Life Visioning Workshop 2026 - Session 2

Okay, welcome everyone. Uh, so glad you

could join us again. Here we are on

session two of the life visioning

workshop.

And I want to give you a little bit of

overview just to remind you where we

came from and where we're going in terms

of this workshop. So the first session

was focused on the big picture. So

really kind of letting yourself stretch

out have a lot of goals and it's

important for us to do that because

sometimes I mean this is all we a lot of

times this is the only thing we do is

the big picture stuff um but it's

important for us to all do it together

that way. So then this session is often

the more challenging part of our process

which is the consolidation which is

taking all our goals and say okay these

are all my ideas all the things I want

but actually let's drill it down to the

top three that I most want to focus on

and that can be difficult for us and so

this session I feel like is even more

important in many ways uh in terms of

tools and going through processes than

the first session. So this is where we

really get into what a lot of times what

comes up for us with ADHD is the

challenges with consolidation. So this

is a 2 and a half hour session. We will

have a five minute break just about uh

at the hour and then at the end we will

do a some wrap-up discussion after the

session if you guys want to stick

around.

And uh I want to invite Qua who is kind

of been in the background for this

session but you many of you I'm sure

have interacted with Qua before. She's

the brains behind the operation and

she's also u just very skilled at uh

many things. So Qua, would you like to

come on and and do the centering for us?

>> Hello everyone. Um I hope you are all

doing well wherever you're joining us

from in the world. Um I know some of you

it's morning or some of you it's

probably late evening if you're joining

us uh from Europe. So just finding a

nice comfortable seated position and we

just uh do this little short centering

just to kind of help us arrive and get a

little more present for the workshop

today. So, just finding a nice

comfortable seated position

and closing your eyes

and just taking a few moments to take

any gentle movements just to relax your

body.

So, maybe some gentle shoulder rolls or

neck rolls,

stretching out. Sometimes I like to

stretch my arms out overhead.

Just relaxing here for a moment.

And as you do that, starting to bring

your full awareness to your breath.

So, taking some slow full inhales,

maybe holding it for just a moment at

the top

and then slow full exhales.

So just using your breath as a tool to

start to bring yourself completely

present,

completely present into

your body

and into the present moment.

I always like to imagine if I have a lot

of a lot of extra mental chatter

just that I have like a basket next to

me where I place all of the thoughts and

worries and to-do lists

just knowing that they'll still be there

after our centering and after our

session today.

But maybe you'll gather them up with

maybe a few new insights

or maybe just a little less attachment.

So just taking a few more moments here

to take some deep full inhales

and slow gentle exhales.

Just breathing into any places

in your body where you may be holding a

extra tension today.

And then whenever you're ready,

you can start to open your eyes and just

take a few moments here to just connect

in with your your intention for the

session today and all of the work that

you've been doing throughout the last

week to prepare.

I'm just going to pass it back over to

Michael here and we're going to begin.

>> Thank you so much, Qua. That was that

was so good.

All right. So,

I want to start this session with a

group discussion because I would love to

hear uh when we do life visioning and

goal setting, sometimes we're fired up

and feeling really inspired and

sometimes it brings up grief, sometimes

it brings up uh negativity and I want to

give full space for all of that to be

shared today. Uh so since the last

session uh what insights andor

challenges arose during this process and

I want to encourage you if you could to

uh kind of keep your sharing to about

one minute so everyone can share uh and

if you could just use the raise the hand

button uh on the reactions tab uh or you

can just write in the chat and I will

call on you. Would someone like to hop

on the mic and share something about uh

the process they've been going through

this past week or insights or and or

challenges or overwhelm? Any of those

are welcome uh communications about this

process.

John Marie, how you doing? Happy

Saturday.

>> Hello. Happy Saturday, Michael. Um, I

guess the thing that kind of crossed my

mind as I was finishing up this was um,

you know, these I have all of these

these great ideas, goals. I really feel

hopeful hopeful for the new year this

year and which is great but it's like I

have so much trouble even just doing my

keeping to my things that I want to do

on a dayto-day basis.

>> Yes.

>> And it's so it's like oh this seems like

uh this feels overwhelming because how

am I supposed to add new things when I

can't even get in the shower on a

regular basis?

>> Yes. Yes.

>> Or whatever. So

>> yes.

>> Anyway, so that's that.

>> That that is very good and I appreciate

you sharing that because that's so and

that's probably why you know a lot of us

don't do it because we think we're

already overwhelmed. We have no space

for anything else in our life. Um were

any of the goals that you had written

down in relation to stability and just

catching up and feeling like you're

you're stable in the world is like is

that part of the goals that you've set

for yourself? Ye. Yes, I did. Um when I

did my uh health goals, uh one of the

things was

um

let's see. Hold on just half a second. I

just because I want to read what I

wrote.

>> Sure.

>> Oh, hell. Okay. Um,

I'm wanting to feel in my goals, what

I'm wanting, I'm wanting to feel like my

mental health challenges are meant are

managed well.

>> Yeah. Yep.

>> That would kind of include all of that.

>> Yeah. And so I think that that's what in

thinking about today and kind of

consolidating what are the goals, you

know, stay with the things that you know

are like most important. So if something

feels so out of the reach and you don't

feel like you have any energy towards

it, then it might be something you just

reference, put it down, let it sit, but

then keep coming back to what are you

wanting? So it sounds like there's

things that are higher on that list than

the others, even though there are things

that you would really want to do. Um,

but even then, I want to encourage

stretching just a little bit because

sometimes even just a like 20 minutes a

week towards something can make a big

difference. So it may not happen in in

the time frame that you're expecting,

but there is still ways to keep even

just put a it's like watering plants,

right? If you don't water your plants,

they all die. But if you take a few

minutes every week or so or every couple

days and you just spend a couple minutes

wiring the plants, even though in the

beginning they may look, especially if

you haven't wired them in a while, they

may look, you know, totally gnarled and

barely alive, but if you continue to

support them, they start to slowly get

better and start to heal up and you

start to see them, you know, blossom and

eventually turn to flowers and things

like that. And I know that's sort of a a

metaphor. It's used a lot, but it is

true, I think, with goals. So, that's

one way to think about it.

>> Okay.

>> Is that helpful?

>> Yeah, that is helpful. And sorry about

my birds being so noisy in the

background.

>> Oh, they're welcome. I'm glad I got our

chickens are are uh making noise in the

background as well. So, no worries.

>> Awesome. Thank you.

>> Thank you, Jamie. Really good one to

start with.

>> Ryan, how you doing?

>> Doing good.

Thanks for having me again.

>> Absolutely.

you know, I got to the play travel and

creative expression and um like was

struggling and

>> the insight I had was that I have this

need for like play and spontaneity but I

don't ever find room for it. And then

>> what that drives is this like

>> I try to be spontaneous in all my work

and it doesn't have like it doesn't have

the structure that it needs to then

>> give me comfort and safety and all that.

So

>> I realized how important it is to

actually find that like right space for

that play and spot,

>> you know, because I can try to put all

this energy into,

you know, I'm I'm not using discipline.

I'm saying reliability and consistency

in my show up, you know,

>> with my health and my my work, but that

if I don't find this time and this way

to get this need of play and

spontaneating met, then, you know, I'll

probably have it come out in ways that

aren't healthy. So,

>> wow, that's an fantastic insight.

>> Fantastic. Yeah, because it's like that

part of you is there. It's like you

can't shove that part of you down. It's

part of your nature.

>> And so, but it's not always always

>> uh the best expression in the work

situation.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. That's I love it. And also there's

the balance of it too, right? Is that

part of us sometimes doesn't want to

have a lot of structure around it. It

wants it it wants spontaneity play. And

so by its nature, it doesn't always like

structure. And that's a good thing. And

I think with ADHD, we're always thinking

about how much we can uh structure our

lives and we get overly focused on it

instead of allowing ourselves to have

that space to uh to just have that

spontaneous space where we're not

structuring it. Um fantastic. Such a

great great insight. Thank you so much

for sharing.

Uh,

Nat. Hey, Nat.

>> Hey, mate. I've just uh turn on audio

and video. Can you hear and see me?

>> I can.

How is it in Australia?

>> Uh, it was 33°

C. So, I don't know, maybe 80 or 90

degrees Fahrenheit. So, it's pretty warm

yesterday.

>> Yeah.

>> But, so it's summer and n all good down

under, mate.

>> Good. what you got?

>> Um, okay. So, insights and challenges

that arose during this process. So, um,

I'll try to simplify it. So, one of the

the insights I had when I was, you know,

coming up with goals is that previously

I'd have lots of ideas and try to

execute them all and kind of be greedy.

But lately, I've been better at just

focusing on fewer goals.

>> Yeah.

>> Which is kind of, you know,

>> um, uh, like a win for me. But now the

the challenge is staying consistent with

that small achievable goal. So now that

I'm focusing on one small goal, like

I'll detour, go on side quests, and with

time it would uh deviate into something

else. So staying consistent and kind of

um reminding myself what that goal is is

is the key thing for me, not chasing the

bright new shiny thing like every every

couple of weeks.

>> Yes. Yes. Got it. Got it. And then have

you been able to find within the goals

that you have set for yourself that um

there's space for that creativity within

the goals themselves

so that you're not going off track but

you're actually finding some livveness

aliveness in the goals that you've set

for yourself.

>> Yeah. So within the goal itself,

what I plan on doing is just kind of

reminding myself each week what the goal

is, but also massaging it if needed. Um,

like practically speaking, like

rewarding it or creating a a deadline or

just um making sure it's it's current to

my needs. Um, yeah.

>> Good. Good. any insights that you got

from doing the process this last week

that that was uh new something new came

through.

>> Um so so finding

finding time is this kind of only um

partially answers your question. So

finding time to to do the tasks I'm

finding is challenging. But also the

insights and this connects to what Ryan

was saying in terms of uh finding time

for play and joy.

>> Like previously I'd always think okay

I'd have to do the hard work rellated

task and I can reward myself with a fun

joyful task but because I never get over

that initial hard work task I never get

around to playing with joy.

>> Yes. Right.

>> Exactly. So, and and it connected with

this kind of perfectionism thing. I

think with my music stuff,

>> I really want to, you know, do a live

set, but I it has to be perfect and I

don't have time to create a a perfect

live set. So, I would just not do it at

all. So,

>> I think um an insight would be just to

like just create one hour a week just to

just to show up and see what happens

with that playful, joyful, musical task

and then see what happens. It doesn't

have to be this perfect, you know,

ambitious project. Absolutely.

Absolutely. And let it be human. Like it

doesn't have to be perfect.

>> Exactly.

>> Like now we got AI generating music. So

it's like hum our humanity and it things

being having some rough roughness around

the edges is uh is important.

>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

>> Thank you, Nat. That's great.

>> Thanks, Michael.

>> Good insight. Very good insight.

uh user and I'm not quite sure who that

is but

hello.

>> Hi, this is Lisa.

>> Hey Lisa, how you doing?

>> Hey, good. How are you doing?

>> Good. I haven't spoken to you in a

while.

>> Yeah, I know. I know. Glad to speak to

you now.

>> Yeah. What you got?

>> So, yeah, my mind is like flooding with

all the things I want to say. So, I

don't um not sure.

Um

so I first thing I um you know I

I think what I'm seeing could be a

challenge is that for setting myself up

for the space creating the space like um

like last night I didn't want to go to

sleep. I had diet coke which

>> um had caffeine in it late you know I I

didn't work myself. Um, so doing this

exercise, you know, just um was I I just

did it today. I went back to work after

seven weeks this week.

>> Yeah.

>> So, um, but what I what I found is, you

know, once I sat down, got started even

though I didn't want to, um, I got

inspired by my goals, you know, and um,

and one of the things I did act on this

week is I for play and and creativity.

Actually, it's there's play and travel

and then there's creative expression,

but I think play is creative expression,

too. It all kind of they overlap some.

>> Yes. Absolutely.

>> Yeah. So, I I joined the sketch noting

club online.

>> Beautiful.

>> Yeah. And once I once I got on it, it's

you know, I so much fun. I'm so excited

about it. I'm just starting with it. Um

Yeah. So, I guess I don't know. I'm

trying to make a point but

>> well so it's like you're apply you're

applying like creating that space for

that like you were saying the creative

expression you're you're

>> and you're also getting support too

which is what we talked about during the

session last week it's like what kind of

support do you need around it so it's

not just your willpower that makes it

happen

>> right exactly yes yeah yeah so using

that that page that says the books the

people the having this and knowing I had

this at three got me to, you know, sit

down and do what I needed to do even

though I hadn't had much sleep. So,

yeah, that's I guess an insight is the

Yeah. making sure I'm setting myself up,

supporting myself to create the space

and then showing up. So,

>> yeah. Yeah. And easier said than done,

especially when you have a rough night

of sleep or things like that. So, I just

want to honor like you showed up here.

You had a bad night of sleep and you

showed up. So, and you did the exercise.

So win.

>> Check that as a win.

>> Yes. Okay. Looking forward to, you know,

um carving out, you know, figuring out.

Anyway, we're off to a good start, you

know.

>> Excellent. All the actions and seeing

the results is exciting. So,

>> fantastic. Well, it's good to hear you

hear your voice, Lisa.

>> Thank you. You, too.

>> All right. Yes. And today, this is why I

really wanted to have this discussion

today because going into today is we're

going to talk about the challenges that

come up because I don't want to assume

that you guys are just going to go, "Oh,

okay. I wrote my goals out and it's all

good." That doesn't happen. Usually,

it's it's it's hard. It's a slog. And

so, I want to just honor the fact that

it can be challenging. And that's why

this session is so important. Uh,

Jennifer,

how you doing, Jennifer?

>> I'm okay. I'm inspired by you guys. So,

thank you for sharing, Lisa. I

um just had too much overwhelm this week

between medical appointments and getting

back to work. And um I had a big medical

appointment with my husband yesterday.

And I realized driving home, I was

invited to go out with some friends to a

local comedia um comedy night, but I was

like, "No, I need to do my life

visioning homework." I hadn't done that

yet. So, I was like, "Okay, I can't go

out. Um, I'm already going to get my

social time today."

And then I was having um challenges just

like we worked it out, of course, but

you know, and it wasn't a fight. It was

just a misunderstanding um with my

husband last night. So, all I could do

was just sit there and like ruminate

late at night.

>> Yeah. Yeah.

>> And then this morning, you know, so I

had I did have a good night's rest, but

I kind of same thing. We were driving

back from LA, so I was having caffeine

and I was overstimulated, trying new

ADHD medicine, all the things.

>> Yep.

>> Um, but I woke up this morning. I'm

like, "No, I'm going to do my Pilates

because it's hard for me to sit for two

or three hours and focus." But

>> good.

>> I didn't do the homework, but that's

okay. I'm here.

>> You can do it while you're here,

>> right? And I did do like the first four

sessions together with you guys. Yes.

you know, so I just have to So, I'm

happy to be here and I'm inspired by you

all and um I definitely Oh, so I think

one of the things that made it hard for

me to transition,

sorry if I'm going to get emotional, um

>> is because you know, my husband

uh is a brain cancer patient. He just

had surgery number five and that's what

the

>> um appointment was yesterday in LA. were

trying to figure out next steps for

treatment and

>> so I guess I have like all I'm so glad

we did the light visioning last week

because I I you know we've been doing

this for 10 years so I'm not new to this

but

>> it I do get overwhelmed a lot um

>> and so I do need to still keep working

on myself because he was 40 when he was

diagnosed and now I'm 50 and I'm not

getting any younger of course but um

>> anyways I guess I I think that was the

thing that kept me from doing it last

night is like, well, I have too many

unknowns. So, you know, I have all these

visions and dreams, but I don't know

what to focus on. And so, um, but I woke

up today and I was like, no, Jennifer,

you have to take care of yourself. You

have to attend class. Earrin's fine.

>> Yeah.

>> You know, and so I'm in a safe place.

And so let's just like um I think it was

not who had said um you know instead of

overwhelming myself with all of the

goals and visions you know just focus on

one or two.

>> That's it. That's it.

>> I wrote out my little

>> like uh to-do list of like this is the

um anyways my little to-do list. I just

kept it simple. Um,

let's figure I can do like something for

myself, something for my husband,

something for my family, and something

for my career. Just keeping it simple,

back to basics. So,

anyways,

>> fantastic. Yeah. And and you and you got

you've been through a lot and and when

it's that long of a process, I mean,

it's so like you said, it's important to

just take care of yourself, too, just so

you can be present.

>> So, I just admire that. I'm so glad

you're here. And I think

>> I'm sorry to be emotional. I do have a I

do have my caregivers support group on

Monday and I have my counseling

appointment on Thursday. So I do have

support and that was so important. I

think it was it Lisa who was talking

about that.

>> Yeah.

>> Um to make sure at least on a weekly

basis I have my own,

you know, personal one-on-one support

time. So

>> essential. Really appreciate you guys a

lot.

>> Ah, thank you so much. I'm so glad you

could join us and and I liked your

approach of just look at what you want

in those areas and just pick a couple

like if it really is about it's always

in the moment. We're always going to

take some action in the moment. When we

get too far into the future, it's

completely overwhelming. So the the goal

of of us doing this is because our

brain's always doing this kind of work

in the background anyway is to bring it

to the forefront but then continually

bring it back to the present moment.

what can we do right now to move

something forward and get those needs

met. So, thank you, Jennifer. I'm so

glad I'm really glad you're here and I'm

really glad appreciate what you shared.

Ah, we got a great crew here. Um,

Brendan,

hey Brendan, what you got?

>> What's up, fam? I wanted to say just

family's feeling good. I'm I'm

>> Yeah. Yeah.

>> Off off camera. Jennifer, everybody's

amazing. Questa, I was listening. I'm

sorry. I'm um

>> I'm accepting where I'm at and and

that's I'm going to say I think you've

said that last week, Michael. And uh

I've I'm behind with some work projects.

I've got my editors working on a Google

Meet. I'm watching that. I I just can't

be fully present as I'd like to be, but

>> and I I fully didn't do some of the

homework. It's just a crazy week for

work, but I'm now just sort of accepting

it and doing my best. And I I just want

to give a shout out to all of y'all and

>> I'm here doing my best with my editors

on another on my another window. We've

just got a a project due, but I'm

accepting where I'm at and

>> uh just doing my best and I think we all

are and we got to give ourselves some

grace and um

>> that's kind of that's what's coming up

for me.

>> Yeah.

>> So

>> yeah, beautiful Brennan. Love it. That's

that is it. And especially when we got

this wiring, it's it's a full-time job

just to manage life. So self-acceptance,

recognizing that, you know, we're in the

pool with a lot of other people and uh

we do our best.

>> Yeah. Yeah. Thank you. And I I again I

I'm a all or nothing guy. Maybe I need

to be less of that and just be like I'm

I'm here. I'm um doing my best. So

anyway, I'm I'm I'm with you all. Thank

you. Yeah. Beautiful. Thank you,

Brendan. I really appreciate that. Um,

yeah. And I woke up, I had a Oh, man. I

had a miserable morning. I felt

terrible. I usually don't have bad

mornings, but this morning was just

particularly I was just in a vile,

terrible mood. Really did not feel good.

And just connecting with all of you,

it's just like, yeah, we're all we're

all in this together. And it's also

really important that even when we're

feeling funky, that we can still come

back to what am I wanting? because the

default is usually things that are

somewhat self-destructive. So, if we can

find our way through together to that uh

that is a that's a key piece. Um Lisa,

if you hold for just one second, I just

want to make get to a couple people and

I'll double back to you if that's okay

because I think that's the same. I think

that's Lisa, right? This user. I want to

just make sure I get to one or two other

people. I saw that uh someone posted

that um was it Charlie?

I think you posted. Yeah, Charlie. Is

that okay? and then I'll double back to

you. I'll make sure we we double back.

Um

Charlie, how you doing?

>> Hey, doing good. How are you?

>> I'm doing great.

>> You're doing better now. I'm glad to

hear that.

>> Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I have it,

man. When I wake up in the morning,

people think I've just got this perfect

life where I'm just happy all the time.

It's like I I wake up, I usually have to

like claw myself out of bed, but within

you like a few minutes, I'm usually

okay. But today was a little less so.

So, it's just what it is. That's how it

goes. But I feel good now.

>> So,

>> you had a podcast recently.

>> Recently, you had a podcast where you

were interviewing actress. I forget

>> Ginger. But, uh,

>> Ginger.

>> Yes. Ginger. And you guys both had

horrible mornings.

>> We did. I don't get them very often like

that. But, but when they do, they're

more power. There's something powerful

about them now because like now I'm like

reflecting like, "Oh, yeah. That was a

really powerful interview." And I was

pretty crappy going into it. So, here

you go. It's how it goes.

>> I appreciate your honesty. I appreciate

everybody's honesty here. Um, you know,

this life is hard and

>> yeah,

>> there's no time to sugarcoat or

our way through that.

>> That's right. That's right.

>> And this is what this is all about. I

mean, if you're life visioning, you got

to be honest about your life.

>> That's it. That's it.

>> And the obstacles.

>> Yep.

>> Yeah. And today is about looking at

those obstacles. today is about like

kind of being practical about okay

you're we're our wiring may not change

so how do we how do we work with it how

do we manage it

so what do you think what's some insight

I would c curious to hear some insights

you got from going through this process

>> I had a pretty busy week especially like

um with my wife um having some health

problems and a lot going on um and it

was just a little more stressful then

either of us really had anticipated.

>> Yeah.

>> And um

>> Yeah.

>> I didn't do as much homework as I was

hoping to. And then I'm seeing your your

email earlier today and

>> was like, "Let's have those three life

goals, you know, in mind." And I was

stressing out about it. I was stressing

out

>> and I just took a moment, you know, and

and got ready and and was in the shower

and was just

>> thinking about those life goals and and

was thinking, it's just making this a

lot harder

>> than it really is. I mean,

>> what do I really want with my life? And

why is that so hard? It's because I'm

thinking too much about what other

people want from my life,

>> what what my career trajectory should

look like.

>> There you go. So, I just just kind of

removed all of that and asked myself

honestly what I really want my life to

look like and what the three things I

care most about are. And it was easier.

>> Oh, I love it. Now, that's the kind of

breakthrough I'm talking about. That's

it. Like not about other people, what

other people want for you, what you

should be doing, but that deeper thing

of what do you what does that deeper

thing inside you want? That's fantastic.

And so, did was did it come easier then

once you connected to that?

>> Yeah. Yeah, it did. Um, I sat down and

I, um, wrote down those life goals and

got a good framework for what I want to

work on today.

>> Fantastic. Fantastic. Beautiful,

Charlie. Good share. I really appreciate

you sharing that. that that's that's

such a key point to get to that core

thing and and just reminding all of us

to keep doing that because that's what

this whole process is about is not about

what you should be doing but getting to

that deeper aliveness inside you and how

do you feed it

>> well thank you for doing this I'm

excited to get to work

>> you got it manh

it's good this is good I feel like I'm

feeling lighter already um all right and

I just want to make a quick note But

like the some of the morning was good. I

think Marva was just like been working

very hard this last week. Uh because I

do have one win that came through this

morning. It was pretty spectacular. I'll

share it a little later. Um Lisa, I want

to get you back on the mic. Hey Lisa.

Oh, are you able to unmute yourself? Try

it again.

>> Yeah,

>> there you go. I am

>> um so so just another thought is that um

I know pe people have been speaking to

this um

my so my what I'm want wanting to know

is how do I make sure that the things

that I don't feel like I can do now um

will happen. So like so for example for

my service goal I put you know just be

there for reach out to someone who I

know needs support pick someone each

week and what I feel like is that I

every time I set goals for the year

>> I could because of as you say you know

our brain wiring I could always feel

like I need to focus on these simple

acts. Um but At the same time, you know,

I've got other pipe I'll call them pipe

dreams, although they're only they don't

have to be pipe dreams, but they feel

like they

>> So, like, for example, like I I'm drawn

to like I really, you know, want to help

people like with maybe being a coach or

um a mentor, you know, I I did go to

classes before to for coach

certification for ADHD coaching.

>> Yes. Yes.

But it's so like how do I make sure that

those big goals happen when it feels

like I need to just focus on this simple

thing. Um you know it's uh it sits there

and sits there because it always feels

like well let me just do this simple

thing.

>> Yes. Yes.

>> And that's really that's a good point

because I think there's it kind of goes

into how our brain works, right? your

brain tends to kind of like everything

because everything tends to flood

together then it's hard for us to think

oh I can do this and do this or I could

set up a structure where I can you can

get the support with the coaching where

you're meeting with someone twice a

month to even just like talk about it or

start in building that process up. Our

brain tends to not do those things very

well. So I think first of just like

recognizing that to begin with and then

making sure that we're not setting

farmer goals. Farmer goals is I'm going

to do this every week consistently no

matter what. And that's the farmer goal.

That's really hard to do for us. It's

it's easy for us to do it like initially

but then it gets harder. So sometimes

it's just okay I'm going to I want to

forget about meeting with someone once a

week. Maybe I'm just going to just

connect with some when's the next time I

can connect with this person and do this

one service thing and just start the

process instead of having a very heavy

goal that has to do with you having

enough willpower to do that thing every

week on your own. So I would say uh

underestimate and we'll talk about this

later. underestimate uh over overest

wait let's see what would it be it would

basically assume that you don't have

enough willpower to do everything. So

you want to reduce the willpower

necessary to do some of these things and

you do that through getting people

getting support from other people. It's

finding ways so that it's not just all

on your shoulders to make that thing

happen every single week.

>> Is that helpful? Does that make sense?

>> That's helpful. Yeah, that's definitely

helpful. I I love what you said about,

you know, I I I do have that frame of

mind where it has to be weekly. It has

to be a routine and just

>> So, you're saying just the next the next

thing lower the assume I won't have the

willpower. Um

>> Yeah. Yeah.

>> And get support, accountability, like

you like balance out the willpower with

with another person. Have something

scheduled so it's not just on you. work

a way to make that in or just say,

"Well, I'm going to do this for like

instead of saying, I'm going to do it

once a week." A really good tweak that

seems to work well with my clients and

myself is to say, "Okay, I'm going to do

this for I'm going to give myself a

challenge of two weeks in a row." That's

my challenge. And and your brain looks

at that differently than I'm going to do

this every week forever. Like our brain

just doesn't do that well.

>> Yeah. Right. So, and so, so kind of

tricking your brain to and sometimes we

can do the same thing and just look at

it from a different angle and be able to

accomplish it. Whereas, if you've to if

you I would say this across the board,

if you ever say to yourself, I'm going

to do this same thing day in and day out

no matter what for my whole life, part

of your brain's going to short circuit.

It's just going to go, I I don't know

how that's gonna happen. But if you

could say, I'm gonna give myself a

two-eek challenge, that's different. And

so often then habits can form out of

that. So that's why I would saying like

but with that particular goal, I'd say

accountability. You probably need

someone else as a support person on that

one.

>> Right? If I have like a bigger goal that

I'm just not getting to and I'm feel

like I'm caught in the weeds or doing

the smaller things

>> that are that that are a service but

that aren't really getting me to that

goal, then I just need to build in

supports and keep it small. Absolutely.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. Yeah. And just it's just the

support. It's like my rule is if I if I

keep pushing something out, I've got to

schedule it with someone else. That's

the only way. I just know I'm not able

to do it. I just, you know, and without

judgment. I'm just like I can do a lot

of other things. Well, like this is

stuff that I don't do well. So, I need

to call in support. And we're communal

animals. We need community. We like

that's at the core of all this is we

live in kind of an insane culture that

doesn't honor how important community

is. our our ancestors never lived this

way. So, at the at the the core of it is

all of that. We're living in a very uh

dysfunctional society. That's just how

it is.

>> And I will say that when I had a

coaching call with you, there were

things I had put off forever and then I

we scheduled them. We put them in and I

and Yeah. So, I got it.

>> Yeah. So,

>> there you go. Thank you. That's such

great. I really appreciate us going into

this. Hopefully that's helpful for other

people because I think those pieces are

are perennial for all of us to deal

with.

>> Yeah.

>> Thank you, Lisa.

>> Thank you.

>> Anyone else have any want to Let's see.

We're at Yeah, we got time for maybe one

or two other people and I saw a few

hands that went up and went down. I

would love to hear from a few other

people. If nothing else, I'm just saying

you're here. You're saying hello. Uh I

just want to like love to kind of have

your voice be part of the conversation.

So, does anyone else have anything

they'd like to share um before we move

on to a few other things before the

break?

Insights,

challenges, overwhelms,

excitement, confusion, all are welcome.

All right,

I like it. Jillian,

how are you doing?

Hello. Um, very appreciative of um,

hearing from other people who are uh,

still working on their um, papers.

>> Yes.

>> That I'm not I'm not the only one who

kind of had the week get away from me in

some ways.

>> Yes. Um I just one of the things that I

had I I found when I was trying to go

through this I was super motivated right

after the workshop last week and one of

the things that I found was that as I

was sitting down and trying to do um

uh written like just sort of processing

work that there were lots and lots and

lots of thoughts coming up that felt

like

>> um they were the best

>> the the best thought I had ever had. Um

>> but

uh and the insight was that often that

happens and then I sort of push it aside

to stay focused.

>> Yeah.

>> And um I'm left with a memory of having

had a thought that was really good.

>> Yep.

>> Which is a really bad feeling. Yeah.

>> And um because I was kind of focused,

what I did was um

I grabbed a piece of loose leaf paper

and have started just like a log of

thoughts

>> and it was really useful for me to kind

of

>> have that kind of because it's a it is a

type of processing of these um things in

in that's going on at the same time. And

so to kind to

>> just have a place to park that so that

it didn't distract me but then also

allow that processing to happen was very

>> Yes.

>> helpful.

>> Yes. Absolutely. And and processing

writing stuff down is crucial I think

for because it's it's all banking around

like you said and then to be able to put

it into a linear form by writing it. It

really does help. That's why I always

encourage a sketchbook or write a

notebook to carry around with us just so

we can I I need it like I if I have

walking around I I need to do that

otherwise it's too much for my brain to

handle. I need I need to be able to get

it out. And a lot of times it just

floats away and that's fine. But

occasionally, like you said, like you

have an insight,

>> you need to process it so that it you're

you're telling yourself, if nothing

else, this was important.

>> And also, here's all this other stuff I

need to clear out of the way in order to

get to that thing that was most

important.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. I love it. I love it. And also, I

want Thank you for mentioning that. I'm

going to make sure that that all of you

have some space to do any extra homework

that you guys need to as we go into the

next session here. Uh well, it looks

like I got a number of people raising

their hands. So, thank you Jillian. I'm

going to get try to get to everyone and

we'll we'll keep rolling. So, what I

would say is if you didn't get some of

the other goals done, like you feel free

to do it now. There's no right or wrong

way to do this. This is not school. This

is about you doing the things you care

about. So, just take your time and

hopefully you get to the like really

look for if you haven't done a couple of

the goal categories, pick a couple that

you know are really important. Don't

feel like you have you should do a

category if it doesn't jump out to you

in terms of spirituality or service or

whatever. Okay, so I'm going to try to

go through talking to everyone here

quickly. So, we'll probably I'm going to

just go through Patty, John, and uh

Yara, I believe is how you pronounce

your name. and I'll try to wrap up here

in about 10 minutes and then so we can

keep ourselves to time but I think we

got plenty of time and I definitely want

to hear from you Patty.

>> Hi Michael.

>> How you doing Patty?

>> Excellent. How are you?

>> I hope you're doing good.

>> Better and better as the session is

continuing on.

>> Time has a way of doing that doesn't it?

>> Yes it does. And good community good

people's.

>> That's right. Exactly. Exactly. So, um I

was surprised about the reaction that I

had last week to um looking at our my

needs and kind of putting those together

with my goals and affirmations, the

whole the whole all three like

inspiration and support. Like there are

just things that popped out that I was

like, "Oh, that doesn't really feel that

good."

Um, but surprisingly I

>> because I'm not really too good at going

back and revisiting things that don't

make me happy.

>> So, so

>> you and me both, Daddy.

>> Yeah. Right. My goal in life is just to

do fun stuff.

>> Anything to avoid those things is

usually the strategy, right?

>> That's right. Exactly. But, um, so yeah.

So, and um but I did I was able to do

that and part of the reason is because

um I think because um you had said that

when we're feeling depressed that a lot

of times well of course it's

biochemical, but you said a lot of times

it's that our needs aren't being met.

>> Yeah. And I never really

thought about that that much. And you

know, and um I think it was Ryan who

said like having goals that are my goals

and not what someone what what would be

what would appear as like a great goal

for me to someone else.

>> Yes. So anyway, I somehow I managed to

get through all that muck to come up

with um that

I have I have these needs that I didn't

even really think about that much not

having them met. And um and in doing the

inspiration and support section, I was

like, well, I can get it. Like I can

>> I could do it. I just didn't really put

put it I never saw in black and white

like here's what I need to do so let me

do that under under inspiration and

support let me call this person let me

reach out to this person and have lunch

like that kind of thing you know

>> yes

>> so it was very helpful all of that was

very helpful all that was very helpful

and

>> fantastic

>> for them

>> oh thank you Patty I love hearing that

that's see to me that's

>> really that means a lot because it's

what I'm hearing is that when you see

that you can call in support like it's

not all like you don't have to just

generate all this energy by yourself to

make it happen there's there's way to do

yeah beautiful

>> that's right that's right yes thank you

and thank you yeah and I and I often get

that from your podcast and whatnot but

it's not that's not the same as these

other needs that I need to have met so

>> yeah

not to not do it all in a little bubble

>> that's it that's it we're not meant to

be isolated that that the core of it is

isolation is is not how we're meant to

live.

>> Right. Exactly. Thanks, Michael.

>> Thank you, Patty. That's I love it.

Wonderful. Jean Marie, I'm going to call

on you very last. Is that's okay? Uh let

me get to Yara. Uh I believe that's how

you pronounce your name.

>> Hello.

>> Hello.

>> How do you pronounce your name?

>> Hi. Um the real pronunciation would be

Yah.

>> Yeah. Say it one more time. And I

believe like you can say yara.

>> Yara. Okay. That that's my attempt.

Hello. And you're in Israel, right?

>> I am.

>> Yes. Thank you for joining us.

>> Yeah. I'm I'm happy to be here and um

I'm um I'm a bit excited,

even maybe a little bit uh nervous, like

I feel like the new girl in class

because I missed the last meeting.

>> Yes. Um

and I think what came

as as you were talking and asking about

it,

I have two um experiences

to do with what we are doing. Uh one of

them is moving between um the experience

of being overwhelmed

>> Mhm.

>> by it all.

>> Yeah.

um which is a common experience for me

that comes it comes and goes and on the

other side uh being able to take it one

step at a time

and planning you know mind mapping and

everything.

>> Yeah.

>> And the other thing is where do I aim?

Do I aim high to my dreams?

>> Or do I settle for something not as

high?

>> So this is a big question for me when I

come to make the decision.

>> Oh, that's beautiful. That's beautiful.

Can I offer a reflection on that?

>> Yeah, sure. So I I like the way you put

it and I think and I think that a lot of

pro please post in the chat if other

people can resonate with that because I

think that's such a key piece and I

think you can have both because

ultimately like you like aiming high is

probably what you intuitively want to

do.

So do that, but then there's going to be

steps to get there. And the steps to get

there are the journey, right? And so I

always think about if you're traveling,

like if you're trying to find north and

you're heading north, the goal is not to

get to the north pole. The goal is to go

north. The process of is going north.

And so the way to think about it is like

aim high for sure and then always then

come back to then how do I then take

this big dream and scale it down into

something that there's a next milestone

that you can hit that's well within

reach because ultimately the big dream

is going to be a bunch of smaller

milestones to get there anyway. So I

think it's both.

>> Yeah.

>> What do you think?

>> I guess so. Sometimes um it just when

I'm looking at the

at the high goals,

aiming high.

>> Yeah.

>> It sometimes seems unreachable.

>> Yes.

>> Like

>> Yes.

>> How do how do I get there? Or or the

fear of um

of um not being able to make it.

>> Yes. Yes. like uh pushing it away.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. This is good. Well, this is the

perfect session because this is all

we're going to be talking about today.

And that's a really key piece. And I

would like I just want to encourage like

stay with the lofty goals and like the

next milestone is going to be the thing

that I'm going to really encourage you

to do in the session because some part

of your goal even if it feels completely

unattainable

there's one aspect of it that is always

there's always one piece of it that is

and like the kernel of what that desire

is for the goal is the thing to pay the

most attention to.

So, I hope that's helpful. Yeah, thank

you. I appreciate you bringing that up

>> and welcome. I'm glad you could join us.

>> Now you're part of the team.

All right. So, we'll go one more here

and then uh I'm going to call John Marie

and then we're going to do just a quick

uh couple notes here and then we will uh

take a short break stretch and then

we'll get into the main part of our

session today and going through some of

the exercises. I'm loving this group. I

really enjoyed all of your sharing.

Thank you all so much for being

vulnerable and open. Uh it just really

creates the pot or stirring the pot here

and uh just like last time. Um, and I

think we're going to get some really

good things out of this session today.

John Marie, what you got?

>> Hi there. Um, I just wanted to share

just a couple of things that have some

insights that have come through. Just

learning from you and learning about my

condition. Um, that's been just a little

over a year now since I knew that I was

ADHD and I was clueless. I had no idea

at all.

But it makes so much sense. But the

thing was that like my whole life um I

never really like somebody said, you

know, well who you know people are

always like know yourself. Do what you

you know know who you are blah blah.

That was just like a clueless thing for

me because I was like a chameleon. I

mean I was and if I was in this

relationship I I turned into that

person. if I moved to, you know, and it

was like my life had been chunked into

my boyfriends that I've had over the

years or whatever marriages or this or

that.

>> And um but one of the things I'm finding

now is that it's just kind of happening

and it really is like a service thing is

that I am starting to be able to

identify very easily people that I am um

that I'm that I know. I'm being able to

identify that they are ADHD.

>> Yeah.

>> And they don't they don't know and I'm

being able to start to share the things

that I'm learning from you.

>> Beautiful. Beautiful

>> with them. And so this crossed my mind

when Lisa was talking about coaching

blah blah, you know, that sort of thing.

Excuse me. I didn't mean to say blah

blah about Lisa. I

>> No, no, no, no. I'm sure she

understands.

>> Yeah. And um so like I just am like even

I so but I look at my friends and

they're so like overwhelmed. So I'm like

well how can I teach them about mind or

planning because they're so overwhelmed.

>> And my my best friend um who

is has been for the last several years

she has even come and she says I want to

know what that thing is that's on your

paper when I walk in your house. I knew

how to do that because I need it. And so

Yes. Anyway, anyway, you are helping me

help other people.

>> I love it. I love that. That's what I

love hearing.

>> Yeah. So, thank you so much. And I'm

starting to know who I am. You know what

I mean?

>> That means a lot. Thank you, Jean

Marriie. What a what a beautiful

sharing. I And I'm thrilled to hear

that. And we've talked about that in the

last I think it was the last session we

talked about like there's some that this

is seems to be part of your path. You

know sometimes when we do this healing

work it's like this is my work with you

guys is the result of me doing this work

for myself and then passing it on. And I

feel like that's it's it's a human

thing. It's not about an occupation.

It's not about a career. It's just a

natural human thing to work on things

and then have the desire to then support

other people.

>> Yeah. It's so interesting that that

you're drawn to people that are the

same.

>> Yeah. It's just how it goes. We call

them in and there's a lot of us, too.

So,

>> there are.

>> Yeah.

Thank you, Jearine. Beautiful. Beautiful

addition to our discussion today.

>> Thank you.

>> Thank you.

All right. So, that's great. I'm Man,

I'm feeling better already. This is

great. Uh, and I feel like we kind of

covered a lot of the key pieces going

into what we're we're going to discuss

today. I think we we kind of we got

underneath just like I think a lot of

times when we have these kind of

aspirational workshops and I know you

guys have gone to them, I've gone to

them. If there's a part of you that's

just like eh I don't know, life's hard.

I don't know if I think I can do all

this. There's got to be space for that

to work through. So okay given that in

our last session we went through and did

some of the categories but the ones that

we didn't talk about uh because because

of time we had creative expression

spirituality and mindfulness

play and travel and service those were

the ones that we had already discussed

so I would love to hear from each person

you don't have to go through all of

those But one goal for those of you who

did it. Some of you may not have done

these. What's one goal that you had in

any of these categories? So, and feel

free to write multiple, but please post

in the chat so other people can also get

ideas. So, with creative expression or

spirituality and mindfulness, play and

travel or service, what are some goals

that you have in any of those

categories? Please post in the chat. And

if you didn't do this work, then now is

the time to do it. So maybe think about

what is one goal that I have in any of

these categories. So creative

expression, so that's art, music,

anything that's creating for the sake of

creating and not for money or for

anything else. Uh spirituality and

mindfulness is anything to do with your

connection to the universe or just your

your connection to presence and being in

the present moment. Play and travel is

anything to do with play. We've talked a

lot about that one. And then adventure

and then service is giving back things

that like your extra energy where you're

just volunteering your time to others.

So please if you could post in the chat

so I'd love to so other people can see

as well. Uh Joe, I have designated time

for hobbies. Excellent. For those of you

workaholics out there, and I know I can

be one, too. Uh we need to have that

outlet. Uh fantastic, Brenda. Brendan,

uh really got to meditate within an hour

of waking up. Excellent. Love it. Uh

Lisa, play travel. I find fun in small

adventures. Yes, like day trips, things

like that. Start each day with one fun

thing. So, uh, it makes you want to

move, smile, and sing. Love it. Keep

monthly mini adventure in mind. Love it.

Day trips, day adventures. Big big deal.

Jean Marie, I want to get back into

working with glass. Oh, I love it. Oh,

yeah. Definitely. Uh, Nicole, spend

three times a week outside of

rehearsing, practicing my singing. Good.

Especially when we're doing like if

you're doing that for a living in any

way then having some space to just do it

for fun really important. Meditate

morning and evening better sleep.

Excellent. Love it. Preston I practice

Luxio Deinia every day. Beautiful.

Love it. Uh Ally spirituality

mindfulness. One month of weekly

feelization meditation. My goals being

met to enhance connection intuition.

Beautiful. Love it. Love it. Uh

Michelle, meditation daily and to be

more present. Excellent. Spirituality

and mindfulness creativity. Eric, start

finishing songs and recording and

releasing them. Yes, Eric, do it. As

someone who's who is a musician that

went through that whole process and

dealt with my inner uh critic and had to

go through that journey, it is one of

the most rewarding journeys you can go

on. Highly suggest you do that. That

sounds great. Uh I forget. Do these

messages also appear with the recorded

Zoom? Yes, they do. So, that is up to

you.

Share at your own risk,

Lisa. This is what I wrote and I think I

need to tweak it. You advise not to make

the goal daily or weekly. Do you think I

should simplify? Yeah, and that's fine.

And if you wrote down weekly, that's

fine, too. I was just trying to make a

point given what you were sharing that

and a lot of times when I'm coaching I

do it so much that I kind of have a

intuition that kicks in and when I for

you specifically I said oh maybe weekly

maybe is there's another way to talk

about it but if you have something

weekly as a goal that's okay too we

going to discuss a process in that but I

do wanted to just I wanted to make that

point for you uh Charlie make more time

to write about what's on my mind

journaling with discipline Beautiful.

Excellent. Uh Patty, spirituality

journaling once a day. This has been a

goal for quite a while now. Now I'm

linking it to daily walk, which has

become nearly a regularly routine.

That's it. We're going to talk about

that later. Link new habits to existing

habits. Always a good idea.

No problem, Brendan. Ryan, create a

mastermind group for sharing strategy,

inspiration, and place for

accountability. Ryan, do it. That's I I

think a lot of the work that comes out

of my work doing this came from working

with mastermind groups for a long period

of time during my 20s specifically. Uh

Eric, play travel road trip with friends

this summer hopefully. Yes. Love it.

Anyone else before we we go to to a

couple notes here? Okay. Uh Julian,

minimum Oh, yeah. We got a couple more.

Good. Uh

Jillian, minimum of three minutes breath

work after exercise as a backdoor into

meditating because meditating is hard

but treating it as part of a

physiological exercise makes it less

daunting. Yes, such a good insight.

Absolutely. And then Tai Chi, Chiong,

all those things are also yoga also

really good ways to integrate

meditation. Burggate, I meditate briefly

in bed before falling asleep for

calmness and better sleep. I immediate I

meditate immediately up uh upon waking

up while still in bed reciting

affirmations for the day. Beautiful.

Love it. Uh let's see. Linda spiritual

by monthly artist way dates. Love it. To

create to create artist way dates to

creativity advance. Today I went to a

mindfulness and movement session at the

art museum. Beautiful. And I love it.

And for those of you who haven't heard

before, like when I wrote Drummer in the

Great Mountain, the one of my source

books that I was aiming at as as like my

affirmation, I always pick an like two

or three sources of something that I'm

working on creatively, the the artist

way was one of them. And it actually

ended up turning out kind of what how I

intended. So there you go. Uh, okay. And

John Marie, I want to have something

going on on my calendar. Looking forward

to that will be an adventure to you.

Love it. Okay, fantastic.

So, we're gonna take a break here in a

second, but I actually I'll tell you

what. I think we should take I'm going

to just let's we're going to do this all

in one session. So, I'm just let's I'm

going to move this over to

this slide and then we're going to come

back. We're going to take a break. So,

let's take a five minute break. We'll

come back and then we're going to start

working on the exercises of drilling

down the bigger goals into smaller goals

and picking a couple that uh you think

we feel like are the the key ones to at

least focus on today. Okay. So, we'll

take a five minute break and we'll be

back. So, get up, please. Encourage you

to get up and stretch uh if you can get

outside, breathe some fresh air. Okay,

five minute break.

Okay, everyone, when you're ready, if

you're back, if you could write back in

the chat so I know you can hear me and

hopefully everyone can hear me. Okay, I

saw there was some challenges with the

audio that it may be your connection,

but I just want to make sure. Can

everyone hear me? Okay, because I saw

Jean Marie said she was having a hard

time. It may have been her connection,

but

okay. So yeah, it may have been the

connection.

Excellent. Okay. Okay. Yeah. So, Jean

Marie, that might just be your

connection.

Okay. So, let's go back a ways here.

So, my fresh air is snow in North

Carolina. I Patty, I heard this. In

fact, I was just talking to some Nancy

who I think you'll be listening to the

recording is in Montana and she had very

little snow and she said back in North

Carolina where she was living was just

tons of snow and cold and freezing. So

interesting weather weather we have.

Okay, so we want to talk about an

approach to goals that works for us,

especially now as we're starting to talk

about consolidating goals and getting

some focus on a few of them. Uh, so I've

been a life coach since 2007, which is

crazy. I still think that's kind of

nuts. Uh so I've been doing this a long

time and uh the common methods for goal

setting and following goals for us for

ADHD is usually really overwhelming and

that's why a lot of us can get excited

about going to a goal setting workshop

and then fall off because we're just not

it's the approach isn't right for us. So

we want to aim for a process that's

loose enough for so that we can feel

comfortable doing it but tight enough so

that we can make progress. So, it's not

an eitheror thing. It is finding the

middle ground between having like a

strict way to approach it where you're

just going to just exert tons of focus

energy towards your goals and on the

other hand like having that spaciousness

where you're like, "Okay, I'm just going

to set the intention and let go." Uh,

it's somewhere in the middle is what I'm

recommending.

uh these processes that we're going to

go through aim to find the sweet spot,

that middle spot, so that you can really

get some progress going, but it's not

stressful to you. Because again, these

are goals are about you. They're about

what you care about. There's no this is

not a homework assignment. Um and we I

want to encourage you to take the

concepts that we're going to talk about

today and then adapt them to meet your

needs. So if it doesn't quite feel

right, pick the things that do and work

with them. Don't feel like you have to

go exactly according to the structure

that we're doing today. But in order to

learn it, I want to encourage you to

just go through the exercises as we go

through them today just to get a feel

for how they they sit for you. So the

main objective is to make goal setting a

regular habit. So for us, we tend to

have a huge list of actions and items

that we we want to do and that then we

look back at that list and we never want

to look at it again because it gets

overwhelming. who has the endless action

item list that they feel overwhelmed by

and you look at it and you never like

it's just hard for you to look at it and

you just rather go do something else.

Who has that experience? Yeah,

it is really really hard for us to do

this with the classic. So

what we can do is make it a habit

though. So instead of thinking like goal

setting is a oneanddone thing, it is

it's a something that you do on a

regular basis. And sometimes we got to

remember our goals and rewrite our goals

many times and they're going to change

and morph and evolve. But if we don't do

any of it, then we don't make any

process progress at all. So, it's like

trying to blow on if you anyone's ever

done some like naturalist work where

you're trying to m make a fire with um

with like a um a a drill where you're

taking a taking a piece a stick between

your hands and rolling it and getting

some friction so you can get a fire

going. It's kind of like that. Knowing

how to get yourself inspired is

extremely useful is extremely useful

skill to develop that that bow drill.

Thank you. And what we're trying to do

is just get the inspiration is just get

that spark to get the fire lit towards

the thing that we want to do.

Inspiration is what motivates us. We're

not usually driven by something

practical or we are driven by

adrenaline. So when we get to something

where we have to get something done and

we're forced to do it, we will do it.

But when it comes to the things we care

about, we got to find some way to to

generate some of that inspiration to

move us forward. So part of that means

we prioritize our goals. We need to say

to ourselves, okay, we've got all these

goals. We did all this work in terms of

goal setting. Now, we need to prioritize

and say we need to pick and today for

today's session, you're going to pick

three goals. Okay? I'm going to talk

about how you might want to do that. So

choosing three goals to start with. And

if you if this feels overwhelming to

you, just do an eeny meenie miny mo.

You're going to take three goals and

we're going to work with those. But

ideally we want to go in approach it

from this c this way. So you can pick

three goals. So we have we have all

these different categories. Ideally have

one from from different categories but

you don't have to. So it can be from any

category that you've written out. I

highly encourage you to have one health

goal if you haven't done it already.

Okay. So if you haven't if you if health

goal is not on the top of your list

maybe have one of them would be my

suggestion but you don't have to do

that. So in order to choose three goals

one way to do this is pick one that you

think will make the most positive

difference in your life

and then pick another goal that you most

want to achieve. It's the one like ah

that's the one I really really if I

could do that that would be great. And

those two might be different. And the

third one is something very easy to

achieve. Okay. So, what I want you to do

is take a moment

and when you're done, write done in the

chat. I want to encourage you to pick

three goals, specific goals that you've

written on your goal sheets. For those

of you who didn't do your goal sheets,

please go back and take a look at them.

Maybe you can even just pick three right

now off the top of your head. And when

you're done, you don't have to write

them in the chat if you don't want to,

but write done when you're done. I'm

going to give you guys maybe three

minutes to do this. Okay? So, choose

three goals that you want to focus on

today as we go through this exercise.

And again, ideally, pick pick one easy

one. Maybe you pick one health goal, but

that's not mandatory. and then maybe

pick one that's makes a positive

difference in your life and one you most

want to achieve. And when you're done,

please write done so I know that you're

ready to go to the next

the next part of our exercise today.

And recognize this may be a little

challenging for you. So if when in

doubt, just pick three at random. You

don't have to overthink it. But if you

can identify the one big one where

you're like that one, if I could really

make progress on that goal, life would

get better, then go for that. So just re

review the notes on the screen and when

you're done, please write down because I

do need to know when you guys have done

the work so we can move on. I don't want

to rush ahead too much.

And to answer the question some of you

may have, can you pick two goals from

one category? Yes, that is not a

problem.

I'll give you guys maybe one more minute

to to go through and pick these.

And for those of you who haven't done

the goal setting yet, that's okay. Maybe

you just take a moment and think about

look at those categories and write out a

couple goals.

Yes, Jennifer, for from things you've

already written, so basically from the

work from last session. And if you

didn't do that, that's okay. Then this

might be a good time for you to kind of

look back and go, okay, pick pick three

categories that you most feel like need

support in your life. and maybe write a

goal for each of them and maybe that's

what you work on.

Is choosing a goal that you've halfway

achieved cheating? No, that's fine.

That's cool. That could be your easy one

to achieve. That's totally fine.

A lot of what we're going to be doing is

just walking you through the exercise so

you can see how you could potentially

take especially something that's you

really care about and really walk

through the process of distilling it

down. So when in doubt, just pick one.

Just pick three and and we'll work it on

work on it. And you know, as we I'll

give you guys a couple more seconds

here, but if you would like ju just pick

one to start with and then we'll go

through the cycle for two more. So

you'll have a little space to then pick

the other two if you'd like.

Okay, good.

Anyone else need more time before we

move on?

Please write yes. And I if you say yes,

I'll give you a little more space

because I I do want to make sure you're

on the same page with us.

Okay.

Okay. So, if you're still picking, we'll

just pick one and we'll we'll start with

that one. Okay. So, I want you to get

out this sheet. If you do not have these

sheets printed out, that's okay. You can

just look at the sheet and we can uh you

can write it down on a uh your notepad

or a piece of typing paper, whatever you

want to do.

Okay. So to begin with, I want you to

take which the goal that you've written

and in that um actually scratch that. So

what I'd like you to do is in the life

category in the upper right hand corner,

write whatever category the first goal

is in. So health, work, relationships,

upper right hand corner next to life

category colon. Write the category

for the goal. Once you've done that, in

that area to the right of the word goal

at the very top, write the goal. See if

you can just fit it into that blue line.

You can cross over the line. Do it just

so and you can even simplify the goal in

writing it so it's even shorter if you

would like, but write it in that area if

you could.

Yeah, Patty Patty, this is in your PDF

worksheets. So, if you don't have them

or you didn't print it, then you could

just go off the screen here and then you

can just take a piece of paper and copy

this down. You can do it that way. And

you could just do this in a straight

line down. Just put category, goal, and

then answer the questions that way.

Okay.

Once you're done, let's move on to the

first question, which is why why is this

goal important to me? And this is import

like having this simple self-reflection

about a goal is actually really

important. So take even if it feels kind

of oversimplifying, please take a moment

to do this work. So in that little area,

I want you to take a moment and write

why this goal is important to you.

And when you're done, so I can we have

some feedback back and forth. Please

write done in the chat so I know that

you've completed

and then we'll move on to the next

question. And we'll do this for one and

then the next set we won't do this.

We'll do it have a little more

spaciousness around it.

Why is the goal important to you? What

is the why is it? Because a lot of times

we have goals. Uh I think Charlie to

your point, I think you were the one

that mentioned it. If you don't know why

you wrote the goal, a lot of times we

get into have to and shoulds and someone

else told me I should do this. Like I

don't want any shoulds or have to. So

that's a good insight for us to look at.

Okay, why do I really want to achieve

this goal?

Why is it important to me?

Okay, I'll give you guys about another

maybe 45 seconds to a minute here just

to make sure you can get that one done.

And really like I can't like when you're

planning your day and even writing goals

for yourself, knowing why something's

important to you is part of the fuel to

make that thing happen.

And sometimes it's like even just like

if the goal is like keeping your house

clean, then the goal like why you why

it's important to you is it might be

around self-esteem. It might be around

um feeling respected, which is we're

going to talk about and actually the

needs here in a second. So that's why

doing this work is very important.

Okay, let's move on to the next piece

here. Feel free to keep writing on the

past one if you need to, but I'm going

to keep rolling. So how will you feel

when you achieve this goal? That is the

next question. And and and the question

is also what needs do you hope to meet

by this goal? And so here's your needs

list. So take a look at this list and

ask yourself which of these needs are

getting met by accomplishing this goal

or moving towards it which see I don't

accomplishing is is only part of it

actually the movement towards a goal is

equally important so I want you to in

answering that next question

how will you feel when you've achieved

the goal like tune into the feeling

presence of like what it would feel like

for you to to in a real way accomplish

that goal and what needs will it meet?

And so take a moment, answer the

question and and there should be at

least one need on there. I it would be

almost impossible to be a goal if there

wasn't at least one of the needs that

are going to be met from it. So, and

when you're done, please write done in

the chat so I know you're completed with

this particular assignment. And I'll

give you guys maybe two minutes on this

one.

And if you have any questions, please

post them in the chat. I want to make

sure you understand what I'm asking for

here.

As a refresher, your psyche, all of our

psyches are built on needs. Needs are

the the fuel that make things happen in

a lot of ways. So if a goal is to be

useful, it's going to meet a need or

multiple needs, period. There's just no

way around it

just because this we're human and this

is how humans work

and also this familiarizes you even more

with the needs list. This needs list is

your friend. I would encourage you to

post it somewhere in your house. This is

your doorway to a happier life is

understanding how needs motivate your

actions.

Okay, we'll go for about another 30

seconds and then we'll move on to the

next question.

And hopefully there's some aha moments

as you do this work. When I started

working with needs, it was revvely. I

started to really understand, oh, this

is why I want this. And also, it helped

me change goals. I would actually from

doing this work, I went, "Oh, you know

what? I need to change how I'm looking

at this goal."

But today, you can always go back and

adjust it. Let's just stick with what

you got for now. And then you might want

to go be you may be inspired to go back

and adjust. Okay, let's move on. So the

next question is for this particular

goal. Which of your strengths and talent

and talents will assist you in reaching

this goal? That is the question. And

again, I want you to really think about

yes, we have our challenges being wired

this way. But we all have gifts and

strengths that especially because of our

wiring that we want to bring to bear on

a particular goal. Now, for some of you,

this may be really challenging depending

on the goal. So, if you have a hard time

with with this one, that's this one's

okay to leave blank, but stretch a

little bit. Think about how any of your

strengths and talents may assist you in

reaching this goal. Get creative about

it. And when you're done, please write

done in the chat so I know to not move

on until uh you guys have wrapped up.

I'll give you guys about another say

minute and a half to two minutes on this

one.

and even if you left it blank because

you couldn't come up with anything,

write done just so I know that you've

you've completed the that particular

exercise.

And whenever you're feeling um low

self-esteem or your challenge, like just

taking an inventory of your strengths

and tal talents is a really key thing to

do, your skill sets, things that you've

developed. We all have lived a life. We

have skills and talents that we have

developed, but I really do want to lean

on those ones that are innate that feel

like they're natural to you. Many of you

it'll be a creative probably some form

of creativity that will be part of it I

would guess. But then there might be

some very specific skills and talents

that you've developed that may support

you in this. Again, this is stuff that

we never talk about. We never think this

way as we're going through our lives.

That's why these questions are important

to do as an exercise.

Okay. So, another 15 seconds and we'll

move on to the next question.

Okay. And if you're still going, feel

free to keep going, but I'm going to

keep rolling here so we can get to the

to everything. What support and

inspiration will assist you in achieving

this goal? This is an important one

because again, I want you to start

thinking about your goals in terms of

what do you need to build up behind them

to ensure that you're moving towards

them. And we had a good conversation

about this one today. So, I think you

might have some insights on this, but

what support and inspiration can assist

you in achieving this goal? And we've

already did some of that work last

session, so you can carry over some of

the things you already wrote onto this

one if you'd like. Okay? And then once

again, give you about a minute and a

half. When you're done, if you can write

done so we we can move on. And again,

feel free to move anything over from

last session from that that sheet that

you've already done so you can just

write it right in there.

But especially if it's a goal you really

care about, take the time to write this

one. Take the time to think about it.

Get creative about it.

because it's it really is in for how

we're wired support and inspiration are

the things we usually forget to put into

the to the mix.

And like I said, like to give an

example, when I wrote the book, if I had

written my goal out, I would have said,

you know, completed a successful book on

ADHD. And one of the sources of

inspiration was the artist way. So

that's I mean to me I live by this this

this is how I make especially as an

artist and making a living as a graphic

artist and having done that in a

previous lifetime uh earlier my life

I've learned that you don't start from

scratch you always start with some

inspiration it makes everything so much

easier

so again when you're done please write

down in the chat

can think of support for journaling

daily. Uh, I would say even like a

YouTube video, some like an audio

listen, find like a little snippet of

something online that would maybe talk

about maybe look up the artist way. Look

up Julia Cameron if that's what you're

doing or just just any little thing that

would be like, "Oh, okay. Yeah, I'll

watch that." Or just listen back to this

could be possibly part of the

inspiration. Something to that effect.

Brain drain morning pages. Yep, there it

is.

Yeah, that's a good idea, Ally. Search

for I'll get online. Search for journal

prompts. That's also a really good idea.

Uh, please let me know when you're done

so I know not to move on. So, uh, please

write done in the chat because I didn't

see everybody yet. So, I want to make

sure you guys are all wrapped up.

Okay, good. We're moving on. Okay. So,

here's a major concept that I really

want to stress for all of you. If you

get nothing out of the sessions,

milestones is one of the things I really

want to bring home because this really

is often a missing piece for how we

work. Okay. So, working with milestones.

So, a milestone. So, you don't have to

have it all figured out. when you look

at the goal especially I think Ayara

mentioned this um when you have bigger

goals lofty goals you're like h I'm

never going to achieve it so why start

so the only way to approach them is to

have milestones to have if you think

about just the visual component of that

where it comes from I think Roman times

where they would have a stone every mile

to track how long a a a trek would take

right so a milestone is just marking the

the path from one place to another.

That's what a milestone is. So if you

feel overwhelmed by how to accomplish a

especially a larger goal, milestones are

your friend. As well as even smaller

goals. So the thing is to ask yourself

instead of trying to figure out the

whole thing and sit down and mind map a

huge massive project and then just get

yourself completely overwhelmed. Ask

yourself what's the next milestone?

What's the next place of arrival? and as

get it as close to your current location

as possible. So the first milestone

should be not that far from where you're

standing right now. And then ask

yourself, what action can I take? What's

one action I can take towards getting to

this milestone? This is the this is a a

cheat that will help you in in amazing

ways. This is like a bio hack that

really will help you move towards the

next thing. It's like a life hack. So

what is the next step? So the question

is what is the milestone

and then what is one action you can take

towards moving towards if you think of

just a path and you think of your your

next thing is is one milestone away what

is the action you you can take that will

start moving you towards that milestone.

So here are some examples of milestones

attended a yoga class three weeks in a

row. Okay. So, think of it something.

It's something you arrive at. It's not

an action. It's a thing that it's a

place you arrive at. It's a little

different. Uh wrote the first chapter of

a book. Rough draft. That could be a

milestone. So, if the book if your goal

is to write a book,

writing the getting to the first chapter

done in rough form is the first

milestone. Some of you mentioned uh I

think Charlie mentioned music. I think

it was Charlie. Um recording your music.

If it wasn't, I apologize. or maybe it

was Eric. Um, the goal, your first

milestone might be record one song in

whatever form you you like. Just the

first milestone is like or the milestone

could be set up the equipment and have

the equipment set up. Uh, having the

project mapped out could be the first

milestone. So, you've completed a

project map. Uh, reached out to your

parents two weeks in a row. That's

something that's a like if your goal is

to stay more connected to your parents,

then the first milestone would be two

weeks in a row you've reached out to

them. Uh reached out to one person for

networking. That might be a milestone

you would arrive at. Found an exercise

buddy. Notice that I'm saying it in past

tense, like you've accomplished it

already. You found an exercise buddy.

That's a milestone if you're wanting to

have a regular exercise routine.

Interviewed one bookkeeper. So, if you

want to pull in support for finances and

they're overwhelming to you, the first

milestone would have been interviewed

one bookkeeper. So, a milestone could

technically be kind of connected to an

action, but it's it's a place of

arrival. Can't stress how important this

is. I talk about this constantly in my

coaching with coaching clients. So,

what please take a moment and when

you're done writing your milestone,

please uh write in the chat chat so I

know that you're done.

And I want to bring up the sheet here so

I can see the sheet because I don't have

it in front of me. Hold on a second.

There we go. Okay. Yeah.

And as you're doing this, once you've

written your first milestone, I want to

encourage you to think about what are

the actions towards achieving the first

milestone. So for example, if I picked

one of like the fir one of these here

interviewed one bookkeeper. So, the

first action would be uh get online and

start looking for bookkeepers in the

area or get on Facebook and put the post

out to friends and see if there or text

some friends, see if they have any

recommendations. That would be the first

action. Uh project mapped out. That

would let's say that that's the first

thing. The first action then would be to

sit down at the computer and start

working on the project map for like an

hour. That would be an action towards

achieving that goal. Attended yoga class

three weeks in a row. The first action

would be pick a yoga class that you're

going to be doing. Right?

So again, when you're done with uh and

then let's talk about doable actions for

a second. So feel free to like write the

milestone and start working on your

actions. So when I'm think about doable

actions, they're clearly defined.

They're already distilled down. So try

to make the actions simple so you know

exactly what you need to do. So a doable

action would be something like get at

get in get out and sort receipts by

category would be a good action.

Schedule appointment with an accountant

is a very specific action. Try so avoid

things like do taxes like things t

actions that have a lot of subtasks.

We're wanting to write those subtasks

now in terms of when we're writing about

getting to that first milestone. Okay.

So when you're done, please for all of

that, write done with actions. So I know

that you're complete.

Again, these are specific actions

towards arriving at your first

milestone. And it could just be one

action. You don't have to write a ton of

stuff. It could just be one specific

action.

And then and sometimes it's multiple

actions depending on again just think

about the milestone and to to arrive at

that milestone. What are the actions

that you need to to do in order to get

there

and multiple actions, yes, are totally

fine, but it might just be one. There

might just be one action to to reach the

milestone.

And this is where we're going to talk

about this. So, if it brings up some

stuff, we're going to talk about that.

But do your best right now to just think

about what are some actions that will to

get me just to the first milestone. Not

the whole goal, just to arrive at that

first milestone.

And if you could write done with actions

when you're done so I know you're

complete.

And this is where it gets a little dicey

for us. This is where it gets a little

challenging, but I want to just again

taking a small chunk and breaking that

chunk down into actions. What's the

first milestone? What are some simple

actions to take to get there?

It should feel a little bit like you're

stretching a bit.

All the doubts and overwhelm say yes.

And that's not unusual. So again, if if

that's the case, just try to get to that

one action. Even if you don't if it's

not even all the actions to achieve the

first milestone or you may want to

choose a ve a smaller milestone. If it

feels really overwhelming, it's still

maybe too far in the future and you

might want to pull it back even closer

to where you're standing now. Cuz

ultimately, if you get it to the place

where it's it feels like, oh, okay, I

can do that, you're heading in the right

direction. If you're still overwhelmed,

it's probably a little too far out. And

then after we'll after this we'll we'll

go through and actually ask some qu

answer some questions on it. But do your

best.

What if it requires some farmer task

that I keep avoiding? Yes. Pick one

though. Pick one. Pick one farmer task

that that it's like okay it's not even

maybe get you to the first milestone,

but it may be one action and it also may

mean you need to pull in some support to

get it done.

Uh Lisa, is being on time to work on

Monday too small? No, that's good.

That's perfect because it's specific.

It's like this Monday being on time for

that. That is it. And so there could be

some actions related to uh planning this

on Sunday night, making sure that you're

set up uh Monday morning having like

this. There's going to be some actions

to get you to that uh being on time

Monday. That's perfect. That's actually

a perfect milestone. Lisa

is everyone is who still needs more time

on this particular one.

Is everybody good?

Okay. And then the last point here for

this exercise of analyzing a goal is

what habits and systems uh are going to

be helpful for you to achieve this goal.

And so this one hold it lightly. Don't

get too uh caught up on it, but I felt

like it was important to add it to the

list. So for example, habits and systems

that have been really life-changing for

me that have supported many, many, many

goals. First one no doubt is exercising

in nature on a daily basis. I can track

most good things in my life to that one

habit. My life would be very different

if I didn't have that one habit in

place. It is the cornerstone habit. Um

journaling when I'm stuck or upset. So

when I started to really learn about

journaling and utilize it, not because I

should or had to, but just because it

was a natural way for me to process

things, that was also a life-changing

habit for me. Mind mapping

essential. I don't know how I process

information without it. Um, making sure

that I'm writing down and capturing

ideas as they come so that I don't just

let them fly away. uh mindful eating

which is like no screen time or

multitasking when I'm eating is

something that has become a big part of

my life. I can't say I do that perfectly

but definitely meals that is part of how

I work. Uh which and again these are

just mine you have yours. Uh meditation

which is off and on. I can't say that

that's like a perfect habit but it is as

of the last couple months it is

establishing a ritual place for writing.

So that for example when I was working

on the book I never tried to write from

home and intending how I wanted my day

to go that is something I do constantly.

So these are some habits that are

examples from me that may be something

like aspirationally you might want to

move towards that may help you with your

goals. So um in terms of thinking about

the habits, so I want to encourage you

to write any habits that are connected

to the goal that would maybe assist you.

Um as you're thinking about good habits,

habit stacking is really important. So

connecting new habits to existing habits

is very helpful. Building streaks so

that you're aiming for like three days

in a row, you're giving yourself a

challenge is also a way to build a

habit. uh creating a ritual space for

the habit so you have a place you go

where that habit becomes more solidified

um and then the the thought of I will do

this specific behavior at this time at

this location is a good formula I think

that's from uh atomic habits and I

really like that piece uh creating a low

barrier of entry if you're trying to

build a habit making sure that it's very

simple for you to do reduce the friction

for for uh good habit habits and

increase the friction for bad habits.

Those are just some suggestions on how

you approach your habits and systems. So

once you're done with your first goal,

please write done so I know that that

sheet is complete and we can move on.

Some of you have already probably moved

on, but I just want to make sure I'm

tracking all you guys.

And there might just be one habit. And

if habits is overwhelming to you and it

feels like I don't really want to put

anything in there, feel free to just

ignore it. It's okay. I've just copied

what was on. Yes, that's totally fine.

That's totally fine, Nat. No problem.

Okay.

Uh I'm going to move on. So, here's the

deal. Here's what we're going to do.

Sheet two, we're going through the same

process. You know how to do it. Now take

the next goal.

Take the sheet. Write the goal out.

Write the life category in the upper

right hand corner.

Your second goal. If you I want to

encourage you to go all the way through

this. Try to do this three times. We're

going to use three sheets for to for

doing this. Write the goal out in the

goal area

and start the process. So, I'm not going

to go through the the process uh again

because you guys know how to do it now.

But what I'm going to do is I'm going to

bring up the needs list and I'm going to

answer any questions you have. So if you

have questions about your next goal or

this process, write them in the chat. If

my talking is annoying to you, you can

turn the sound off and that's totally

fine. Uh but I want you to let me know

when you're done with goal number two.

And if you could write that in the chat

when you've done the sheet to your to

the best of how you want to approach it,

type write done with sheet two so I know

you're complete. And what I'm going to

do is I'm going to bring up the needs

list because that will be helpful for

you to look at to answer some of your

questions. Okay? So go to town with goal

number two and when you're complete,

write done with sheet two. If you have

questions, please please feel free to

write them in the chat.

And I'll give you guys maybe about five

minutes on that.

Maybe I'll tell you what, maybe four

minutes. And if people need more time,

let me know and we'll stretch it.

Okay.

And I'd say the piece that I I would

strongly recommend is most important

about this exercise is the milestone

and the actions towards that milestone.

Really lean heavily on that because

that's the thing that you're going to

most need to get out of this exercise.

But do your best to actually go through

each each question as you go through

assessing that goal.

And if anyone needs to see the milestone

list, uh, I can bring that up as well.

If you need an some examples, just write

in the chat and I can switch the slide.

And again, when you're complete, write

done with sheet two so I know where

people are

No problem, Linda.

Got you covered.

Oh, you know it. It's back here. Hold on

a second.

There you go.

And again, when you're done, uh, let's

go for about another minute. Maybe when

you guys are complete done with sheet

one, if you could let me or sheet two,

let me know so I know that you've

completed.

Yeah. Well, and that might be the note,

Jennifer, is like getting that support.

I mean, that could be the goal is like

pulling in support for farmer task. It

might be the goal of uh just building

out the structure because just because

that's might be what you need right now.

Less willpower, more strategy is often

the best way to do it. Uh Patty says,

"If I don't have the need met today,

should I not list it as a doable action

for this milestone?" for example, money

to do an action. Okay, that's well you

could earning the money is maybe the

first step. So you could potentially do

that. You can pick something and say

maybe if you can drill it down to a very

simple milestone and say, you know, uh C

goal X that's about acquiring the money

to do it or and but I honestly I think

maybe the first milestone is something

like uh you know acquire the money and

then be specific. Here's how much money

it is and then write the actions that

would lead you to get the money

necessary to hit the first milestone.

Again, this is an exercise that is I

don't expect you to do this every time

you set every goal. What I'm trying to

do is illuminate the process in a way

that you probably don't look at goals.

And this when you do this exercise, it

gives you insights into how you approach

things differently than you've been

approaching them now.

I need so much support already. Yeah,

that's it. And that's why like picking

Jennifer picking like the top ones like

what's the big goals that you can say

okay that that will move life better

that life forward and then what's one

simple small milestone to hit especially

when you're feeling overwhelmed when

there when it's when life is like pick

an area where you're like ah I've got to

get some movement in this world in this

area and drill it down to something very

small. Make sure that milestone's really

small. It's really close to where you're

at just so you can feel like you're

making progress.

Can doable action just be just do it?

Absolutely. Some of it is that for sure.

Some of it is just like I got to

motivate myself to do it. And if there's

as you're writing the actions, maybe

don't think overthink like oh how I'm

going to do that. Just write the action

down just so you go okay that's that is

the action that needs to take. How you

get it done may be something we need to

talk through.

It's fine to just have one doable

action. Yes, absolutely.

Some some milestones only require one or

two actions.

Is everyone complete with sheet number

two?

Okay. So, obviously the next step is to

move on to sheet number three. So, for

those of you still um cruising on sheet

two, keep going. Move on to sheet number

three. Same process. go through, write

the goal, write the category, answer the

questions, place the focus on the

milestone and the doable actions to hit

the first milestone. And yes, as as as a

few of you have mentioned, make that

first milestone as close to where you're

standing as possible because it's going

to help you. And also, I will have some

space both before but probably after we

wrap up today. So, if you're having if

you're struggling with certain ones, I

want to make sure you get the support

you need. So, just write it down. Even

if you're like, I don't know how I'm

going to get there, that's okay. Like

Jennifer, uh, feel if you can stick

around, I would love to actually support

you in getting some more clarity on

that.

There you go. And so hopefully there's

one fun one in there for you. Okay. Now,

I'll work on the one that is trumping

everything else, which is helping my

husband heal. Yes. Yeah. And and the

milestone just might be an internal

milestone for you. It doesn't have to be

something else. It could just be

arriving at a place where you feel um

clearer

or feeling more supported. And some of

that might be the you know this again

how you're approaching therapy because

you mentioned you you've got a therapist

that you're working with. So th those

ones are tough. That's a tough goal.

Tough one. But maybe take a moment and

maybe there's some insights there as

you're writing it that may be helpful to

you.

Yes. Yes. That's it. That's it. And

that's why this process is hard. Like

when when life is hard, this this stuff

isn't easy. Um but what I would say is

maybe focus on the things that feel

grounded because that has such a charge

and it's so overwhelming. Maybe think

about the really practical simp like the

things that are even the ones that feel

overwhelming like the farmer tasks. Um

anything you can do to move some of

those forward would might be a place to

to put some focus.

And when you guys are all done with all

three sheets, please write done with or

put all done. How's that? When you're

complete with all three sheets, write

all done. If you have any questions for

me, please feel to post them in the

chat. Uh you're in the home stretch. You

guys are doing it. But I would encourage

you to do all three to the best of your

ability.

Uh Charlie says, "With my wife's health

problems, long COVID, chronic fatigue,

uh a lot of debilitating setbacks, I