How to detach and not care

hello guys in today's video we will talk

about how to not care or how to detach

now obviously in life we are going to

Care this is a very normal human need we

care for our loved ones we care for

others but there is a very fine line

where it is just too much and it will

start draining you and you kind of Lose

Yourself if you lose your mind over

someone or over something that someone

has said about you or you're trying to

defend your reputation you will lose

lose everything you will give all your

power and all your energy that you have

to that one person they will feed off of

you in this life you cannot afford to

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name is Liz and welcome back to my

channel let's get right into it first

things first understand the higher

purpose of what is happening to you for

example I have a platform right and with

a platform comes a lot of hate and comes

a lot of people making stuff up about

you I have to deal with that in a way

where I never react until it's super bad

and I'm going to sue the person I cannot

react to these rumors why because the

minute I react and I try to explain

myself these people win so I cannot

allow that to happen I can only allow to

sit back and ignore it and never engage

in it now why is this a lesson for me

because when I was younger I always had

to overe explain myself to my parents I

always had this need of to prove myself

and to prove that I was a good kid

because I was never getting that

validation now when I'm in this position

and people are lying on my name I am not

allowed to prove myself and I should now

be okay with the fact that people will

not see or will not understand you the

way that you want people to understand

you you can bend over backwards and

people that are not willing to see you

will not see you and you have to learn

to be okay with that you have to learn

that you know this person might not see

the magic in me but that doesn't mean

that I cannot look in the mirror and see

the Magic in myself this person might

twist my words take it out of context

and say that oh this is what she said

when that's never what I said but you

have to be okay with that was their

version though they're speaking from

their world if someone imagine with me

if someone is really negative from the

inside they're not a bad person but

they're just negative okay whatever you

say if you say life is beautiful they

will say life is miserable and who do

you think you are you have to come to a

point in life where you become okay with

people misunderstanding you because you

understand that everyone is free to look

at life in their own way you trying to

make people understand you or make

everyone trying to like you is you being

controlling but they all have their free

will people can love who they want to

love and people canot love who they

don't want to love and that is okay once

you understand that you know what

they're free to do whatever they want

become free from this illusion of

control so just let it go he couldn't

love you at this time or she couldn't

love you fine someone tells you that

they don't love you it shouldn't make

you question your own wor it should make

you understand that they have a lack of

capability of loving you at this time

and that is fine that is okay you cannot

force people into a box to give them the

kind of love that you want true love is

however it shows up and letting go of

someone you loved and not caring isn't

you acting like you never loved them or

or you know I was better than this no

you love that person and that is okay

but you don't have to keep carrying that

hurt with you or feel like oh my God I

need to validate myself I need to get be

more beautiful because then they will

see what they lost no one lost in this

situ ation if you were able to get free

from a person that wasn't able to show

you true love you won already you don't

need to look better do better get

revenge on people that couldn't see you

other thing is do not try to appear too

perfect in 48 Laws of Power uh Robert

Green actually talks about this that

when you appear too perfect you attract

too many enemies and competitors because

they think that you are better than them

the people that just show up

authentically who who they are they are

not held to a standard or a box that

they need to fit into because they

create their own box if you're a person

where you are defined by your beauty and

people just see you as a beautiful girl

now if you make that your whole image

and you try to appear almost perfect you

can never be caught looking not good you

always have to live up to that image

because if someone has ugly picture of

you out there that is it your world is

crushed so once you come out of that box

and and you think you know what I'm okay

with people not finding me attractive

I'm okay with people thinking I'm a a

mean person or I'm whatever your soul is

so free to create on its own as long as

you know from yourself I'm a good person

to myself and the people that I love and

and just people around me anyways who do

you have to prove anything to who are

these people that you are trying to

prove something to like it's really

funny to me like people will crumble at

words from strangers that they have

never even met these people have never

even seen you in real life they have not

even breathed the same air as you and

you will feel bad because of something

that they said stop overthinking like a

lot of people they will care too much

because they overthink about situations

they think like oh my God I lost this

friendship and now this friend's

probably everywhere saying this this

this and blah blah and they will do this

and expose this or like oh my God I I

lost this boyfriend because probably I

was not great enough and probably I

didn't have shut up quiet your mind

literally what are you doing to yourself

take the situation for what it is if

someone left your life just think like

okay great like he wasn't the one for me

I wasn't the one for him and I will find

someone that is the one for me okay if

your friends left your life I always say

thank God like thank God I saw who that

person was and they're gone now because

God has a great plan for me start

thinking like that and stop overthinking

situations because the only person

you're torturing is you honey if you

lose yourself you lose everything

if you lose your mind you lose

everything look at people that lost

their mind other thing is do not allow

your emotions to get the best of you

often times when we are in an emotional

state we think very irrational that's

why a lot of people sometimes when they

go to the extreme they even un alive

people when they're so emotional but

when they're out of the emotions they're

like oh my God I would I would literally

never do that that is really sad you

cannot allow all these emotions take you

over and completely take you out of your

rationale in this moment you should

think okay am I thinking emotionally or

is this what really happened is this

what is really happening oh my God my

life is going to end I'm never going to

is that is really happening or is that

you thinking emotionally really ask

yourself you have to be able to calm

yourself down because once people see

that you are so emotional and you react

so emotional to things you're very easy

to manipulate you're very easy to

control when even if you are this

emotional of a person that's very

beautiful because I'm very emotional do

not publicly go and cry about haters or

whatever cuz now you gave them what they

wanted uh-uh honey do not show those

emotions G grieve in private grieve in

silence and in public make sure you are

composed because all these toxic people

are just waiting for someone to be as

emotional as you and to get what they

want from you understand energy exchange

look people that uh are celebrities they

love to be talked about whether it's

negative or whether it's positive

because people are giving them energy

they will even pay publicists to plant

fake stories that are not true and that

are even negative so that people talk

about them create more drama around

them whatever you engage in is an energy

exchange when you look at these rumors

when you look at this hate you're

exchanging energy with that person you

are giving that power as long as you

don't not [ __ ] care because at the

end of the day these people would

literally un alive someone to be in your

position and that is just the truth okay

no one is so invested in you for no

reason who do you think God sides with

at the end of the day you think that God

sides with people that are inciting pain

and hate on someone and gossiping about

them trying to tear them down of course

not God sides always with the person

that is on the receiving end of that so

you are only getting more blessings you

are getting all of their energy honey

you are winning what you do now is you

transmute the energy my sister actually

told me this she's like Liz you are

actually like an alchemist anytime you

get angry anytime you feel happy

whatever you feel you transmute that

into a creation so I will start making a

video I will start making art I will do

all of these things but I always

transmute my emotions into something

that is how you should work anytime

someone says something to put you down

it should give you motivation to

transmute M that energy all the energy

that you get from drama negative energy

it's a lot of Penta frustration right

put it into something that you can

create with it like study harder work on

your business do anything that literally

is going to benefit you more and more

whenever I see a comment that says like

oh she's not going to achieve this blah

blah that's it more motivation I'm like

thank you thank you God for sending me

haters because now I want to do it even

more the way you detach is by

understanding that whatever is meant for

you will enter your life no matter what

you do this with my life like so many

times I try to do things on my own where

I like I look for a 9o5 job when I was

younger and all these things and always

I would get pulled out of it no matter

what I do it wouldn't work out or in my

previous relationship it just wouldn't

work out no matter how much I try to

work make it work or whatever it's

because when something else is meant for

you you have to arrive there so when you

have that faith in God and you say you

know what if this friendship left my

life it wasn't meant for me or it's time

to end for this friendship now you know

we both did our part in each other's

life now you're meant to go if this

relationship is ending okay great we

both did our part in each other's life

now you're meant to go but whatever is

meant for you no one will ever be able

to take your blessings God played very

fair in that God is very fair whatever

is meant for you will always come your

way in the most miraculous ways in the

most unexpected ways you just have to be

willing to receive that because when you

are just literally thinking about oh no

but I wanted this ex even though he was

abusive it's like yeah but what was

meant for you is trying to come in but

you're not letting go and you're just

attaching yourself constantly to

something that you're already meant to

let go of so when you do that then what

is meant for you can come in you know

how many times I've told this to friends

like just let it go and watch and they

wouldn't do it wouldn't do it the minute

they let go like this something new

comes in a whole new reality

have faith guys have faith also think

often times in life when you attach too

much to

something God tests you in a way where

they will take that thing from you

because we will leave this earth by

ourselves and I honestly think death is

a beautiful thing and I think when I die

I want it to be celebrated I don't

really want it to be like a funeral and

Everyone crying but I think we should

celebrate people's life that the souls

had a chance to come to Earth and

experience this it's beautiful you know

um but that is the case though you are

meant to leave this earth alone so when

you attach to something you are not

ready to experience the the life that

God gave you which he said this is all

temporary you came here to learn your

lessons but see you cannot attach to

something so hard that when you lose

that thing you're going to lose yourself

because if you allow that to happen

that person that friend those people

that are hating on you whatever they're

going to continue with their lives and

now your life is

destroyed why give them that

power you are such a powerful human

being when you just understand that

whatever comes into this life is

beautiful I'm meant to experience it but

when it leaves it's still as beautiful

because I learned from it take your

lessons and move on like it's a

beautiful new beginning it's like being

born again you

know we constantly in our life let go of

things we let go of our childhood

version of ourself of our teenage

version of ourself one day we will be

old and we let go of our adult version

of ourselves you know but isn't that a

beautiful process isn't it beautiful to

to be able to experience these things

don't give people power to take all your

energy to take your your mind and take

your

honey you are glowing honey you are

powerful you are so spectacular and I

know you cannot see it right now and

it's okay to grieve things it's okay to

feel really bad right now and it I know

it sucks but this cannot take you over

you can grieve you can cry you can do

all of that but it shouldn't completely

take over your whole life know that you

cannot see it for yourself right now but

life changes so fast in one week week

you can have a new life even in one

second you can have a new life just by

the decisions that you make you can

decide for yourself will I continue to

just put myself down feel bad about

myself or do I today decide that oh my

God this is the last time that I'm going

to constantly cling on to this I let

this go and you will you'll feel like

once I let this go oh my God such a

relief I'm free now I can go on and I

can do something that fulfills me that

pours into me as much I pour into to

that and not just you pouring into that

thing and not receiving anything back

and I promise you when you have

something in your life where you're

giving more than you're receiving it

will be taken from you because that is

not fair that is not fair there's always

an energy exchange happening where you

should receive something back anyways

guys I hope this video helped you guys

and yeah I see you in the next video I

love you guys so much bye-bye