How to stop being lazy and pathetic

okay so I have been getting constant DMS

about Liz can you make a video about how

to not be lazy how can I be more

productive blah blah blah whatever I'm

going to make this video I'm going to

get really fast into it because I know a

lazy person watching this will even be

too lazy to watch this video so let's

get right into it let's get into the

first point realize that nobody cares if

you're lazy you know what lazy people

are they're the Forgotten ones people

that don't want to do anything with

their lives they're they will always

just end up on the sideline everybody

has problems nobody cares about your

victim mindset and about how life was

hard for you and how unfair it is it's

unfair to everyone okay to everyone

you're not special and life goes on

that's it life moves everyone is busy

with their own lives and so you have to

do the same thing nobody will sit and

pity the pity you literally maybe for

one or two seconds okay like oh that's

sad but like come on we got to get

moving honey I had this uh neighbor in

the country where I grew up and where my

family lives this woman she's literally

like constantly complaining constantly

drinking she's so racist she hates

Muslims and she literally terrorized us

for the whole time we're living there um

and she's constantly just drinking her

life away because you know she's sad and

she can't accomplish anything whatever

blah blah Meanwhile my mom she's

literally immigrant that fled from the

war that came bought us a house is

taking care by her own of five children

and just getting everything done and do

you think she complains no she has no

option to be lazy she has no option to

play the victim you know when lazy goes

out of the door when you're in survival

mode people that need to survive have no

option to be lazy people that are

walking up on the stairs and they can

barely breathe they have no option

anymore than to lose that weight people

that are so vulnerable and their bodies

cannot handle of them being so

underweight have no option but to gain

weight people that have to go to work

because otherwise there's no food on the

table have no option to be lazy you guys

that are just saying that oh I'm just

lazy whatever you're privileged you're

speaking from privilege if you have the

option to be lazy you're privileged hi

guys my name is Liz and welcome back to

my channel in this video I will show you

how to become productive how to overcome

your laziness and yeah so keep watching

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another thing you need to realize is the

halo effect the halo effect is basically

when we see like a beautiful person we

will think that oh they are less likely

to do something bad because we associate

someone beautiful with a good person you

know it's the same way the halil effect

also works for successful people so if

we see a successful person we are more

likely to think that that person is

successful in every area of their life

for example they have a successful

business we will also automatically

think they have they're successful in

their relationships they're successful

everywhere we literally start to admire

people that are successful and beautiful

because we think that they have it all

together see you know when you cannot

benefit from the halo effect uh when

you're lazy okay it takes it takes

effort to be beautiful and to maintain

Beauty I remember there was this one uh

supermodel she talked about this she's

like there was this one woman that

commented and said that uh oh why are

you doing all this stuff to take care of

yourself and all these things and she

says I have no other option this is my

career do you think she wants to

literally like watch what she eats go to

the gym do all these procedures to keep

herself in shape probably not like L she

probably not you know she just wants to

sit at home and do nothing as well she

has no option cuz that's her career she

does all that stuff and takes care of

herself she can benefit from the halo

effect same way when somebody goes

through like has their own business it's

working very hard to create wealth for

themselves or Independence or free same

way they have to work very hard to get

all that stuff but see what you guys see

is only the successes and oh she looks

good and oh he has all the money you

guys don't see all the work that comes

like behind it these people have no

option to be lazy yes some people are

born into wealth they have it very easy

and more easy than others I know this is

also a privilege but most people are not

and they also create for themselves some

people come from zero and create it for

themselves you know it takes literally

takes discipline it's you think these

people want to do all that stuff no I

know so many people business owners and

stuff that said like I'm so frustrated I

like but they rather have this than no

Freedom they want the freedom so yeah

then you have to put in the work another

thing is focus on working on your life

force I was watching this uh Netflix

documentary it's on Jonah Hill

psychiatrist uh he's his name is Phil

studs he was basically saying that when

you feel like you're lazy or whatever

the only thing you need to focus on is

your life force what is your life force

First Things First Health and diet you

can focus on moving your body doing some

exercise going to the gym if that's what

you want and the food you put in your

body that's what you have control over

right now make sure it's a foods that

nourish your body make sure it's foods

that don't spike your insulin or spike

your glucose so if if you eat foods like

that that are filled with carbs and

sugar you're going to feel lazy you're

going to like feel like you don't want

to do anything throughout the day

because you feel heavy so think about

nutrition what are you putting in your

body how are you moving your body then

second thing on your life force is your

relationships so what people do is when

they get lazy or they don't feel good

about themselves they basically isolate

I do this I start to isolate myself

right I don't want to be around people

see that's a bad thing you should do

what you actually should do is in that

moment you should connect with people

you should connect with your friends and

family and talk to them about how you're

feeling because that is much better than

Welling in your own self-pity in your

own like feeling bad about yourself

trust me I because I do this all the

time it doesn't work if you don't feel

comfortable telling your friends family

talk to a stranger talk to a stranger

just tell them or tell a therapist talk

to a therapist and tell them how you're

feeling and and whatever you're going

through as humans we need connection if

we isolate ourselves we feel worse we

are social creatures we need connection

with people and the third thing of your

life force is you focus focus on their

relationship with yourself how are you

treating yourself how are you talking to

yourself in your head what are you even

watching what are you watching on your

phone constantly all day what are you

watching what are you engaging your own

mind in what is going on there are you

journaling are you writing down stuff do

you even have a relationship with

yourself and there's also one thing yeah

people they they tell me like oh I can't

manifest when people cannot manifest is

because they are not connected with

their own energy manifesting is

connecting with your own energy and

working with your energy but the reason

that this day and age people can are

unable to do that is because we're

constantly on our phone and we're

constantly distracted or we constantly

go out with people and we're never by

ourselves or we never take the time to

sit with ourselves to meditate to write

things down even writing stuff down if

you just start to write things will come

to you because sometime God speaks to

you your Spirit guides speak to you but

because your mind is constantly racing

you cannot focus on that so you cannot

accept guidance so you feel lost and you

feel like you're alone but you're not

alone you're not alone you're just not

willing to listen if you focus on these

three things health and diet your

relationships to people and your

relationships to yourself then you don't

need anything else if you just keep

continuing focusing on this everything

else will fall into place 100% create

routines in your life and stick to it

have routines we as humans we need

routines see for me I have a a stand

standard morning routine I have a

standard night routine and throughout my

week I know when I'm going to the gym I

know when I'm doing what when I'm

creating content I know these things I

have routines and yes sometimes I don't

stick to my routines but I have a base

and I have always something to get back

to when I go off track most of you

people have no routines and just leave

everything up in the air we don't work

like that you need a structurized thing

you know and some of you I'm going to

call you out as well your house is dirty

yeah you never clean your house one

thing I cannot stand and I cannot work

in is a dirty place I always need to

clean and have a clean space because

honestly a clean space is a clean mind

if your room is a mess right now you go

ahead you stop this video I want you to

clean right now right now cuz that's

huge disrespect to yourself not even

cleaning after yourself there's a reason

why you made this commitment and remind

yourself of that reason if you knew

anything about me my whole life I did

not have social media I was not that

teenager that was on Instagram whatever

I never wanted it never even literally

considered it the only time I've ever

been on social media was to make a

career out of it why did I want to make

make career out of it because I wanted

to help my mom pay her bills and help

her with her finances and help my family

now I'm able to do that see when I get

demotivated and I don't want to do this

anymore and I don't want to do social

media anymore because to be honest to

stand here right now and be judged by by

millions of people of people telling me

that I'm so dumb and what I'm saying is

just common sense and whatever or that

I'm ugly it's not nice okay it's really

not nice and I don't want to be this

center of attention but at the end of

the day I made this commitment to my

myself because I'm not going to let my

family suffer I'm not going to let my

mom suffer they have suffered enough I

have suffered enough we deserve

Financial Freedom and I'm going to

create that for us and the same way

there's a reason why you make that

commitment to yourself remind yourself

why did I even start why did I even want

this goal and you know somewhere down

the line maybe you didn't even want this

goal anymore and you think to yourself I

don't want this okay fine then don't do

it do something else I don't care but

remind yourself if you still want it why

do you want it why did you even start

think about what story are you telling

yourself if you're telling yourself

story oh I can't do this because I'm

just a lazy person yeah that's then how

you will act like a lazy person stop

saying that stop saying that what does

that even mean I'm just a lazy person

what does that mean you think you think

you can use that as an excuse for the

rest of your life okay then go to the

sideline yeah and let people like us

walk through because we don't need you

on our way okay because we're trying to

do stuff you could have been anything

you wanted in your life literally your

mom she carried you 9 months in her

stomach for you to come out and say oh

I'm just lazy some people watching this

are children of immigrants your your

parents have literally rescued your

whole life literally tried to give you

the best life possible for you to sit

here now and be like Oh I'm just too

lazy to do this are you not embarrassed

get a hold of yourself literally you

guys are lazy but then you guys complain

that you don't have the life that you

want don't complain then don't complain

you can literally change your reality at

any second you know any second like

right now if I want to be overlooked and

nobody cares about me give me one month

one month I'm going to eat whatever I

want I'm not going to take care of

myself anymore 100% I'll be overlooked

100% when I walk down the street people

will not look at me the same way 100% I

can then I'm changing my reality I went

from being this person to that other

person you can change your your your

reality is really fast when you start

acting like the person you want to

become but no Liz it's uncomfortable

because then I have to let go of my

toxic boyfriend and this and that but

I'm still going to cry about the fact

that I don't have what I

want another thing you should do is heal

the past and move on listen there's a

lot of people that have experienced so

much trauma and then now they sit and

they're like oh I can't accomplish

anything because I've been through this

I've been through that this and that

okay I've been through a lot as well I

I've literally came two times a person

tried to un alive me was very

traumatizing for me you know what I did

instead of complaining I went to a

therapist I even did hypnotherapist I

went to two years of intensive therapy

and I healed myself from those things

yeah because I don't want to continue my

life be the victim of a trauma I'm not a

victim I don't even want to associate

with it okay I don't want it to be my

story I can change my story around and

honestly ly I'm telling you once again

if you did not hear this in my other

videos if you're a victim of trauma or

abuse or whatever don't just go around

and tell people because they lose

respect for you they lose respect for

you 100% I would have never ever in my

life disclosed this to the internet or

people if if I was not trying to help

people because this is really something

that people lose respect for when you

tell them don't think that they feel

pity for you no they see you as someone

weaker someone that went through

something it's really that but I'm

telling you this is the truth This Is

How They See so for yourself go ahead

heal that heal it takes years yes it

takes years okay sometimes it it goes

fast sometimes it's it's not fast you

can't control that but at least work

towards healing yourself well if you're

constantly living in the past and

reliving it your body literally will

make you physically ill because your

body thinks that you're because you're

feeling those emotions still your body

thinks that you're still in that same

situation your body doesn't know

anything different it only knows what

you're feeling and what you're telling

your body so what you're repeating in

your head what you're feeling inside of

yourself is what your body will create

for you you want a different outcome and

a different future you have to do things

differently not people around you should

change not people around you should

change their behavior you you have the

power to control that you have the power

to control how you react you have the

power to control how you feel stop

blaming other people it's not their

fault yes maybe somebody did something

to you they traumatized you that's on

them okay they will receive their karma

if not in this lifetime in another God

will punish them whatever okay you have

now the responsibility to heal yourself

you do and you take that responsibility

and go to your own Next Level because

when you're stuck in the past and being

ter terrorized by the thoughts of the

past you cannot go forward you cannot

move on another thing is are you lazy or

did you stop progressing like I said in

the other video only reason that people

become happy is because they constantly

progress when people stop progressing

that's when unhappiness becomes like

literally you can be a millionaire

having everything but because they they

don't have anything anymore that excites

them they become depressed as well it

doesn't matter how much money you have

it doesn't matter how much you've

accomplished we constantly need that

drive or something to strive for so ask

yourself am I lazy or do I just not find

excitement in things anymore learn a new

skill then find a new hobby create a new

project do something else that you

haven't tried before or do something

that you used to love pick it up again

you know but don't allow yourself to

stop progressing because when you stop

progressing that's when you stop living

don't allow yourself to be like that too

much information makes us lazy see

because we're constantly scrolling on

every app whatever we're scrolling on

social media we hear this diet is

perfect we hear this is the best shampoo

now this is the best way to do skin care

so we go literally insane because

there's so much information and we don't

want to do anything anymore because we

don't even know what to do there's so

much

information but because we're so

consumed in that we start to literally

become consumed in other people's

opinions in other people's lives and we

start filling their lives with our

energy that's it and then you wonder to

yourself like huh why do I I not have

any energy for myself left because

you're too consumed in other people's

lives so you're not living your own you

know when I spend the day scrolling on

Tik Tok I don't want to do anything I

don't want to do anything literally I

just literally my brain is fried

completely and I don't I just want to

lay down and do nothing if I decide to

have a lazy day and I call them lazy

days I'll watch Netflix shows I binge

watch them I don't want to do anything

else literally my mind is shut off then

you know if if you are also a person

that constantly goes out and parties

that's it energy drained my love

constantly drained but recently um my

friend she took me out because it was

her birthday so then I thought okay let

me go out I went out with her the whole

night I did not have one thought in my

head and I have a mind that's racing I'm

very very creative I constantly have

ideas in my head and I constantly also

get messages in my head that whole night

I had no idea nothing nothing my mind

was blank it was almost like I was like

brain that or something I was just

standing there like you know what

happens too many energies around you too

many energies and you're they're

completely draining it so that's why

sometimes in order for you to create or

or in order for you to be productive you

need to be in solitude you need to be

alone you need to realize that feelings

are not always right okay feelings are

just feeling you see if we all just

react out of emotions I think everyone

would just un alive each other oh you

made me angry I'm so angry let me get

something and just un alive you you

might feel like right now oh my heart is

broken I will never find something like

that again no you will okay you will you

just feel right now really bad so what

do you do you feel the feelings you let

them Purge yeah feelings Purge by you

feeling them if you're going to repress

what you feel and you feel like oh I

shouldn't be crying about this I should

be tough nope you're going to store

those feelings inside of your body and

they're going to come up later as

physical illness you cannot do that to

yourself if you feel bad right now and

you feel like you want to cry or you

want to scream you do that because that

is releasing your emotions if you feel

like you need to sleep a lot right now

sleeping is also healing there is a

reason why your body needs sleep because

it's trying to heal the feelings Purge

let your body heal but once that's done

also get up and do something okay don't

stay there and dwell there for too long

and it's also like oh I feel like I

don't want to do this but what like what

do you feel and what do you want okay

cuz if you feel like like oh I want to

eat that uh whatever I want to eat

unhealthy this and that but then you

want that dream body of yours it doesn't

correlate you need to have discipline my

love like you know you can't just

consume into what you're feeling and

then expect what you want to happen to

happen it doesn't work like that another

thing is courage is being vulnerable

courage is going out and meeting meeting

new people and putting yourself out

there and being vulnerable

it might not feel good to you because

honestly this I'm just speaking for

myself right now I isolate myself I

constantly isolate myself anyone that

lives like where I live will tell you I

don't come out any of my friends will

tell you I I do not leave my place you

know do you think that's courageous of

Me no I'm trying to protect myself but

because I'm trying to protect myself and

I'm scared of being vulnerable I don't

live any experiences and life is just

going by like this I'm young I'm

supposed to be living my life I'm

supposed to be meeting people getting my

heartbroken I'm supposed to have

experience I don't have any of these

because I'm so afraid of getting hurt or

betrayed by friends you think that that

that's happiness no you're not living

you know and it makes you lazy as well

cuz you're like okay I'm just not going

to do anything I'm not going to surround

myself with people I'm not going to try

to do anything that's not courageous

that's

weak courage is being vulnerable go out

there meet new people people I'm not

saying do something risky and then put

yourself in danger but do something that

normally you would feel uncomfortable

doing or you rather prefer not doing it

another thing is learn to ask for help

or learn to accept help see most of you

guys' issues is the fact that you don't

accept help oh my God like I have so

many people around me that are like no I

don't want help I don't want help and

then they struggle so much to accomplish

this thing meanwhile I could have fixed

it for them in one second you need to

start accepting help from people

sometimes God sends these people to help

you okay that's how you have to see it

and you have to receive and then you

like if you don't you get angry you're

like God you never helped me like why

don't you help me then God says like I

send this person to help you and you

refuse them how do you want God to help

you also ask help from God ask help ask

help you will receive help in very

miraculous ways I've done it myself I

always do it another thing is be

productive on your own terms think about

what does productivity look like for me

if I say for example go to the gym do

this do that but you think like but

that's not what I want to do like I

don't want to go to the gym I don't want

to do these things okay fine that's not

for you that's not how you are

productive you have a different sense of

productivity so think to yourself what

is productive for me what do I think

would be like oh okay I'm a productive

person if I do these things what are

your goals create that productivity

mindset for yourself and create a vision

of what that looks like for you don't

listen to these other people because

what works for them might not work for

you because that's not what you want

other thing is are the people around you

draining your energy if you have toxic

friends if you have toxic family members

and you're constantly just engaging with

them you're constantly just around them

you're going to feel bad look at the

people look when you feel bad what

people are around you when you feel your

worst and sometimes even you start to

hate yourself around certain types of

people there is certain types of friends

that bring out a side in you that you

don't like about yourself watch out for

these kinds of people because you might

feel like when I'm around them why do I

behave like this you know you're getting

influenced by them so it's better to

distance your yourself and when you are

more stable in who you are and and you

don't get influenced by others easily

then if you want you can be like friends

and stuff because they cannot do

anything you know it doesn't affect you

but when you are easily influence

distance yourself from these kind of

people if you have toxic family members

distance yourself make sure you can stay

away as much as possible and focus on

the things that you can focus on right

now nobody can make you feel anything

nobody can make you feel sad bad upset

whatever you can only do that to

yourself you have control over how you

feel if for example one person when I

used to be younger and I didn't know

this knowledge when somebody made me

angry I would think like oh they're so

bad like I hate them whatever they did

this with ill intent yeah and I would

get angry now when somebody does

something to me I think to myself well

then there must be something that

they're judging in me because they're

judging it in their themselves they're

projecting there's something wrong maybe

something I I have a different kind of

understanding and I have compassion for

this person I I feel sad for them it's a

different energy and it's a different

feeling and why can I control that

because I control how I feel I can feel

sad for them if I want you know I can

also feel happy that they show their

true colors to me so change your

perspective on things how do you how do

you view this person how do you view

this situation same way if you're going

through a breakup you can see it as like

oh my God it was the last man on earth I

cannot live without him blah blah blah

or you can see it as like oh okay our

souls Were Meant to cross because we

were meant to teach each other something

in this lifetime and then we meant were

meant to separate because it was not

meant to be forever in this

lifetime that's it he learned his lesson

I learn I learned my lesson and now we

can go our separate ways and go to the

level that we were both meant to be at

and last but not least Focus focus on

the things that you can do I always hear

people oh I can't do this oh my God I

can't I what can you do what can you do

what are you good at huh tell me three

things right now what can you do think

about these things what can I do what am

I good at what am I passionate about

what makes me happy who makes me happy

you know be be grateful for these things

realize you can do a lot and remind

yourself of what you actually can do

anyways guys thank you so much for

watching I hope you guys enjoyed this

video and yeah I see you in the next

video bye-bye