes.

>> And you feel that those objections are

preventing you from believing that it's

inevitable?

Um, I think so because I think it allows

me to

not move forward with kind of fleshing

things out in a way and I often find

myself in conflict with coaches and I

think it speaks to what you said like

nobody knows better than you. Um, and so

like these prescribed ways of doing it,

I often resist it. But in my mind, I'm

like some of this stuff makes good

business sense. And I also know like

with me and my energy like I'm being

present all the time is not going to

work. So that's why I've kind of

invested to get some automation things

in place so that I can take the weight

off of myself. Um, but I just am

struggling with how to present it and

even like who those people are.

Okay. Okay. Cool. So,

you have a very active logical mind.

>> Very, very, very active.

>> Ah, it's also very difficult to argue

with. It's very because it's very

logical. Do you have a lot of Libra in

your chart or a lot of air in your

chart? I have no idea. I'm a Capricorn.

I don't know.

>> Ah, that's what that is.

>> I'm just getting a lot of like Yeah, I'm

just getting a lot of like um It's like

lawyer energy. It's like

>> Oh, yeah. Uhhuh. My dad told me I should

be that and I I didn't do that.

>> So,

okay. The key thing for you is to just

get into your body is what I'm getting.

Because if here's what I'm getting is

like if you try and engage with your

mind, it feels like it's always going to

win because it's just really

intellectually strong and it's always

going to make sense and it's always

going to talk you into anything and it's

it's just always going to make sense.

And so the key thing for you is to get

grounded into your body. So what like do

you have some sematic practices that you

can practice and really do them very

religiously?

>> Um I mean I'm kind of like hit or miss

with it. I know journaling works for me.

No, too mental. Too mental. Way too

mental.

>> Okay, cool. So, this is why this is your

prescription. So, this I'm just like um

>> Okay,

>> so like when I say sematic, I mean like

literally like you need to go and dance

and like completely turn off your mind

and like allow the music to take over

kind of thing and allow your body to

move itself

trusting that your body knows what it

needs. I mean like breath work.

Like I would prescribe dance and breath

work.

>> Okay.

>> And daily.

>> Daily. All right.

>> Yeah. Cuz you're you've got a very

active mind. Very very very active.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. So

ground yourself into your body

and allow yourself to find a truth and a

resonance and a peace there. But for you

it's grounding practices.

>> Okay.

>> All right. That helps. Thank you.

>> Cool. Welcome

Nikki.

>> Hi. So,

>> happy to be here and I was super happy

to hear about the um that you had 120

people in the group because my question

is connected to consistency and volume.

So, my numbers I feel good about. I've

enrolled people at those numbers before.

Um, but let's say like with my women's

program, like I've had 20 women go

through it, but I've always done like,

okay, we're on for three months and now

I'm off until like the next time I

launch it. And I've just made the

decision that I want consistency. So, I

want to be like enrolling women all the

time. And um, so I put like I want to

enroll 60 women by the time, you know,

by March, by May 17th. And I do have a

supporting coach that's come on for

this, you know, now that I want to be

consistent. I have someone who's coming

on and she's going to be doing sales as

well. So, I feel like I'm setting up the

structures. So, I'm wondering if there's

>> consistency is something else.

>> Yeah.

>> I'm going to blow your mind with this.

For anyone who's online right now, right

now, like this is going to blow your

[ __ ] mind. In your human design

chart, is your emotional center defined

or undefined?

>> Where is that one? On the side or in the

center? I'm like everything's defined on

the sides.

>> Okay. Both sides.

>> Yeah. Both. So I'm just down the middle.

Like the bottom four are defined and

undefined. Undefined. And all the sides

are undefined.

>> Um do you have uh So you're Okay. So

yours I'll I'll bring I'll bring mine up

and I'll put it the thing on

>> here. I can I think I have my screen on

you and I can just bring up your um

Phoebe.

Here is mine. Uh

Can you see it?

>> Okay. Yeah. Cool. So, you're undefined.

So, this is great. So, um the emotional

center, the solar plexus is to the right

hand side, everyone. Um

>> when we talk,

>> right? It's the triangle.

>> So, it's not the Yeah, it's exactly the

triangle to the right. Exactly. So,

undefined. Now, when we talk about

consistency in clients or income,

This is so great.

It's just it's just really interesting.

Like so

people who are undefined emotionally

need consistency. Like they're not

designed energetically to to go through

highs and lows

and that includes financial highs and

lows. So, when you're going through

financial highs and lows, it's actually

creating stress in your system that your

system can't energetically handle

because you're not designed to have

massive highs and lows. You will attract

them,

>> but you're not designed to actually have

them.

>> Now,

um you will here's the thing about

consistency in income and clients. And

for example, like so you have an

evergreen program. People can actually

join at any time, right? You don't have

to launch.

>> I just decided to make it evergreen this

month.

>> So, I'm just teaching that.

>> And so, you're like building out the

funnel for it or you already have the

funnel for it?

>> I have the funnel, but I haven't gone to

with ads yet. Like, that's the next

project I'm working on with Alex. So,

I'm working on a different one that's

like a lower price point and this is

kind of level two

>> upsell kind of. Yep.

>> Sweet. Nice. So,

man, I'll just tell you guys a quick

story about this. So, like I had a

webinar funnel. I have one. Um, and man,

what an experience.

So, I had a human design session with

Paige Michelle, who I don't know if any

of you guys follow Paige, but she's

really spicy and really fun to follow

her content. And I will sometimes

probably reference her because she has

really good content actually, and I

probably will reference her a lot um as

an example of how to write content very

well. She's great at marketing. Um, and

so we're talking about specifically in

like consistency and inconsistency and

we're talking about funnels and when we

have inconsistency in our income

that provides us with a feeling of

safety and security and it takes us out

of survival,

right?

And so depending on where we are and I

mean like you for you it feels like this

may not be as strong but like you know

just for everyone I think it's relevant.

Um when we're out of survival how

[ __ ] unfamiliar is that?

Like if if we had a system for example

like a funnel or just a system that no

longer relied on us and again you're

undefined in your will. So this is also

so I'm looking at patterns that are

playing out in your undefined emotional

center and patterns that play out in

your undefined will. So the undefined

will says everybody needs me. I have to

be there.

>> Which one's

where is that?

>> It's like the it's like the little

triangle next to your identity.

>> Okay. So that's the same as the

emotional center is the will.

>> No, no, it's it's uh it's like it's like

slightly above. Yeah.

>> Yeah. So the patterns of the undefined

will will be like um people need to be

with me. People need me to deliver the

transformation. I'm God. It's like a god

complex. It's like I'm significant. I'm

valuable. I need people to recognize how

important and valuable I am. And

therefore no sales can ever occur

without you because that would threaten

what the ego needs to know as long as

there's conditioning in in the undefined

ego, the undefined goal. So the webinar

funnel will never work for you.

because making passive income and sales

that are consistent would be too

terrifying emotionally because it's so

unfamiliar. And also then how can

something happen without me without

people needing me? Like no, I need to be

making the sale because when I'm making

the sale, I'm significant and people

need to hear from me. How can a funnel

possibly replace me? I can't be replaced

by machines.

So when there's inconsistency, like

we're looking for inconsistency because

we want the dopamine hits of the highs

and the lows, right? Launching is a

massive high.

So if we if we just had consistent

income, then we would never have those

feelings of like, whoa.

So look for the way that you can

obviously like start regulating that in

your nervous system and the way that you

can like start mentally going through

that as well is like What are all of the

drawbacks of like the inconsistency and

and also like re repatterning your

nervous system to to like that level of

like calm which means like more routine,

right? It's like okay, well, can I do an

ice bath every day? It's like how

uncomfortable can I be doing nothing?

How uncomfortable can I be like, you

know, with people not needing me? like

and it's it's it's there's so many

aspects and layers to this but like

follow these threads and I promise you

like the consistency will definitely

like change and I also promise you that

um yeah that the the addiction to the

highs you know because the thing they do

produce a lot of dopamine like a lot so

much

>> okay so you don't feel like there's any

um ceilings or caps connected to like

numbers of people or things like that

it's really more about like

not being comfortable with consistency.

So then I create the inconsistency.

>> Yeah,

>> we we are so used to emotional roller

coasters. Like if if Okay, because

here's the question you need to ask

yourself. If I no longer had to worry

about how I was going to make money

because it was consistent, then what the

[ __ ] would I worry about?

Because you need something to worry

about.

The ego needs a problem.

And then all of a sudden you no longer

have a problem that's defining your

business journey if you had consistency.

Cuz then you're just set. And then what

are you going to do? What am I going to

do now? What problem am I going to

fixate on?

Exactly. See, it's it's true, right?

It's like, yeah, [ __ ] I've been

inconsistent for my whole life. I don't

know how to not be inconsistent.

>> Okay.

Okay. So, the work for that you're

saying is just repattern to feeling more

calm, the drawbacks of inconsistency and

why it's good if if I'm not needed.

>> Yeah. So, there's there's two aspects.

One is like making sales that are

automated. And so, that's like all the

significance in the ego stuff of like

I'm not needed. So,

like really coming to a point of like

people actually don't even really need

me and like people are 100% sovereign

and they're 100% self- responsible and

like you know it it has nothing to do

with me like my it's it's it's a very

humbling thing because it's like um

I'm not really actually making a

difference in the world and I'm not

really actually making an impact. I'm

just a human being who's doing some [ __ ]

and they're going to get the results

regardless with or without me. if they

decide to and if I'm not going to be the

one on the other side, then they'll find

another Nikki star, cuz there's there's

other people like me out there who can

help them because people will get the

level of breakthroughs that they're

ready for when they're ready.

You know, like some of you guys in this

group have said like, "Oh, I just walked

into the container and I had a

breakthrough." And I'm like, "Cool man,

that doesn't make me great." It means

that you wanted to have a breakthrough,

so you spontaneously had one because you

wanted it and you decided

Great.

>> Um, so that's the ego piece. And then in

terms of the emotional consistency

piece, it's that, you know, that

requires a longer journey of

repatenting. Um, but it's definitely

it's like, you know, routine. It's,

yeah, being okay with discomfort, being

okay with peace, um, being okay with not

having problems, you know. Um, and yeah,

because it's allowing your nervous

system to basically repatent itself from

an addiction to um, fight or flight. And

that because that's what the launch

cycle is, right? It's fight or flight.

And it's a stress response. And so,

you're basically unhooking and

repatenting the stress response to being

like, I'm so consistent every day. And

the more consistency you you create in

your emotions, then the less you're

going to be used to the highs and lows.

And then that that's that's going to

like come down and down and down and

down and down.

>> So routine is essentially a good thing%

>> 100%.

>> Great. Thank you so much.

>> Welcome. All right, Crystal.

>> Y

mine's a comment slash a question. Um

>> Okay. And I just want to kind of nip

this now because it's come up for me

already in this meditation and it's

something that I've kind of I'm going

through a rebrand and a reinvention and

all these things coming off of the

journey of breast cancer and you know

this um and

one of the things that I have been

struggling with and so I would just love

to hear about your process in this is um

like there's so many things that I can

teach on. I think the projectors kind of

find themselves in the situation

sometimes where you've accumulated so

much different experiences and windows

and like I'm the gate like my conscious

Mercury is the gate of shock and so that

is definitely true in my life in terms

of like there's so much [ __ ] that's

happened that's like brought me to like

had made levels of consciousness

accessible in them. Um, and

so I would just love to hear a little

bit about like

how you honed in on like your message.

Like it still kind of feels like a

daunting task to me to go how do I take

all of this and go this is what this is

and I trust the process and I fully

trust the container and I trust that as

we go through this it's going to kind of

>> crystallize. No pun intended.

>> Um, yeah. Um, but yeah, it just it it

feels it's something that has it it's

frustrating to me when I think about

sitting down to to do that and to put it

all into like one thing. So, I just um

yeah, just wanted to So,

what I will say is that

the more I tried to sit down and figure

things out and watch the kettle boil, it

didn't.

So

the more that I just like lived and

allowed like the process to naturally

unfold, the more I noticed

that people were reflecting back to me

what they thought my message was, what

they were hearing when I would speak,

what they thought I believed in, what

people would continuously tell me they

thought I was good at, and what they

perceived me to be an authority

And I was like, uh, people seem to be

asking me a lot about content and

messaging.

Am I good at that?

Huh? Okay. And it's just like as you go

through like having conversations with

people like market research module, it's

like, you know, it's not that you're

going cool, this is my niche. It's like,

well, what do people seem to be asking

you for?

Like, so what invitations have you been

getting?

>> Um, I mean, ever since I was 20, people

have been coming to me to talk through

their stuff, you know, like you just,

and I'm sure you're the same person, but

people like I hold so many secrets and I

don't take that like lightly. Like,

people really The amount of times that

people have sat in front of me and

they're like, I can't believe I'm saying

this. Here's this thing or I've never

told any Yeah. or I've never told

anybody this. And I'm like, you don't

have to, but it's so safe here. Um, it's

interesting because a lot of the work

that I'd done precancer was with

companies. So, I've worked in with

leaders and teams and on different

launches and leadership development and

emotional intelligence and all this kind

of stuff. People mostly, I think they

come to me for

uh practical ways of navigating emotions

for sure. They come to me translating

them into like communication,

>> um, relationships, like conscious

relationships. People talk to me, call

me all the time to talk about that.

Um there are a few things that people I

think um but there there's a lot of

them. There isn't it's I I'll try to I'm

going to try to hone in on like what are

the ones that show up the most, but it's

definitely not like only this one thing.

It's like a way of thinking that they

call me for

>> that can apply to a bunch of different

things.

>> And what's that way of thinking?

>> Um

it's very like inclusive of all

perspectives. It's very like um I make a

lot of models in my brain when I hear

people talk about things that seem a

little bit unconrete. I'm just like,

"Oh, well, here's the anatomy of that."

They're like, "Oh, yeah. No, totally."

Like when I'm breaking out my anger,

it's like, "Well, here's where this" And

they're like, "Yeah, okay. I totally get

that now." So, it's this way of like

>> um taking something that feels chaotic

and making it

>> organized.

>> Oh, I don't even I don't know. I don't

know how to say this thing and I feel so

wound up about it. I'm like, "Why don't

you just say you feel wound up about it

and then say the thing?"

>> And they're like, "Oh." like yeah

>> okay so that's the way that you do

things which um is very logical and very

problem solving and it's like a reverse

engineering process and I sounds very

similar to me actually um as as an

exercise what I would love for you to do

is

like hit up 10 people that you hear from

a lot that ask you questions a lot or

come to you for advice or coaching or

guidance um and Ask them

when you think of me,

what is the core like piece of

what I can give you that nobody else

can?

>> Like why do you come to me? Why not

another coach, therapist, healer,

behavioral expert? What is what is it

that I specifically give you in this

experience? Like why do you come to me?

So what's what's unique about me and

um why do you perceive me to be an

authority in this particular thing?

What is it about me or the way that I

deliver or my experience that positions

me as an authority to you that you come

to me?

Cool. I dig it

>> and yeah track that data and sit with

that and then just set the don't even

give it to me just set the intention

that when you look at that data that it

will just your brain will synthesize it.

>> I think the human design modules and the

conscious mercular things are going to

help too to

>> to wrap some of this stuff.

>> Um

>> yeah,

>> here's the thing though for everybody.

Yeah, it's it's trust. The thing that I

want to clarify for everybody though is

that like people ask questions a lot

like oh is this correct for my human

design and like can I be a coach or like

you know do you see me doing

relationship coaching? It's like bro you

can do whatever the [ __ ] you want like

you know your niche is whatever you

decide and the way that you show up and

deliver it is going to be determined by

your chart. Sure. Like the type of

coach, you know, if you're like someone

that's holding people accountable or if

you're someone that's more like guiding

or if you're someone that's more like

healing is going to change for sure.

Like the themes might change a little

bit, but like you can do any niche and

that's up to you to decide and your

chart's not going to dictate that, you

know? So, it's like that you have free

will

>> and if you want to change a niche

because you get bored one day, you can

change it and you have free will.

>> Yep.

>> Yeah.

>> Cool.

All right.