Master Level Game: Why You CAN NOT Be Romantic | Emotional Longing & Over Achievers

Emotionally immature parents hate to see

you rest. You resting, relaxing,

enjoying your life triggers in them a

deep envy. And this is why you can't

rest today. Because every time you sat

down, you were made to get back up.

Every time you dared to sleep in, they

were slamming the vacuum in your room at

6:00 a.m. out of resentment and

punishment. They saw something in you

that they felt the need to destroy it.

And that is your ability to feel

entitled to ease and to peace. That is

what malignant envy does. It doesn't

make them want what you have. They are

not thinking I wish I could rest. They

are thinking I need to make sure that

you can't.

>> Ooh, this is going to be a good one. In

my last video, fellas, I told you guys

that your desire to be better than

[music] everybody else isn't rooted in

ambition. It is rooted in the control

and abuse mechanisms [music] you were

subjected to throughout your childhood.

I told you guys that the reason why you

believe that you have to be outstanding,

exceptional, and superior to everybody

else is because you was absolutely not

allowed to be normal or ordinary.

Nothing to do with ambition, nothing to

do with excellence. You was absolutely

not allowed to be average. absolutely

not allowed to simply exist, rest, think

for yourself, or achieve

self-actualization.

Not even regulation. Because a regulated

little boy is a little boy who won't

have a deep desire to prove himself

worthy. And that is unacceptable.

You was raised to be a human doing,

[music] an employee, a slave, a

consumer, a husband, not a human being.

Only the nobility get to just be. You

was raised [music] to do. And what is so

dark about this is that you believe you

have to be outstanding to fit in. I'll

say that again. [music] You believe you

have to be outstanding to simply fit in,

not outstanding to outstand everybody

else. You pathologically believe you

have to become a mountain in order to be

recognized as good enough amongst the

hills. If you're an overachiever, the

quality of your life is determined by

how you answer the following question.

[music] What's actually driving you?

Because I think most overachievers are

being driven by something that they

[music] don't fully understand. I call

it dirty fuel. Dirty fuel is the chip on

your shoulder. It's the voice [music]

that says, "Fuck you. I will prove you

wrong." It's powerful. In fact, it's

usually what creates ambitious [music]

people in the first place. But it comes

with a cost because it's kind of like

putting rocket fuel in a car engine. The

acceleration is incredible, but slowly

the engine pays the price. Because

underneath all of the work ethic and the

discipline, [music] that fuel is fear.

Usually a subconscious fear that says if

I don't achieve X, then I am not worthy

of [music] Y. X might be money, status,

recognition, success. And Y is usually

something much deeper like love,

respect, belonging, peace. This is a

inferiority complex.

This is low value. And it's very sad

when you think about it. This is what I

call echoes of control and abuse. You

believe you have to be exceptional to be

accepted. And it's a sickness of the

mind when you think about it. You

believe that you have to be

extraordinary

in order to be treated ordinarily. And

because of this, you have no real

friends,

no real holes, and no real connections.

Maybe. Think about it. You truly believe

that in order to be accepted by others,

you must be superior to others. So,

psychologically, you have been set up in

a way where you are unable to see others

as equals. even the people you love,

even the people you like, because you

believe you have to be better than them

to be accepted by them.

Think about all of the

issues

that would come with

being set up like that and you are

confused as to why everybody gravitates

away from you.

>> So boom, some people will never want to

see you as an equal for whatever reason.

They think they're more deserving than

you. In their minds, there is a social

hierarchy. Wherever they're placed, they

see you as beneath them and they will

expect certain benefits because of this.

It gets ingrained into their egos and

how they perceive reality. That you must

cater to them and validate them. That

you must be a people pleaser and break

down your boundaries for them. If you

stand up to them, treat them as an

equal, say no to them or establish

boundaries, they will get reactive.

Their egos will feel challenged. They'll

get defensive and treat you as the

[music] problem when really it's the

fact that they see you as less than

them. You refuse to feel inferior to

others because this means to you that

you aren't good enough or worthy of

anything. But you cannot see yourself as

equals to others because this means to

you that you will have to see yourself

and accept yourself as normal,

ordinary, average. And this is a

function that has been abused out of

you. Like think about it. You actually

was not allowed to be normal or average.

>> They see you as beneath them. So they

think self-respect is hostility towards

them rather than simply [music] asking

for respectful treatment. You should

treat everyone as an equal. You'll find

those who do the same. You'll also

filter out those who want you to be

beneath them. They are not people you

want in your life anyways. The people

they worship and idolize may see you as

an equal. Everyone's perception of

reality is different. Find those who

align with yours. Unable to actually

generate true connections with other

people's because in order to generate a

true connection, bond, and trust with

another person, you both have to see

each other as as equals.

And this may have worked when you was a

child in school with your parents, but

as an adult in a free world, this does

not work. As I said, you will literally

have nothing in this life, not be able

to have people around you, or you'll be

forced to dominate people in order to

have people around you. When nobody is

attracted to you romantically or

platonically, you tell yourself that it

is because they are jealous. And maybe

they are. We live in an incredibly

jealous world. But this becomes the fate

and the prophecy

for this man. For the man who believes

he has to become a mountain to be

accepted by the hills. When he hears one

of the hills doing well, he cannot have

this internally or externally as the

other hill's success threatens to

destabilize his false and contrived

feelings of superiority. And any friend

that has to feel superior to you in

order to function is no friend.

Any lover that has to feel superior to

you in order to function is no lover.

And any brother that has to feel

superior to you, better than you in

order to function,

is no brother. Remember, this individual

does not believe he has any inherent

value. He's been abused and controlled

into believing that he has to do back

flips, that he has to gestat in order to

receive the same level of acceptance and

treatment as other members of the herd.

But this type of man, the man who turns

into the dominant man, he cannot allow

the successes of the other hills, he

can't allow it because their success

makes him less extraordinary. The more

the people around him

become extraordinary, it makes him look

more ordinary. And remember, as I keep

telling you, he truly believes he has to

be extraordinary to be accepted. This is