The Power of Saying NO Without Explaining | Boundaries Matter | Vanessa Van Edwards #shorts #short

and so saying no is a skill it's a skill

that as women as men we have to hone

that skill and we have to get good at it

saying no is unapologetically saying no

not giving a reason the reason is

because if you give a reason it invites

someone to question your reason so think

about the difference okay if you have a

pushy friend they actually will argue

with you it's a Friday night you're

exhausted you had a really long week

your friend of a friend is having a

birthday party at nightclub they really

wanted to come and you're like I am not

about this I don't want to go to a

nightclub I don't want to spend a lot of

money I don't want to wear my heels I'd

rather be in Netflix at home and cuddle

with my dog okay so you want to say no

if you just say I hope you have a great

night I'm so sorry I can't attend that's

the correct way to say no you offer a

kindness and you just say no you don't

offer any reasons as opposed to I'm so

sorry I can't go I've just had a really

hard work

week if you have a pushy friend who's

not good with boundaries they're going

to WR and be right back and say but this

is a way to blow off steam from the week

first drinks on me and then you're like

oh and your boundary is pushed and then

you have to do it

again so you're better off getting

breaking your habit of not giving a

reason which is so hard I still struggle

with it because that way it invites

people to respect your boundaries more

and also sets you up to not have to do

it over and over again and we don't have

to give a reason to give a boundary yeah