First 100 Days: Unf*cking Your Life

my life hit rock bottom about a year ago

for health reasons outside of my control

I couldn't function like a normal human

being I couldn't go outside I could

barely eat and every day consisted of me

running away in my bed in this 8-month

span I lost 20 lbs lost a lot of friends

and as s known as chill my entire life

I've had to learn how to deal with

anxiety attacks I remember my only goal

during this time was to feel normal

again I'm happy to say that after a year

and 93 days I am now kind of recovered

the health issues are still lingering

but for everything that was was in my

control I've done the best I could to

get back to normal the process might

have taken longer but this is how I un

my life in a 100 days step one clean up

your act when your life begins to slip

up I believe that so does your

environment cloes dirty messy workspace

it's as if the physical matches what I

was feeling internally I felt terrible

so I wouldn't take care of myself or my

environment the environment didn't allow

me to change so I felt terrible it was

like an endless loop that dug me further

and further down a hole when I looked in

the mirror I saw someone who couldn't

even take care of their hygiene or their

messy room what life changes was I going

to make not a lot at first so I took it

slow I cleaned my room then I cleaned my

desk I did my laundry I took care of my

hygiene I got some new clothes and guess

what after months of a rock bottom I

felt like I could change step two lessen

the screen usage on average my screen

time was 11 to 13 hours consisted of

watching movies I've already watched

scrolling through the endless social

media and visiting the same four to five

websites over and over again again I

didn't know how to improve my life so I

scrolled when I got guilty I would go to

my desk to try and work but I'd find

some excuse to get back to my phone then

lose another hour it was the first thing

I touched when I woke up it was the last

thing I saw when I fell asleep there

would not be minutes in the day where I

didn't have my phone on me the turning

point was when I realized I did not have

a single original thought in my day

every waking second was listening to

podcasts scrolling social media or

reading stuff online so I knew I had to

change the first thing I did was get two

phones a c phone not that crack not that

one either and the kale phone the crack

phone had every distraction app known to

man The kale phone only had access to

messages and apps to help me live my

life the crack phone I used during my

break and the kale phone was the one I

carried with me but since it had nothing

on it I didn't really use it instead of

bargaining with myself when my willpower

was weak I removed the option completely

now my screen time is around 1 to 2

hours every day step three trying out

healthy habits as a result of isolating

myself away for so long I started to get

anxiety attacks whenever I did anything

social it felt like I couldn't control

my thoughts and I'd continue to spiral

farther and farther until I could go

home and be alone for a couple of hours

I had been feeling things I've never

experienced before and it was extremely

uncomfortable so I tried new things

journaling for 3 Days practicing

gratitude for about a week therapy for 3

months which I think now is a good time

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iOS app first 100 to track your habits

for 100 100 days consistently going to

the gym for 6 months meditation for 9

months never in a million years did I

think that I'd be the type of person to

use therapy but it's been an integral

part of my growth overall as a person

I've experimented with a lot of things

I've cut out the things that haven't

worked and worked ruthlessly on the

things that have had a big impact on my

own life step four figure out what you

want I was starting to get my life back

together but I didn't have a direction

that I was going in if you asked me what

were my goals my answer was still the

same I just wanted to feel like a normal

person again so I spent my days learning

about what I wanted out of life any book

article or video on self-improvement I

scoured to find these three lessons the

first one being that there were only a

few areas of my life that I really cared

about relationships fun career finances

and health the second lesson I took was

how to set goals I set two goals for

each area of My Life One being a ceiling

goal and the other being a floor goal

the ceiling goal being the most

ambitious goal that I would be excited

to hit the floor goal being the bare

minimum that I was looking to achieve

this gave me a buffer between the two

and helped me manage my expectations

while working towards my goals as a

person then came the last lesson I used

to set really big goals until I was

constantly disappointed so I started to

focus on the input and not the output

want to deepen relationships commit to 3

days of dedicated time in the week you

want to have fun spend time on Hobbies

every day want to lift ,000 go to the

gym five times a week I never knew when

the results would arrive so I focus my

best on the inputs instead step five

building your schedule you know what

makes a good life good years a good year

is made from good months a good month is

made from good weeks a good week is made

from good days you get my point I now

had everything in place to start to put

everything into practice I think it was

best summed up here your life is made up

of a series of ordinary Tuesdays figure

out what your ideal normal choose day

looks like because if you can have an

amazing ches day you'll probably have an

amazing life of course life has its

glorious ups and downs but that's maybe

10% of your life I want to optimize for

my own regular Tuesday so this is

currently the day I try to live every

single day career relationships fun

Health finances outside of special

events and vacations my calendar shows

what I prioritize in my life step six

doing what you're saying you're going to

do despite being the biggest part of the

entire 100 days I knew what I had to do

when I had to do it and why I was doing

it you see everything before this was

just preparing and getting in the right

head space to finally tackle the goals

that I said that I would whenever I said

I would do something and I didn't do it

it stopped any moment of progress that I

had and made me lose trust in myself i'

then be consistent with my schedule for

a couple of weeks then mess it up the

cycle happens over and over again I

became confident in my abilities by

doing the same things over and over

again I was building evidence in the

type of person that I wanted to become

and that evidence came through setting

goals achieving them setting goals

achieving them something similar that I

learned through therapy was despite

having all of these Grand Ambitions I

could still be a friend to myself I

wouldn't treat anyone else as harshly as

the way I treated myself I thought it

made me better but it didn't when I

criticized myself I quit things quicker

felt the lows worse and it just was a

net negative to My overall life when I

treated myself better I gave myself more

opportunities I spent longer on projects

and I felt better during the entire

process do what you say you're going to

do but be nice to yourself in the

process step seven consistency over

everything at this point I could finally

look at myself in the mirror my health

still wasn't 100% but it was through the

habits that I was getting better I could

guarantee failure by quitting but by

being consistent it was my only chance I

had at success now I've known this

advice quite early but I wish I could