You Need To Stop Gaslighting Yourself

one of the most devastating things I've

ever heard from a patient is one patient

once told me when I get an 89 on a test

why is it that no one looks at the 89

questions I got right and instead

focuses on the 11 questions I got wrong

so the negative beliefs that we have

about ourselves are actually things that

are taught this is the gaslighting right

so this is crazy but I was talking to

someone recently was telling me that you

know the biggest challenge I have is my

parents don't know how to be happy and

it becomes my responsibility now whether

I get married on time whether I get the

right profession whether I have kids all

of these things my parents happiness is

dependent on me this kind of stuff leads

to gaslighting this is the real

gaslighting the real gaslighting is your

parents telling you that the only way

for me to be happy is for you to achieve

the real gaslighting is oh you made a

mistake how could you be so stupid of

course you made a mistake you're

learning and when people learn they make

mistakes