Should You Forgive Emotional Abuse? #emotionalabuse #marriagehelp #narcissisticabuse #forgiveness

Is there a time when extending

forgiveness is actually not appropriate?

Complicated topic, right? I'm not

talking now. I'm not having a spiritual

conversation with you. I'm not going to

debate what scripture says about this,

but I want to think practically

because I know many of you think that

you have to forgive. You are demanded to

forgive or you're demanded by someone

else to forgive them. I'm going to give

you five reasons why you may want to

hold off on forgiveness. Why you may

want not want to extend forgiveness,

especially when there's uh ongoing harm

and there's no remorse and

reconciliation would expose you to

further harm. Number one, if there's

ongoing harm, if the person is still

engaging in harmful behavior, forgiving

prematurely can enable and even

normalize the abuse. Number two, what if

there's no real accountability for harm

that is done? Forgiveness, if you

quickly forgive without acknowledgment

of wrongdoing, can feel like erasing the

harm. Number three, if there's a power

imbalance and there is coercion.

If forgiveness is being pressured

internally or externally, if it's being

demanded by the offender or by others,

it can be a form of control. And it no

longer then is a free and loving