Psychiatrist Explains What To Do If You Have A Friend That Doesn't Talk Enough

so here's the wild thing when you don't

talk enough and you're in a social

setting no one is ever going to get that

feedback the person who talks too much

is never going to realize I need to be

quiet and if they never realize I need

to be quiet and they don't give you the

space to speak up you will never speak

up and this is the problem is that we

assume people who don't talk a lot you

think it's an individual problem and I

need to learn how to talk more but it's

not an individual problem because

speaking is relational someone else has

a certain component to it it's not just

you need to speak up more other people

need to shut the up but there's no

place for people to be told that you

can't go into a group of friends and say

hey I'm having trouble participating

because every time someone asks a

question you open your mouth you're

totally happy to talk if someone invites

you into the conversation and in fact

what you're looking for is an invitation

into the conversation so one person

wants to talk one person doesn't want to

talk it's really simple get the person

who talks too much to bring the other

person into the conversation