24 Things I Wish I Knew Sooner Before 24

If you're in your early 20s, you have no

idea what you're doing, and it seems

like everyone else has their life

together, congratulations. We are the

same. No, but seriously, I just turned

24, and I can literally feel my frontal

lobe developing. And it got me thinking,

why aren't people more real on the

internet? Like, why has it taken me 24

years to learn these lessons the hard

way? So, as your internet big sis, I'm

going to give you the life secrets I

wish someone had told me when I was 18.

If you're feeling lost in your career,

relationships, health, and personal

life, stick with me because what I'm

about to share with you has cost me

blood, sweat, and tears, and I don't

want that for you. So, here we go. This

is 24 years worth of knowledge I wish I

knew sooner. Number one, you are always

in the driver's seat. You have always

had 100% control of your life, but it

doesn't feel like that sometimes because

you blame other people or things for

your outcomes. It's your parents' fault,

your school's fault, your boss's fault.

But here's the reality. Where you are

right now and how you feel is 100% your

fault. You have always had the power to

make a change or turn your life around.

You've never needed to wait for

permission. But that's the narrative

you've been telling yourself. You are

not a victim. You are not weak. You are

not incapable. Stop letting other people

take the wheel. Steer your own ship.

Number two, no one is coming to save

you. When I was younger, I would often

look to other people to tell me the

answer. I would ask my mom, "What should

I do?" Ask my friends what should I do?

Ask my boyfriend what should I do. I

tried to find solutions everywhere else

because I didn't trust myself to make

good decisions. And a lot of that comes

from childhood and people telling me

what they think is best for my life. But

no matter how good someone else's advice

is, they will never be you. So if you're

waiting around hoping that an answer or

a solution is going to fall into your

lap, it won't. You are the solution to

your own problems. You can ask as many

people as you want for their opinions,

but at the end of the day, it doesn't

matter because you have to do what's

best for you. Number three, don't rely

on a man. Build up your own wealth.

Girls, do not listen to these women on

social media telling you to marry the

rich guy because they're going to

provide for you. Being a sugar baby is

just a glorified escort. I don't know

about you, but I want to marry the guy

I'm actually in love with, not the one

who just pays for my dinner and treats

me like trash. But even if you have a

good guy who says he loves you and he'll

take care of you, you still need to

build up your own wealth. Do not give up

your status in the relationship. Money

is power. In the real world, whoever has

the most capital and assets has the most

influence. So, empower yourself and make

your own living. Yes, your man can still

pay for your dinner and treat you like a

princess, as he should, but you don't

know what the future's going to look

like. Something could happen. He could

lose everything. And if you have a

backup plan, you'll be able to cover

yourself, no problem. Number four, take

your supplements. This year, I have

taken huge measures for my nutrition and

energy because girl, it is not normal to

be tired all the time. Like, don't just

accept being exhausted. Fatigue is

really just a symptom of an underlying

issue. And usually, it's because you

have nutritional deficiencies. So, do

the blood work. Figure out what you're

lacking and supplement. The food we eat

is not as nutrientdense as it used to

be. Most of our food these days is

ultrarocessed, full of random chemicals,

and even the soil our plants are grown

in is depleted because of industrial

agriculture. So, everyone should really

be supplementing to compensate. I'm

talking vitamin D, zinc, magnesium,

vitamin B complex. Start with those.

Number five, nothing is ever what it

seems on the outside. Listen, if you are

still being fooled by social media, wake

up. But I'm not talking about the AI

videos because I still get fooled by

those. I'm talking about the aesthetics.

90% of what you see is not reality. As

an influencer, I will tell you straight

up that it's an influencer's job to make

their life appear a certain way. Money

is involved. Brands are involved. So, a

lot of what you see is being monetized.

Now, I'm not saying that every content

creator is faking their life, but just

realize that social media is not 100%

accurate. Things are precisely curated

for your consumption, so just stay

informed. Number six, consistency trumps

speed. Would you rather get a million

dollars right now or get one penny that

doubles every day for a month? Most

people would pick the million dollars,

but if you chose the penny, you'd

actually end up with $5 million by day

30. That is the power of small

consistent actions stacking over time.

So, if you want major long- lasting

results, you have to be willing to put

in years of work. The actions you do

today won't have a visible effect

tomorrow, but they will compound over

time, meaning that the rate of growth is

only going to go up. So get used to the

delayed gratification of your efforts

because everything amazing in this world

happens with time. Number seven,

insecurity has nothing to do with other

people and everything to do with you.

Social media is not the reason you're

insecure. Your friends are not the

reason you're insecure. Your parents are

not the reason you're insecure. You are

the reason. When you experience feelings

of insecurity from something external,

it's not that the thing made you

insecure. It's only reflecting how you

feel about yourself. Stop blaming the

influencers. Stop blaming the media. You

have to accept that you are the reason

you feel this way. Listen, I struggled

for a long time with my own insecurities

and childhood traumas. And I thought it

was something I could just figure out on

my own. But my biggest hurdle was not

having the right tools or knowledge to

move forward. So a year ago, I started

going to therapy. And it has been the

biggest eye opener for me. Therapy

literally changed the way I see myself

and my emotions. And I have just become

so self-aware because of the immediate

feedback that therapy offers. But I know

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therapy. Number eight, bloating and gut

issues are not normal. I see so many

people on social media say, "Hot giries

have gut issues. Hot girls have stomach

problems."

>> And I'm sad to say that I fell for that

propaganda because I had all the

symptoms of gut dispiosis, which

basically means the bacteria in your

stomach is all out of whack. I had

chronic bloating after every meal, the

worst fatigue and brain fog, depression

and anxiety, poor sleep, and random skin

breakouts. So this year I finally saw a

functional practitioner and got all the

blood work and labs done and we

discovered that I am actually gluten

sensitive and that I had a candida

overgrowth which is basically a yeast

that kind of lives in your stomach. So I

did a whole cleanse, cleaned up my diet

and really started prioritizing my

health. It wasn't overnight, but a few

months later I feel like my symptoms

have definitely improved, especially the

bloating. I just hate that bodily

dysfunction is like the new normal

because you don't have to live in pain

and discomfort. So get the testing done

and put your health first because that

is the best investment you can make.

Number nine, struggle is guaranteed. We

all know that challenges are inevitable

in this life. Yet so many of us are

terrified of them and let it control our

lives. But when you know something is a

constant, wouldn't you just accept it?

Like wouldn't you just carry on living

your life? So then why are we so scared

of pain? You are going to struggle no

matter what. There will be hard times

that are going to push you, but it

doesn't mean you're alone or that you

have to pause your life for them. Number

10, be vocal. I actually grew up on the

quiet side. I didn't like to be super

bold or loud. And unfortunately, that

made me very meek as I grew up. But what

I came to realize is that nothing good

can happen to me if my mouth is closed.

Every single opportunity I've received

was because I opened my mouth and asked.

You need to tell people what you need.

Don't be afraid of asking people for

stuff. Tell people about your wins, what

you're working on. They might have a

crazy connection for you or a resource

you didn't know about. People genuinely

want to help other people, so speak up.

Number 11, people will doubt you. It

doesn't mean you should listen to them.

Here's a hard truth. You value other

people's opinions more than your own.

When I started making videos, I got a

lot of concerns from other people

because when you're pursuing an

unconventional path, you will get

criticism. People are scared of the

things they don't understand. It's

normal. But this is why very few people

are successful. When most people get

doubt from others, they then start to

doubt themselves. But you have to

realize other people's fears have zero

to do with you. They're only scared

because they themselves could not

imagine doing what you're doing. So just

because people doubt you doesn't mean

you should listen to them. Fears are

simply just fears. They aren't reality.

Number 12, clean up your sleep hygiene.

When I tell you an eye mask, earplugs,

and mouth tape can do wonders for you. I

will throw up screenshots of what my

sleep quality used to look like because

it was atrocious. For some reason, I

would always wake up early, even if I

went to bed late. I always woke up more

tired, and I never felt like I hit that

deep sleep. I was also always woken up

by some sort of noise or light in my

room. So, when I finally took my sleep

seriously and got all the stuff, my

sleep quality improved so much. Not

going to lie though, I look kind of

crazy in bed, but I honestly couldn't

care because I don't play about my

sleep. Number 13, you are not an

inconvenience. One of my biggest pet

peeves is people who say sorry

constantly because that used to be me.

When you do that, you're actually making

yourself look worse. Nobody respects

people who don't respect themselves. You

don't need to be sorry for your values,

your preferences. If you want something,

want it. You don't need to be sorry

about it. Don't be sorry for taking up

space. You have a right to exist just

like everyone else. Do not accommodate

more than you have to. And I'm kind of

talking to myself right now because I

used to shrink myself down. But now I am

just unapologetic about what I need and

what I want because I am not an

inconvenience and neither are you.

Number 14, invest in higher quality

basics. Stop buying cheap clothes. It's

bad for the environment and your wallet

when you have to buy the same shirt five

times. Buy nice things once and wear

them forever. Higher quality clothing

feels good, is better for the skin, and

it'll last you much longer. Also, basics

never go out of style. You will always

look trendy. So, if you need some to

invest in right now, good jeans, good

cardigans, good cotton t-shirts, and

good coats. Number 15, you don't need so

much stuff, put the credit card down.

Material things are not going to make

you happier. They will for 5 minutes,

and then you're just going to revert

back to your natural emotional state.

Like, why did we stop sleeping on

things? You will save yourself so much

money if you just slept on it before

buying right away. Make a note of it.

Wait a few days or a few weeks and

decide if it's something you still

really want. Stop buying impulsively

from a former impulsive shopper. Number

16. You and your relationships will go

through seasons, and that's normal. You

are not going to be crazy in love with

your partner every day of the year.

There might be a period where you guys

don't really like each other, and that's

okay. Feeling in love with someone is

very different than unconditional love.

You will not always feel in love with

your partner, but it doesn't mean you

need to break up with them or that

something's wrong. It's the

unconditional love you have for each

other that will sustain the relationship

for years and years. Number 17, you

don't need all that skinare. You don't

need the new serum, the new moisturizer,

or all the fancy facial devices. Stop

using 20 products in one routine. Your

skin is beautiful just the way it is.

And you applying all these active

ingredients on your face is actually

making you break out more. When I

damaged my skin barrier last year, I

have never felt more insecure in my

life. But it all could have been

prevented if I just chilled out on the

acids. So stop overloading your skin

with chemicals because I promise it will

heal itself with time. Number 18, the

quality of time you spend with someone

matters more than the quantity. You

don't need to see your best friends

every week or even every month. Like I

probably see my closest friends maybe

once a quarter or a couple times a year,

but that doesn't mean we don't have a

good relationship. The quality of time

you guys share together matters way more

than how often you see them. And that's

just the reality of getting older. Like

it is so much harder to see your friends

and family all the time. So just be

present with them. Stay off your phone

and enjoy the moment. Number 19. The

challenges you're facing now are shaping

you for the future. As a kid, I always

used to wonder why do bad things happen

to good people? Because younger Allison

truly didn't believe that good people

should suffer. But what I've learned

after going through lots of suffering

myself is that the kindest, sweetest,

most grateful people are the ones who

suffered the most. And it's through the

suffering that you gain such a deeper

perspective on life. I think moderate

amounts of suffering is necessary for

everyone because it shapes how you see

the world so that you can make it a

better place. Had I not gone through all

the challenges in my life, I wouldn't

have the empathy or compassion or

gratitude I have today. Also, I think

pain just makes you a lot funnier, like

I think I have a really good personality

because you know that character

development. Number 20, be more mindful

of what you're putting in and on your

body. As you can see, your girl has been

in her wellness era. And again, this all

started because of this health journey

I've been on. And after doing my cleanse

and working through my gut issues, I was

like, well, since I'm already here, what

other areas of my life can I improve?

And I realized that my health isn't just

affected by the foods I eat, but also by

the things I expose myself to. And this

is what I am so so passionate about

because I don't hear anyone else talking

about this on the internet. Your

self-care and beauty products are a huge

offender for toxins and harmful

chemicals. I mean, when I tell you I was

floored by how many of my products

contained cancerous ingredients,

aminotoxins, endocrine disruptors. So, I

started looking up all my products on

the environmental working group, which

essentially is a huge database that

checks if your products are safe. And

so, I started researching and buying

some cleaner alternatives, and it has

actually changed my life. Like, I was so

shocked by how these ingredients

affected my body. Like, the brain fog,

the fatigue, the anxiety, all of that

improved when I switched out my

products. So, my message for you,

especially if you're a woman, be careful

about what you're putting on your skin.

Your skin is the largest organ in your

body, and what you put on top of it will

be absorbed. So, if it's not safe enough

to eat, you shouldn't be putting it on

your skin. Number 21, alcohol is not a

requirement to be a fun person. This is

so embarrassing, but like my whole life,

I always wanted to be cool, and alcohol

is one of those things everyone thinks

is cool. I know I look young for my age,

but I looked even younger back then, and

I always felt like people didn't take me

seriously. So, I wanted to do all the

older people stuff to be included. I was

not an alcoholic by any means, but I

definitely took it a bit too far in

college, and I wasted so much time,

money, and energy on drinking and

clubbing. But now, I realize you don't

need alcohol to have a good time. You

don't need anything to have a good time,

just yourself. I don't care what anybody

says. I don't care what your friends

think. Alcohol does not make you a fun

person. You make yourself a fun person.

You can be the funnest person in the

room and still be sober. This is just a

limiting belief you need to break.

Besides all of that, alcohol is a major

toxin and has so many negative effects

on your health and your skin. So, I just

stay away from it as much as possible.

Like, my life is great. I don't need

alcohol to prove that. Number 22, listen

to the people who have the results you

want. Similar to my point of not

believing other people's doubts, you

should also be careful of listening to

other people with different outcomes.

Like, you're not going to take weight

loss advice from someone who's

overweight, right? So, why would you do

the same when it comes to your career,

your relationships, your personal life?

When your friends or your parents or

your teachers give you advice, they're

only speaking from their personal

experience. And I'm only telling you

things based on my experience. Like,

don't just blindly trust me. Really ask

yourself if this applies to your life.

If your friends don't have the life you

want, don't take their advice. Instead,

seek mentorship from people who have

what you want. They actually have proof

that they can help you because they've

already done it themselves. But bottom

line, take advice with a grain of salt.

Number 23, a life lived in fear is

wasteful. When I was younger, I was

afraid of a lot of stuff. Afraid of the

dark, afraid of getting physically hurt,

afraid of what people were going to say.

I just didn't like to take risks. I

wanted to feel safe and comfortable all

the time. But leading your life with

fear is not truly living. Like what are

you so afraid of? No, seriously, like

what are you so scared of? Every fear is

rooted in the unknown of the future. And

we will never know what the future looks

like. So why the heck are we spending so

much time thinking about it? 99% of the

fears you have will never come true. So

stop giving them power. Do not waste

your life thinking about what could

happen. Instead, live your life doing

what you want to happen. Number 24. Big

risks yield bigger rewards. Again, I

used to not like taking big risks. Big

risks are scary. Big risks require

bigger decisions and I hate making big

decisions. But when I think back to

every decision I made in my life, all of

them involved some form of risk. And

this is the whole principle of

opportunity cost. When you choose one

thing, you have to reject another thing.

When I chose to be a competitive figure

skater, I had to reject having time on

the weekends. When I chose to go to

college in LA, I had to reject living in

another big city. But taking bigger

risks often leads to bigger rewards.

Maybe not right away, but over time. So

when I decided to pursue YouTube 2 and

1/2 years ago, at the time it seemed

like a small decision, but it was

actually a major one. I was basically

saying no to a traditional career path,

one that could bring more stability,

more financial security, and faster

results. But because I took such a big

risk in myself, I am now reaping the

best rewards from it. Did I know I would

end up here? Absolutely not. I had no

idea what a content creator was or what

it looked like. But I knew the outcome

was something I wanted for myself. So,

if you've made it this far, take the

bigger risk. Take the leap of faith. You

will get so much more out of life when

you make bold choices that are authentic

to you. I am so incredibly grateful for

all of you who've been with me since the

beginning. And for all the new people

here, thank you so much for 100K. We've

definitely come a long way, but none of

it would have been possible without all

the support and encouragement you've

shown me throughout the years. If you

like this video, then please give it a

like and send it to someone who needs to

hear it because this is how the truth

spreads. I'm so grateful for all of you

and I'm so so proud of you. Thanks for

watching and I'll see you in the next

one. Bye.