Introvert’s Guide to Overcoming Low Self-Esteem with Body Language | Vanessa Van Edwards #shorts

here is a classic mistake that I see all

the time hey everyone Hi so for somebody

who is introverted yes oh and you are

like the idea of the spotlight being on

you is your worst nightmare but you do

want to become more assertive or you at

least want people to look at you and go

she's confident he's confident they are

an influential person yes what are

what's the body language that you can

start to practice okay well first of all

I write books for you because I believe

you're can speak for you okay introver

introverts your cues are even more

important because you can use small

micro cues nonverbally to speak for you

right okay so for an introvert or anyone

listening you want to maximize the

distance between your ear and your

shoulder pretty much at all time

especially on video here is a classic

mistake that I see all the time hey

everyone hi you're on zoom and your

shoulder your shoulders are up your ears

or you're waving hello with your

shoulders up your ears or they walk into

a date or they walk into meeting morning

your first impression is now little

small defeated that's it here and that

one CU creates a loop and here's what I

want you to think about if that's if

you're if that's you thinking oh my gosh

I'm I'm scared I am awkward you can

change the loop of your awkwardness with

this one Q why is if you have your

shoulders down and back it signals to

your brain I'm taking up space I'm

claiming my space which then tells your

brain okay we're safe we're okay the

reason why we hunch our shoulders is to

protect our neck that is why we're doing

when I why do that yes it's an

evolutionary CU so if I Turtle my neck

down and I tilt my chin down and I hunch

my shoulders up my my uh throat is more

protected that is a more protected

gesture so it's there's an evolutionary

reason why we do it so if your shoulders

are down and back your head is held high

my jugular is showing my brain says Ah

we're safe if you do the opposite you're

telling your brain we are not safe which

then makes you have more cortisol which

shut down shuts down your thinking which

makes you have dry mouth which makes you

blush which makes you run out of oxygen

right it creates all those awkwardness

cues