Let's Talk About First Dates @TheDiaryOfACEO

so there's a really fascinating study

that looked at first dates on Bridges so

one Bridge is a stone bridge one Bridge

is a rickety wooden bridge that's wobbly

and what the study found is that when

you have a date on a stone bridge people

feel less attracted to each other than

when you're on a rickety bridge now

what's the difference on the rickety

bridge I'm a little bit scared and

you're a little bit scared what really

the the foundation of romantic

attraction is actually empathic

resonance when I feel the same things

that you feel when we both feel it

doesn't even have to be good it can be

negative things it can be good things we

just need to both be feeling the same

thing that's what creates attraction

this is also why people fall in love in

rehab like literally at the rehabs that

I've worked at like we have to like

almost have a rule right we can't

technically control them but we're like

hey no in rehab because people

will trauma Bond right we're sharing all

of this deep emotional stuff you can be

honest you can be authentic and there's

someone else in the group who's also

honest and authentic and you feel

connected what is the nature of that

connection it's shared empathic

resonance