Make Them Afraid of You I Robert Greene

one of the books I have is the 33

strategies of war and I talk about

deterrence the need to deter people from

harming you so if people are very

aggressive and you show that you're kind

of weak and that you're willing to take

the abuse they're just going to keep

doing it it brings out the Tiger in them

brings up the lion they're going to keep

doing it again and again you need to

show them hey don't mess with me you

need to show them one time you do that

to me and you're going to pay a really

[ __ ] bad price for it back off well

in doing that you're kind of lowering

yourself a little bit it's not something

you would normally do but it's necessary

in The Game of Life to show people you

can't be messed with I'm generally

believe in the soft approach in the

world today in being seductive and

Charming thinking about everybody that

you're you're working with and trying to

be a good courtier but at the same time

you can't be naive Napoleon bonapart

said it's putting your iron hand inside

a velvet glove so if they're going to

hit you you're ready to hit them back