#1 Brain Neuroscientist: "This Will DELETE Your Old Self!" - How To Manifest Anything You Want

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If someone was to listen to our

conversation today and apply What are

the things you have to say? How would

their life change?

>> I'd like to say that it can and will

change in every single aspect that you

apply it to. I think that and you know

actually one of my students in

Minecraft, she joined a few months ago

and she I asked her I said what do in

which ways do you think that your life

has changed since joining? And she said

every single aspect of her life has

changed. And I think that the principles

that I teach and I coach on and that I

practice, I think they really can be

applied to every single area of your

life. So yeah, I think it just depends

on you and what you choose and what you

intend, right? So it's all about

intention there. And it's like if you

want to apply it to relationships, you

can. Um, but also just being more in

control of your brain. I like to make

the analogy of if you are driving a car

down the road and you don't know how

that car works. If it breaks down, you

don't know how to fix it, you'll be

stuck there, right? And I I have a story

of like my car breaking down. My brother

luckily is a mechanical engineer. Um and

he I called him. He's like, "Oh, pour

water in this one little hole," or

whatever, and I could be on my merry

way, right? I got home safely. But if

you if you don't know how, and the brain

works the same way, right? So, let's say

you're stressed out or you are

overwhelmed or you're struggling to

focus or whatever it is. If you don't

know how your brain works, you might be

stuck, but when you know how your brain

works, you can then use that knowledge

and apply it to whatever area you're

really struggling with. So, that I think

that it really can be applied to many

different areas of your life. Yeah.

>> Yeah. I love that analogy. I've I've had

many a time in my life a car that's

broken down on me, not been a mechanical

engineer and pushed my car up a hill.

And that's what it sometimes feels like

for people. I feel like people feel that

they're fighting against their brain.

They're

>> breaking down their mind. They're trying

to push forward and they just feel

stuck. I feel like so many people

listening right now feel stuck in their

job. They feel stuck in a bad

relationship. they feel stuck looking

for a career. If someone feels stuck,

what do they need to understand about

the brain in order to start the process

to get unstuck? [snorts]

>> Yeah. So, I think that feeling of being

stuck, it's really quite natural when

you think about neuroscience and your

biology. The brain loves to keep you in

what is safe and normal to you. Um, the

brain is also, I like to call it, a

prediction machine. So we don't

necessarily experience reality. We

experience, you know, our brains sort of

filtering everything we see, hear, feel,

touch, but also predicting what's about

to happen. And that's why a lot of

times, you know, we feel like anxious or

whatever it is. It has to do with um the

brain's predicting kind of something

that's upcoming. And so I think that

feeling of being stuck is quite normal

and natural. And I just want to say that

first. But also understanding which area

you're stuck in, right? And I I'm going

to take it an interesting direction

right now, but I like to talk about

procrastination because it's a good

example of feeling stuck, right? So, if

you are you let's say you have a goal

and you're like how like starting a

podcast and you're like, okay, I want to

do it and then you're procrastinating

it, right? So, I always say that there

are three reasons why people

procrastinate. And the first reason is

there's an identity sort of mismatch.

And what I mean by that is that you

don't you like who your sense of self

and who you believe that you are doesn't

match with you working toward the goal

of launching a podcast. Um and this

actually kind of resonated with me

personally whenever I was starting to

write a book. I was procrastinating

writing my book and I was like why am I

doing this? I know it's a goal. I know I

want to do it but I don't know why I'm

procrastinating. Um and the default mode

network in the brain is really what's at

play here. So the default mode network

is really appropriately named because it

kind of helps to regulate and propel our

default mode of behavior, right? So it's

responsible for our default mode of

being and doing. Um but it's also

responsible for our sense of self and

constructing the narrative or the story

of our lives. And so if your sense of

self doesn't match, if your identity

doesn't match whatever it is that you're

trying to do, then your default mode

network is not really going to be

helping you do the behaviors or take the

action toward doing starting a podcast.

And so I always tell my clients, I tell

my students, I tell everyone on social

media, I'm like just identity shift, you

know, like shift your identity. You can

just start to identify as a version of

you who has done the thing. And so

that's kind of the first part of that.

And then the second,

>> let's let's talk about that first one.

That's so interesting. That's so

interesting. And I love the way you

broke down the default mode network

because this identity mismatch that

you're talking about. Are you saying

that if you don't I know you've said

something which I love. You said science

says you have to act like you already

have it.

>> Yeah.

>> Before something can happen.

>> Mhm.

>> Is that what you're saying? That you've

got to feel like I'm already a author.

I'm already a podcaster. How does

someone practically apply that identity

to make sure it's aligned?

>> Right? So, it's really just choosing to

identify as that person, right? And so,

when I say that, you have to act like

you already have it or you like you

already are it in order to do it or be

it. It works the same way. The analogy I

use there is falling asleep at night.

Like when you fall asleep at night, you

lay down, you close your eyes, you slow

your breath, and you pretend like you're

asleep until you fall asleep. And your

brain makes it so. Um, and life works

that way as well. And you have to you

have to act like it and move like it,

right? Like you're not going to become a

drummer in a band unless you act like a

drummer and drummers practice. And so

it's sort of like and and so how do I

apply that like practically? I guess

from my book example, I really just

decided I'm an author. Like from this

moment forward, I'm an author. And I

think a lot of times we don't realize

the power that we have to choose those

sorts of things. And this is another

reason why I tell people to be so

careful about the labels that they use

to identify themselves and the labels

that they put on themselves. And growing

up in my own life, I had so many

different labels put on to me um that I

believed and just kind of allowed to

describe who I was. And that impacted my

life. It impacted my health. It impacted

everything in my world. And so that's

one of the reasons why I'm so passionate

about it. But yeah, and so applying that

practically, a lot of times it really

just looks like choosing to identify as

that version of you. Um, like if I'm

trying to start a podcast, I am a

podcaster and there I am doing it,

right?

>> It's almost like how does an author

behave and let me start practicing that

now? So an author gets up and writes a

page even when they don't feel inspired