Dark Feminine Energy Rules

Dark feminine energy rules. Number one,

be prepared to walk away at any given

moment. I don't care how good of a

person they are. I don't care how long

you've been together. I don't care about

what could have been. I don't care how

kind they are. I don't care how good of

a heart they have. I don't care about

your history. I don't care about any of

that. The moment that you start to feel

a little bit icky inside, the moment you

start to feel unsettled, the moment that

your intuition gives you that little

tick, that little voice in your head,

that just gut feeling, that is when you

walk away. That is when you leave

silently, no explanation. You walk away.

You call your power back and you leave

with your power intact. Listen to your

intuition always. That is your guide.

Your body knows. You will feel it in

your body before your mind does. Before

you logically know that, okay, like I

should probably leave. Listen to your

body. Listen to your intuition. Dark

feminine energy doesn't stay where she's

safe. Even if it's comfortable, even if

it's familiar, she stays where she is

respected and loved and held. Leaving is

your ritual and disappearing is your

power. Let them wonder. Let them

realize, but you, you're already gone.

Number two, shut your mouth and be

mysterious. Okay? Not everybody deserves

access to you. Stop oversharing. Stop

over giving. Stop overexerting. Stop

oversharing. Literally, shut your mouth.

Other people do not need to know your

business. And I'm not saying this like

you're not going to like tell your mom

about your goals in life or about your

life or you're not going to tell your

best friend or your partner, but you get

to choose who has access to you. You get

to decide who has access to your heart,

your mind, your soul, your energy, your

quantum energy field. And staying a

mystery, leaving people wondering about

you, that is magnetic. You don't need to

post about your every mood. You don't

need to explain yourself. You don't need

to tell people about your goals, okay?

because they have a limited mindset. And

when you overshare, when you share your

manifestations, when you share your

goal, you are sharing your energy. Don't

overshare. Just let people see these

manifestations. Let people's watch you

reach them without having to say, "I'm

going to do this. I'm going to that."

No, they've just seen you do that. Let

people wonder how you did it. Let people

watch you glow and grow. Let them try to

guess what you're thinking. Your privacy

is your power. So, gatekeep your inner

fortress. like it is the entire world.

Speak less, observe more because the

dark feminine energy does not need to

prove anything to anyone because she is

so secure within herself. She is the

proof. Rule number three, you need to be

disciplined yourself in order to

discipline other people in order to

discipline men. Your power doesn't come

from explaining or screaming or trying

to explain why they hurt you and why

what they did was wrong. You are

powerful when you keep that power within

you. When you are not giving it away to

someone who does not deserve you. No

long paragraphs, no chasing, no asking

why. You don't ever need closure. The

only closure that you will ever find is

within yourself. Your boundary is your

absence. And your standard is your

silence. If someone disrespects you,

they lose access to you. Simple. You

don't beg. You don't bargain. You just

pull back. You pull back. You take your

energy and you alchemize that energy

that you now have. So instead of giving

someone else your energy, you now have

all this energy that you can work with.

And this is called alchemy. Okay? You

can alchemize any type of energy. So

even if you're feeling pain because this

person like disrespected you or you're

feeling anger, whatever that emotion is,

you can turn it into something else that

will benefit you. You can turn it into a

glow up. You can turn it into more money

in your bank account. What I always like

to say is that whatever pain that I

feel, whatever negativity comes my way,

anytime anybody gossips about me,

honestly, all of that energy, I receive.

I'm not returning back to sender. I'm

receiving and I'm taking that energy and

I'm using that for more money in my bank

account for a glow up for my dream body.

You can use the disappointment to

evolve. You can use the heartbreak to

become hotter and smarter and richer.

You transmute every ounce of energy that

they tried to drain into fire. That is

your power. That is dark feminine

energy. And that's shadow work too,

which is dark feminine energy. It is

facing your shadow, facing that pain and

that hurt and alchemizing it. It is

Lilith, your Lilith sign in your birth

chart if you're into astrology, which is

rule number four. Work with your own

Lilith placement in your birth chart,

the house it's in and the sign it's in.

Cuz Lilith does represent your dark

feminine energy. And once you start

embracing Lilith, especially like the

characteristics and the vibe of the sign

of like the colors and the house that

it's in, you will become unstoppable.

It's basically like turning poison into

perfume. You don't stay in victimhood.

You learn how to sit with your rage and

you transform that into radiance. If you

have ever read the book, the Kybalian, I

highly suggest you read that if you

haven't, but it basically tells you all

the hemetic laws of the universe

essentially. And one of the things that

they talk about is like the law of

polarity. So in the cabalian, it is

explained that two of the opposite

things in our universe, in our reality,

they're actually the same thing. So

think of it like this. Hot and cold,

they're two extremes, right? And they're

literally the opposite ends of each

other. Okay? One is hot, one is cold.

But hot and cold are actually the same

thing. They're on in just different

levels. They're on different

frequencies. So when you go from like

cold to like not that cold, like it's

freezing, cold, not that cold, like

lukewarm, and then it gets warm and then

it gets hot. It's the same level. It is

the same thing. Hot is the same thing as

cold. It is energy. It just depends on

what level you can get that energy to.

Same thing with love and hate. Love and

hate is the exact same thing. Love,

like, you getting into dislike, getting

into hate. So if you have the feeling of

hate, you can turn that and alchemize

that into love. You have the feeling of

pain, you can turn that into power. You

can turn that into happiness. You have

the feeling of jealousy, of envy, you

can turn that into motivation.

Everything, every emotion, every energy

is one in the same. It's polarity. You

can use whatever you want. This is

alchemy. You can use whatever energy you

want in your benefit. And learning how

to alchemize energy, learning how to

transmute any energy thrown your way is

the the probably number one rule of a

dark feminine energy, which is the next

rule. Learn the art of alchemy. The dark

feminine is the ultimate alchemist. And

she also doesn't feed evil eye, which is

kind of what I wanted to say before, but

I forgot. She doesn't fear evil eye.

Okay, evil eye is a thing where someone

can send you negative energy and it can

affect your reality. Right? Instead of

fearing evil eye, she feeds off of it.

She feeds off of any energy thrown her

way because she knows that she can use

it. Rejection, reframe it as

redirection. Jealousy as fuel.

Negativity, let it bounce off your aura

to return stronger as self-love. And a

great like affirmation that you can say

is kind of what I said before. Like

every time someone says me negative

energy or any pain, whatever it is, I

transmute that into more money in my

bank account. I transmute that into

beauty. Next rule, do not be selfish

with your desires. The dark feminine

claims her desires. If she wants more,

she will proudly get it. She doesn't ask

for permission. She doesn't beg for

more. And she does not feel guilty for

wanting more. dark feminine energy knows

that she wants depth, she wants passion,

she wants luxury, she wants romance and

she knows she deserves it and she knows

that if someone is not giving that to

her, if she's not receiving that in any

type of way, then she's taking her

energy back and she will find that

somewhere else no matter what. And this

is sacred selfishness. It is okay to be

selfish. Okay, I'm selfish. I could say

that I'm not selfish in the sense that

like I don't care about other people.

I'm selfish. You should be selfish, too.

But honestly, it gets to a point. You

don't really want to like disregard

everybody else. But you need to be your

number one priority. That is the next

rule. You need to be your number one

priority always. This is devotion to

your soul's path. This is devotion to

yourself. This is proving to yourself

how much you truly love yourself. A

commitment to yourself to stop shrinking

to be more digestible. So always say yes

to what you want. Say no to what you

don't. And let your standards burn away

anything that's not aligned, which is

our next rule. You set your standards.

You set your boundaries. And you live by

them. This is your reality. Okay? You

cannot let other people walk all over

you. Listen, like growing up, I was like

the shy girl when I was little. Like

just growing up, even like middle

school, high school, like I was just

very shy. I didn't speak that much. I

had really bad social anxiety. And it

was really hard for me to say no to

people. It was really hard for me to

express myself and to speak my truth.

And that is a huge part of dark feminine

energy because once you do so, you take

control of your own life. And really,

dark feminine energy is about speaking

up for yourself. It's about advocating

for yourself. It's that wild, untamed,

like rage, raw feminine energy that we

all have within us that we can use for

power. The next rule is do be assertive.

And I'm not saying assertive as in

masculine energy, right? because

masculine energy can, you know, come off

as very assertive. But I don't I

wouldn't say assertiveness is masculine.

I would say that to be assertive,

there's different ways to be assertive.

So you can be assertive in a feminine

way and you can also be assertive in a

masculine way. So masculine way is more

like pushing forward like outwards,

right? Masculine energy is outwards

whereas feminine energy is more inwards.

So, exactly like the example I gave you

before, giving your power away, giving

your energy away instead of like keeping

it within you and taking it back. It's

the same thing like being assertive

doesn't mean that you had to like yell

and be super bold. It just means that

you will speak your truth when it is

needed to be spoken. You will stay

authentic to yourself and to your truth.

And even if like it causes two seconds

of awkwardness, that's okay. You're just

going to have to start to make the

decision right now that you will be okay

with that two seconds of awkwardness. If

someone asks you to do something and you

just have really have no time for it,

like you energy is just depleted. You

can say no. Just say no. Just be like,

"No, sorry. I have other priorities

right now." And yeah, it may be 2

seconds of awkwardness, but another

person's awkward moment is not your

responsibility. You have the right to

set boundaries and to set standards and

always put yourself first. Next rule is

just because we're focusing on dark

feminine energy does not mean that you

should completely put aside your soft

feminine energy. When I'm talking about

dark feminine energy, dark feminine

energy is so incredibly important, but

so is soft feminine energy. Soft

feminine energy is all about that like

receiving energy. And it's more soft.

Once you like you first think about

feminine energy, you think about soft

energy. You think about like the

sensitive, the giving, the helping, the

nurturing energy. That's soft feminine

energy. But you want to balance both

out. Dark feminine and soft feminine

come together and create the divine

feminine. Next rule is live by the moon.

You are not meant to move like everyone

else. Your power comes in waves, comes

in cycles, comes in seasons. And the

moon cycle, the lunar cycle usually

links up to your period too, to your

menstrual cycle. The lunar cycle has

like 28 29 days, so does your period. So

you can like look into, you know, the

days that you get your period. So if you

get it during a full moon, a new moon, a

waning moon, a waxing crescent moon,

each moon has meaning and it could

really show you like what is going on in

your life. What type of energy is

happening, what type of energy you want

to call in a little bit more. So usually

if you get your period during a full

moon, that means that you want to be

really focusing on dark dark feminine

energy. If you get your period during a

new moon, that is soft feminine energy.

And the moon, the moon is feminine,

okay? The moon is so feminine. The moon

is our mother. The moon is intuitive.

And also like living by the moon means

also too looking at like getting a

little phone app on your phone. I like,

hold on, let me see what which one I

like to use. I like moon axe. You guys

ask me all the time like what do I use

to look at what the moon's in every

single day. I use moonax. It's just a

little black app with like a half a

moon, but it has like a little calendar

and it will just show you like what

phase the moon is in and also what sign

it is in. So, every day I look at what

sign the moon is in and I plan

accordingly. So, for example, if the

moon is in Aries today, I'm going to

work out a little bit harder. Maybe I'll

do some extra cardio. Maybe I'll take a

boxing class because Aries is very like

motivation forward energy. I will also

do something like take a risk or be

spontaneous. If the moon is in the sign

of cancer, I will do something more like

stay home and maybe watch my favorite

comfort show and have a bowl of mac and

cheese. It's that kind of vibe. Okay,

the moon cycle is your dark feminine

energy. It's also soft feminine energy.

It's your divine feminine energy as a

whole. And use the new moon to set your

intentions to manifest. Use the full

moon to release and to cleanse. Next

rule, sensuality is sacred. Your

sensuality is not for performance. Your

sensuality is not for others. Your

sensuality is not for men. It's a

private spell, a sacred frequency. The

dark feminine doesn't seek anyone else's

gaze. She seduces herself first. She is

selfish and she is so in love with

herself. So, if you don't feel like you

are in love with yourself, like so in

love with yourself, like I can literally

look in the mirror and I will cry

because I love myself so much. You need

to start doing things to show yourself

that you love yourself. Like show

yourself five love languages every

single day. physical touch, putting

lotion on your body, and applying

affirmations like quality time. Spend

some time in the bath like gifts. Get

yourself something else nice. Get

yourself some a bouquet of flowers. Just

treat yourself with respect. And every

day ask yourself, "How could I love

myself even for just one minute today?"

Another rule is like dark feminine

energy moves slowly. She doesn't move

fast and she's not rushing to get

someplace. She is so secure in her

energy. She breathes deeply. And this

ties into the sensuality, too. Like, she

plays with her hair and she loves to

feel her hair. She caresses her hair and

she romanticizes her hair and she

romanticizes her arms as she's like

putting her daily lotion on. She

romanticizes her skincare routine and

she takes time. She takes time to put

her lotion on. She takes time to put her

skincare on. She takes time in the

shower. She doesn't rush. Let me tell

you, this is another rule, okay? You

never chase anything in your life.

Never. because it just comes to you.

Why? Because you're so in love with

yourself. And once you're so in love

with yourself, once you vibrate at that

frequency, you magnetize opportunities

at that same frequency. So you love

yourself so hard, you are going to

attract that same energy. Someone else

is going to love you so hard. You're

going to like attracts like. So for

example, like when I was in high school

and college, like I was in some really

really toxic relationships in my life,

okay? And I like would ask myself, why

does this keep happening? Why do I keep

attracting the same person in a

different thought? Like, why do I keep

getting cheated on? Why do I keep

attracting this person that is like

mentally ill and doesn't know how to

treat me, right? It's because I wasn't

facing my shadow. It's because I wasn't

vibrating at the frequency of love for

myself. And because I wasn't vibrating

at that frequency, I let anybody into my

power. I let anybody into my field. And

when you are not protecting yourself

like that, when you're not loving

yourself like that, when you're not

getting deep into your healing, into

your shadow work, especially if you are

an empath, these narcissists and these

soap sociopaths will literally seek you

out and cling on to you because your

energy is just wide open and they want

to feed off that energy. They're energy

vampires. So really, like if you are

trying to manifest your dream partner,

you don't want to chase for that. You

don't want to look for that. You want to

stop all that. All I want you to write

down all the qualities that you want in

your dream partner and then I want you I

want you to have all those qualities. I

want you to start working on those

qualities until you can say that I am my

dream person. I am my dream partner and

that is when you will find the right

one. I promise you. Same goes for like

opportunities in your life, your

success, your career. Dark feminine

energy really is just about being so

unapologetically yourself, looking

within, speaking your truth, and loving

yourself so hard. The next rule is do

your shadow work. Dark feminine is the

shadow. It's about facing what's deep

within you. It's about facing that

trauma. It's about facing that childhood

trauma. It's about facing the abuse you

went through. It's about facing your

heartbreak. It's about facing everything

that you don't want to face. You are now

going to face. Do your shadow work. You

can also do shadow work in correlation

with the full moon, the new moon. I come

out with full moon and new moon

workbooks every single month if you guys

want to utilize that. But doing your

shadow work will change your life. I

promise you it is healing. You need to

heal yourself first. I will say that

over and over again to the day I die.

Healing and shadow work is so important.

And if you look at Lilith in your birth

chart, it can show you like the area of

your life where you feel kind of

ashamed, where you feel a little bit

guilted, where you've been avoiding. So

really, really check that out and do

shadow work with your Lila placement.

Another placement I recommend in

astrology if you want to do that is also

Chiron cuz Chiron is your wounded

healer. So when you work with like

placements like this and you do shadow

work based on like your own trauma and

your own energy, things in your life

will start to change for you because

your perception will start to change.

You will start forming new beliefs. You

will start letting go of all those old

beliefs that have stemmed from childhood

that have stemmed from trauma. Like you

will, your subconscious mind will let go

of those beliefs and you will start to

form new ones. And working with your

subconscious mind too, like don't even

get me started. You guys know how I feel

about it. But really working with your

subconscious mind, like if you want to

just level up your life or become

successful or just, you know, feel

better, honestly, work with your

subconscious. And that could mean like

subliminals. That could be meditation.

And meditation is so incredibly

powerful. But I am getting sidetracked

cuz this video is about dark feminine

energy. Next rule is that if you're ever

randomly feeling in a moment like you

just want that energy of dark feminine

energy, you kind of want to just call

that energy back in. Maybe you're having

a little trouble to here's what you do.

You're going to wear the colors of dark

feminine energy. So that's like colors

of like Scorpio Aries type vibe. It's

like dark colors. So it's like black,

it's like red nails. It's like red

lipstick. It's like a shadowy smokey

eye. It's like chiseled cheekbones. It's

like a slick back ponytail. It's like a

red dress, putting on red underwear, a

nice red bra set, wearing silk, wearing

lace. All these things will call in your

dark feminine energy. Lighting a candle,

a rose candle in particular. Also,

lighting red candles and pink candles

call in that dark feminine energy.

Carnelon and garnet crystals are great

for calling in dark feminine energy. So,

you can keep that in your purse with

you. And that's it for today's episode,

today's video. I love you guys so so so

much and I will see you in the next one.