Every Mom Needs to Hear This...

The mistake that parents make is that

they go right into the no word. They

don't use empathy. They don't bring

empathy in. And the truth is that even

as an adult, if somebody just says no

without first recognizing how you feel,

you feel very unsatisfied,

right? For a child, it's critical.

>> So, I would turn to my child and say,

"You want sweets? Are you hungry?"

>> Yeah. You can say, "I can see that you

really want that packet of sweets. I can

see how hard it is cuz you really want

it, but you know you can't have it

before dinner. You know that's the rule.

>> And then they start screaming.

>> And then they start screaming and you

say, "Oh, I can see it's really hard for

you, but you still can't have the

sweets." And you stay with them and you

keep empathizing and then setting

structure.