Likeable but Stuck | Why Warm People Don’t Always Succeed | Vanessa Van Edwards #shorts #podcast

people who are sending lots of warmth

cues they're seen as friendly

trustworthy likable compassionate but

not that smart not that capable MH not

that powerful they're often interrupted

so highly warm people have this problem

where um people always come to them for

their life for like advice and their

life story like highly warm people are

constantly sitting in the corner of the

room and someone's like verbal vomiting

all over them that is a highly warm

person because they are sending off

signals of open to me open up to me tell

me everything so people constantly seek

them out and verbal all over them but

don't take them seriously forget having

met them before forget their names so

highly warm people are super liked in

the office but when they want to get a

raise or promotion they're looked over

wow highly warmed people are yeah she's

nice but they wouldn't have you on their

team they wouldn't buy from you they

wouldn't come to you for really

important advice highly warm people also

struggle with being people Pleasers and

that's because highly warm people the

reason they're sending those cues like

from a psychological perspective is

there's two desires that we have as

humans to be liked and to be respected

people who are highly warm have been

taught whether that's socially or from

their parents that being liked is more

important than being respected and so

what can happen is they say yes too much

they

overcommit and so people highly warm

people I always joke that if you have a

highly warm friend you know you have a

highly warm friend if um they always say

yes then cancel the last minute