How To Overcome An Insecurity

so if you really want to understand how

to overcome an insecurity what you need

to do is starve it so anything that we

give into in the mind grows so if I'm

feeling insecure about my appearance and

I text a friend of mine and I send them

a selfie and I say hey will you look at

this do I look okay in that moment when

you have an emotion what is your

solution to the emotion it is to engage

in a behavior that reassures you and

makes the emotions go down but what

you're actually doing in that moment is

feeding the insecurity because you're

giving the insecurity what it wants the

insecurity wants reassurance it's the

more that we give the insecurity what it

wants the stronger it becomes if I'm

insecure about my appearance and my

insecurity is saying hey you don't look

good and I say okay fine then I will

cancel my social plans so that I don't

have to worry about feeling

ugly then I've just fed my insecurity

and it will grow so anything that you

feed in the mind grows