Why We Devalue Hard Things

it's much easier to live my life if I

devalue the things that are hard for me

to get so back when I was your age and

let me know if that's like you know some

Boomer level stuff that like runs you

the wrong way but I mean so when I was

like can I tell you a story I'm going to

do a little bit of lifting here give you

a break for a second if you're cool with

it yeah I'm good so my friends and I

used to do something really dumb in

college like so we'd like you know we'd

be like going to parties and talking to

girls and stuff and like sometimes

you're like crushing on someone right

and you got to let me know if the termin

ology I'm using is like outdated and it

doesn't make sense okay and so I I you

be crushing on a girl and then you like

get up the courage to ask her out and

then she says no and then we did

something really interesting we'd be

like ah I wasn't that into her

anyway yeah yeah some yeah right so like

if I devalue her it doesn't hurt as much

that she said no hey and it was like Hey

like she was the hottest chick on the

planet before she said no and like I was

like working up courage I made all these

plans I invited her to get bubble tea

she said yes then I invited her to get

to a party and so like you you maneuver

because you really want her to say yes

but the moment she says no you're like

ah her loss that's some dude yeah man so

that's devaluing what we can't have

because it hurts but then the problem is

that what the thing we got to be careful

about is that if we start doing that

we're actually suppressing what is

important to us so we like numb

ourselves to it and then we end up kind

of where you are where it's like there's

a lot of stuff that you want but you're

not able to fully be honest with

yourself about it which is like normal

by the way totally normal yeah does that

make sense mhm